I was looking up the odds of finding the one and the math of finding someone. If you take boston for instance, with about 200k people our age, 1/3rd of them single, 1/2 of them males, that only leaves about 30k single men.
Is it fair to say I'm only attracted to about 1/10th of guys? That's 3k.
So that's saying the only standard you have is attraction. Theres only 3000 eligible bachelors in a giant city like Boston. Based off attraction, availability, and gender.
But what about other stuff? Are they educated? Do they have the same goals(travel, career, children)? Are they decent people(tip servers well, treat their mothers with respect, not abusive assholes)? Are they intelligent, emotionally available? Do they like going out or are they homebodies? What about political stance?
I feel panicked
EDIT: I dont know if I'm only attracted to 1 in 10. I just guessed that number based off how many guys I swipe on tinder and how many guys I am interested in pursuing at bars/clubs. Could be 1 in 5 or 1 in 3 or 1 in 15. Its a hard thing to calculate. No one finds everyone attractive.
EDIT: thank you for all the advice! Lots of "lower your standards" and "stop being shallow" but also a lot of helpful, awesome stories and advice that has made me feel more okay with it!
I think I've decided to just become my own soulmate and act as though finding the one is impossible, because logistically it seems that way. As many of you have stated, love isnt logical, but unfortunately I am.
But I'll also try to believe in magic and keep an open mind, but until then, I love me and that's enough.
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[–]TheBrokenSigil1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
even says she likes 1 in 10 men LOL
[–]Marque019 points10 points11 points (3 children) | Copy Link
Another millennial that just hit the wall :)
[–]rigbed[S] 8 points9 points10 points (1 child) | Copy Link
She’s 22!
[–]Marque019 points10 points11 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Hahaha. That's even funnier
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Are you revelling in someone else's misery? You some kind of sadist.
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Wow this is new...........
[–]panzerbier5 points6 points7 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Zero self-awareness. A guy who tips servers well, treats his mother with respect, is not an abusive asshole, and is intelligent and emotionally available will make this thot drier than the Sahara.
Not only is she searching way out of her league (top 10%) - when she by a miracle finds someone matching her description, she'll realize that her hole is not tingling.
I pity these creatures, I really do.
[–]rigbed[S] 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s why she’s batting for beyond models
[–]TheObelisk2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Their own preferences ensure a lonely life. Ironic really.
[–]CiceroVoltaire1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Here, hold my beer...
/s
[–]escalover1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Well let's see. So she's only attracted to 1/10 of guys (probably based on height, since 10% of men are 6' or taller). But let's see, based on education? Probably wants a man with a Masters which is about 22% of men in Boston.
She probably wants a man with money, based on her goals (travel, career), so maybe something like 50k-100k/yr, since that's what I have data on for Boston. Well that narrows it down further to like 24% of men.
Now, this is where it gets a little tricky because we have one group of men (6' tall) at 10% of the population, another group of men (Masters degree) at 22% of the population, and a third group (50k-100k/yr) at 24% of the population - and a man can occupy all 3 groups (or 2, or 1). So it would be the probability of 6' tall (x) the probability of Masters (x) the probability of income. So .1 (x) .22 (x) .24 = 0.00528, or 15.84 men out of 3,000.
She has a dating pool of 15 men.
EDIT: Her comments indicate she is an "environmental engineer". In Boston, environmental engineers earn an average base pay of 75k/yr. So based on that, she would want a man earning as much or more. 6% of people earn 100k/yr in Boston so her dating pool is actually 4 men.
Also from her comments:
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That last one was the kicker.
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Notice she never thought to mention one thing that she could do to attract that unicorn dude she's looking for.
[–]AeternusDoleo1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
She's missing a critical extra: Why would the man who meets all those criteria settle for her? What does she have that 3000+ other eligible bachelorettes do not? But I suppose the "what do I have to offer this special guy" aspect never crossed her mind.
*heavy sigh* The future is feline...
[–]Lawuhiku0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't really care about what the fuck she expects from a man I just skimmed through the text and found no sign of anything about what she could offer to a man.
Interesting. It must be fault of statistics, yes, let's look into the math, and statistics, not ourselves!