I suppose it's time for our yearly reminder of what these terms mean, since TRP has the memory of a goldfish. The topic came up here but I thought it would be good to post a review at the top of the forum for all to see.
Alpha is the most misused word on this forum. It's a word meant to describe traits that are attractive to women and satisfy her alpha desires.
Women also seek out beta behaviors. A man who can satisfy both without losing balance is considered the ultimate catch for women.
The big problem is, women tend to grind away at men to bring down the alpha qualities, or test their mettle. They believe they want more beta qualities rather than alpha qualities. This would be a mistake if you fall for this shit test. If you do, you will quickly learn she's on her way to the next branch. This gives men here the impression that beta is all to be avoided.
An example: a father who leads the family and brings home the bacon, is fit, and knows when to say no to his wife. Notice there are a number of alpha traits here, such as fitness and saying no. But buying a house, or feeding your family? Beta traits. Does that make this man "beta" or "alpha" or does this show that these terms are meaningless in this context?
/u/rollo-tomassi suggests to err on the side of alpha. Displaying too many alpha traits is a safer bet than too many beta traits. He even suggests not even considering striking a balance, I suspect because he believes the beta side of things is too easy and natural to men that it will shine through anyhow.
But nevertheless, do not mistake these terms for descriptors of a whole person.
Some people here make shorthand of it to suggest an "alpha" is simply one whose alpha traits outnumber their beta traits. But as you can see, it leads to confusion like this post here.. If you see this shorthand, do not forget what it stands for. If you use it, use it properly. If you're new here, read our glossary in the side bar.