Wrote this piece - curious to hear your opinions, and how to possibly expand it further! It's rather crudely written and needs a lot of fine-tuning, but I wanted to test the general gist of what I'm writing.

Society portrays women as being the gender that needs help, that women are vulnerable creatures that need to be protected from all the awful men and their sleazy sexual desires. The Rational Male argues that women are in fact doing really well, but that they don’t necessarily mind this we-need-help-image that they have and the fact that most men don’t understand them because it allows them to get away with doing pretty much anything.

I know that this is true from personal experience – I had zero real female friends until I went to college, so everything that I knew about girls was based on popular media. I had a fairly stubborn image of women being super vulnerable, and I therefore despised the men that often have one night stands with girls and subsequently never text her again. For a while I was dating a girl that seemed to be quite insecure about dating and sex, but at the same time was pretty confident and would always get what she wanted. Basically, whenever she wanted something it was obviously the right choice, and when I wanted something she would often respond in a vulnerable and shy way that would make me change my mind. She knew that I didn’t want to hurt her feelings and as such would never argue past her feeling vulnerable, and it meant that she would always get her way. I chalked it up to women just being odd, inexplicable creatures.

Later in life I learned that all of this was complete bullshit – some women are excellent manipulators that gladly make use of the fact that many men lack insight into the female psyche. The book ‘The Evolution of Desire’ by David Buss describes in great depth the history of male and female sexual strategies. The optimal sexual strategy for men is to sleep with as many women as possible, without committing to exclusive relationships or providing for her. The optimal sexual strategy for women is to secure an Alpha male to father her children and to protect her, and receive provisions from Beta males without having sexual relations with them. For either the male or female sexual strategy to succeed it requires the opposing gender’s strategy to be less successful.

The Rational Male discusses the current state of society and highlights many examples of how men are currently set up to be on the losing end of the sexual gender battle. Society expects men to settle down into monogamous marriages, and they are shamed for any attempt to avoid commitment. ‘Man up!’ the feminists will yell, take your responsibility and do the right thing! But why is this the right thing to do? Getting married means giving a woman control over your sexuality and finances and exposing yourself to divorce and child custody laws that heavily favor women over men. If your sex life goes down the drain, you cannot escape the marriage without facing significant financial consequences.

If physical appearance is the main determinant of how attractive a woman is to a man, the beauty of a woman depreciates after the age of twenty-three, and this decline becomes much steeper after the age of thirty, then why should men be required to marry women that are well beyond their physical peak? This societal norm favors the female sexual strategy while crippling the male sexual strategy.

Would you make a contract for your best friend to sign, stating the rules of your friendship, signing off on remaining friends for the rest of your lives and attaching financial consequences in case of a contract breach? No? Then why the fuck would you do such a thing with a woman that you like spending time with?

A woman approaching her late twenties or early thirties will usually feel a strong need to have children; her biological clock is ticking. Sometimes she will be in a relationship with a man that does not want to have children at that point, because (for example) he is not ready for such a commitment. In some cases her biological need will trump her desire to be truthful, and she ‘accidentally’ becomes pregnant. The man is then expected to ‘pay his dues’ and stay with her, because how big of an asshole would you be if you were to abandon a pregnant woman? Though I don’t doubt that accidental pregnancies do occur even though she is taking the pill, the chances of this happening are very low unless you ‘forget’ to take the pill for more than a few days in a row.

If a man fathers a child with a woman he does not have a committed relationship with, the woman can sue him for child support. It does not matter if the man consented to having children or not; if the child is biologically his, then he must pay. This opens men up to serious liability, as one act of unprotected sex can mean a lifetime of serious consequences. The American National Basketball Association advises its players to always flush their used condoms through the toilet - preventing a woman from impregnating herself with his semen after he leaves. This measure was introduced after several incidents where the players were being sued for child support by women they did not have unprotected sex with. Because these men are very wealthy they make for excellent entrapment targets. Men are portrayed to be vile, sleazy creatures that are unable to contain their awful sexual desires. There is an interesting distinction in how women judge the sexuality of men – if the man is a high-value Alpha male, then his desires and advances are considered masculine, bold, and arousing. If the man is a low-value Beta male, then he is considered creepy, perverted, misogynist and wrong. Think Fifty Shades of Grey. Women do want men to approach them, but only the right men.

In feminism and media, women complain about ‘Toxic Masculinity’. Men age taught from a young age onward that their unrestricted masculinity is wrong, and that they should conform to whatever image feminism currently prefers for the masculine. Boys are taught to not say or do anything that could possibly have the slightest chance of offending the overly vulnerable girls. Boys are taught that their sexuality is wrong, and that men are to apologize for being filthy rapists in general. What the fuck.

Women often complain about the way that men approach them. They are too physical or too forward, they keep talking to her even though she makes every effort to not continue the interaction. Men are such assholes; can’t they just leave me alone? The woman sometimes thinks that the man is aware of all her verbal and non-verbal cues that indicate she doesn’t like him (not keeping the conversation going, looking away from him, physically distancing herself from him, etc.), and that the man keeps bothering her because he is a misogynist asshole with no respect for women. A lot women lack insight into the male psyche in this regard, because the male experience is completely different than that. If a man is not very confident he might rarely ever approach a woman. At times he will see a girl that seems special to him. He musters up all his courage and approaches her – and is nervous and uncomfortable in doing so. The girl instantly picks up on his nervousness from his (lack of) eye contact and rejects him. The man is so caught up in thinking of what to say to her that he doesn’t have any headspace left to notice the subtler elements of the interaction, and thus misses her cues.

Most guys are fucking clueless when it comes to women. They have little control over their dating lives – men that are highly Beta can often obsess over the same woman for months or even years out of a sheer lack of other options available to them. Men have responded to this by creating an industry around dating: the pick-up artists. Many women are appalled by the thought of men going out to pick up girls, and the feminists will readily vilify anyone that dares to step in to this world, even though it can teach a man many life skills that he would perhaps never have learned otherwise. Going out and approaching women will benefit you in a whole range of ways: make you much more confident, allow you to recognize which women have a romantic interest in you, teach you to be clear in your intent instead of friend-zoning yourself, allow you to recognize what types of personalities people have, teach you how to socialize with anyone, teach you to recognize when your actions make someone uncomfortable - so you can back off, teach you to read all the little details that are present in the sub communication layers of the interaction, teach you to remove all internal barriers you have to expressing yourself fully authentically, teach you how to take charge of an interaction and move it forward when appropriate, teach you how to meet a girl and keep her around, etc. It is hard for most women to really understand just how bad the average man is at these things, as women have repeatedly dealt with being approached by men since they were late teenagers and as such they usually don’t have to learn that much about interacting with men.

But if the pick-up industry is so evil and wrong, which other alternatives do men have? So many men out there are currently completely frustrated with their lack of a sex life. Calling them misogynist, sexist pigs does not exactly help the situation, as they are experiencing a lack of something that is very much a basic human right. A man with little social skills and not much past experience with women can go years without having sex, as meeting women is something that he does not have conscious control over. Women usually don’t give men feedback on their interactions, but rather say something non-threatening like “I have a boyfriend” to make him leave, so that he will leave without further argument, and so the man never receives feedback on his method of approaching. Men can go years without improving much in this regard. It would be great if socializing and male/female interaction dynamics were mandatory subjects in high school, or if women actually gave men useful feedback such as you seem nervous, you don’t look me in the eye, I just subtly tried to end this conversation three times but you’re still here, you’re touching me more than I feel comfortable with, I’m here with colleagues so don’t try kiss me in this bar, I was attracted to you until you started talking about your ex.

Sometimes a man will present himself to a woman as an Alpha male, and over the course of the interaction the woman determines him to be a Beta male. The woman will often end the interaction right there. This might happen a few seconds into the interaction, but it could also take her years to figure it out. Based on the sub communications of the initial interaction (his eye contact, how laidback he is, if he seems needy, etc.) she will form an image of his value. She might test him or pull away her attention to gauge his reaction, because how he responds to it will tell her much more about him than the words he is saying do.

In a seriously overgeneralized rant, women love Alpha males and hate Beta males. They don’t care about giving the Beta males feedback, it’s not their problem. If they enjoy single life for too long and wait until past their thirties to find a man to settle down with, they will likely end up marrying one of these Beta males. Some of them don’t mind the fact that Beta males exist – these are gladly used as providers. But by allowing Beta males to remain Beta a lot of women will inevitably end up marrying a Beta – this is in no one’s best interest. Feminism perpetually attempts to restrict men in their sexuality and power in every conceivable way, basically molding men into big fat Betas from the moment they are born. Their quest is further supported by an army of ‘White Knights’, men that are so lost in their feminine conditioning that they defend it with all their heart (I’m not like those other men, I’m a nice guy™!). Then the women wonder, where have all the real men gone? Why have men become such spineless pussies? Well, go figure…

To make a long story short: many facets of our current society are currently set up to promote the female sexual strategy and to restrict the male sexual strategy. This does not actually help women as most women innately want a strong Alpha male to draw them into his world, but a lot of them end up marrying easily controllable Beta males that make their labia’s shrivel in disgust. Modern day feminism is not a righteous crusade for equality; it is the female sexual strategy hidden in a Trojan horse of political correctness. Instead of pointlessly demonizing masculinity and inciting women to hate on men, feminists could strive to give men better insight into the female experience, and give women better insight into the male experience. Stop telling men that their sexuality is something awful; educate them on the female psyche, social interactions, and the physical signs of consent and non-consent instead. The world would be a much better place.