I consider myself a pretty patient guy and I can tolerate quite a lot before I reach a breaking point but it's gotten so bad. Every other sentence is something about how she "feels wrong" or her stomach hurts, or her back hurts or she doesn't feel like herself. 9/10 times I calmly tell her everything is fine and just let her rant but a guy can only take so much. Just this morning she didn't even say hey or how are you, just immediately started talking about how a dream that she doesn't even fucking remember made her feel bad and the very next sentence was about how her stomach hurts. Every other day she has a whole panicky episode over absolutely nothing. I've tried telling her about it and even she admits she's fully aware of it and that she'll try harder but she doesn't try at all. I can't even complain about anything cause she doesn't know how to ever help cause she's never been on the receiving end of the complaining. I hate to say it but sometimes it makes me resent her. Shes always so miserable and acts like her life is absolute shit when she has it better than I ever did growing up. I just want her to be happy but she's never happy. I don't know what to even do anymore.
Edit: I don't mean to make her sound like this selfish person, she really is caring and supportive, and all in all a wonderful girlfriend, and we've had no other problems in our 4 years of being together. I just need help in finding ways to calm myself down because I get so frustrated with it sometimes, or ways to express how her complaining makes me feel without sounding like a jerk
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[–]CpuDoc675 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
A sea of red flags.
[–]8017356 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Pay for shitty dates, win "mandatory" custody of vaginated femshit.
[–]Tonyb335 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
she'll try harder but she doesn't try at all.
she doesn't know how to ever help cause she's never been on the receiving end of the complaining.
I don't mean to make her sound like this selfish person, she really is caring and supportive
What two things are not like the other thing?
Women shit test men like men test cars, men want to see how fast they go, how they handle, how they break.
Women test men to see how much they can provide, how supportive they will be, and how much stress they can take, the more that you do the more shit they will provide, it’s a test to see your performance, the severity of the test will rise to meet your competence, once that is established they will then look around to see if anyone can do better. These tests are common in the animal world, female eagles will throw sticks to prospective mates to see how dexterous they are.
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"Help her, get help. Help her find something like a therapist or meditation or exercise."
Get her a fucking teddy-bear....a goodbye teddy-bear.
[–]53withtrollhair[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup
[–]kruggerand0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
You will never change her behaviour by reasoning with her. Accept it or break up. The latter is the smart move.
[–]Rolfenstien0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro this happened for me and I was so ego invested that I wouldn’t let go of the relationship. So much happier I’m now single!
[–]Im_Talking0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
You have got to be kidding. Did the guy really say this?
It would be interesting to post a word-by-word account in that sub except that the genders were changed. Love to see the comments then.
[–]Lawuhiku0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Ironic how he talks about his miserable life but doesn't do anything about it.
It's fucking sad that these men are so pussified they care more about looking like a jerk to irrelevant outsiders or some bitch that is never happy about anything you fucking do than about their own fucking sanity.