My (20M) Gf's (19F) constant complaints are driving me insane

57 points31 commentssubmitted by tyjobo666 to r/relationship_advice

I consider myself a pretty patient guy and I can tolerate quite a lot before I reach a breaking point but it's gotten so bad. Every other sentence is something about how she "feels wrong" or her stomach hurts, or her back hurts or she doesn't feel like herself. 9/10 times I calmly tell her everything is fine and just let her rant but a guy can only take so much. Just this morning she didn't even say hey or how are you, just immediately started talking about how a dream that she doesn't even fucking remember made her feel bad and the very next sentence was about how her stomach hurts. Every other day she has a whole panicky episode over absolutely nothing. I've tried telling her about it and even she admits she's fully aware of it and that she'll try harder but she doesn't try at all. I can't even complain about anything cause she doesn't know how to ever help cause she's never been on the receiving end of the complaining. I hate to say it but sometimes it makes me resent her. Shes always so miserable and acts like her life is absolute shit when she has it better than I ever did growing up. I just want her to be happy but she's never happy. I don't know what to even do anymore.

Edit: I don't mean to make her sound like this selfish person, she really is caring and supportive, and all in all a wonderful girlfriend, and we've had no other problems in our 4 years of being together. I just need help in finding ways to calm myself down because I get so frustrated with it sometimes, or ways to express how her complaining makes me feel without sounding like a jerk