Starts out like this, met a girl last march on Tinder. Says shes into dom/sub, wants to meet me, stands me up for a date, same night I tell her I want her to come pick me up from the bar because I want to meet her anyway. She comes, picks me up, we go back to my house, and I make her bust all night. So much so she can't walk when she tries to leave and out of real concern that she is going to fall asleep at the wheel I make her sleep for a couple hours. She leaves, next day she comes back, fuck nonstop, fuck nonstop for 30 days straight. A week later she lets me know she lives with her ex-boyfriend. I already kind of figured this out just because I am pretty intuitive. He knows they aren't together. He knows she likes me and knows hes my bitch. One time he sent me this emo text and I sent him a text back saying its going to be OK brah. He writes "Nothing will be OK with you in the picture". That was creepy aint gonna lie. But still actively orbits and tries to throw me under the bus. I try hard to resist the urge to prove him right, but his control over her is so great because hes a fucking loser and she has co-dependency issues. Literally her only friend, and was her boyfriend for years. She couldn't lose him. Also, father abandoned her when she was a child. She has NO positive males in her life. TLDR: Girl has issues (well no shit). Shes a freak and the best lay I've had. I got lovebombed and let it turn into a dating situation.

Over the course of the first half of our relationship I started noticing that she would nod out, be really unreliable, not remember shit, and told half truths. She is a master manipulator and a gaslighter. She has serious mental issues. Obviously big time red flags. I let them slide because, well, she was hot and she had no STDs, and I knew she spent all of her time either with me or her beta ex. I actually enjoyed knowing she was with him because I knew there was no way she'd let him tag that over me.

I am a controlling person and I value my time. It pissed me off when she was late for functions, etc. and honestly, I wanted to get to know the girl. She was cool to hang out with and down with drugs (obviously). Her ex learned this and started taking her car just so she would be late. I let this guy trick me into getting worked up at her. Long story short, she started to say I was being dramatic, and eventually she just couldn't handle me berating her and suspecting her of doing dope so we split for a bit. FYI: I had made it clear earlier in the relationship that I was anti-opioids due to family issues. This was a mistake in retrospect, because I stopped her from being open and honest with me. She probably needed help. This escalated in the next half of the relationship.

So, we stop seeing each other in July and in late August she starts hitting me up on FB, messaging me, I tell her I am dating a few new girls and I need to give them a chance. She gives me sob story about needing me. I am not as sexually attracted to the other girls, even though they are normal, attractive girls with their heads on straight, they just aren't really doing it for me sexually like she did. So whatever. We start banging again and all is good. But now she has some serious issues going on, and she is "dating" her ex-boyfriend. Essentially her ex-boyfriend is totally jacked up on oxycontin. She spends all day with him, supporting him, probably doing drugs with him in her car. They get evicted and she moves home. Instantly asks if she can stay with me - she is deathly afraid of living with her Mom because she makes her face reality. This girl has no degree, and only recently got a job making like $8/hr while she "saves for school". I let her live with me. Shed spend the day with her ex, and the night with me.

She needed me for a place to stay, but while I was getting pussy, it was alright you know. Quid pro quo. That was rent, and that was cool with me. We had probably fucked like 500+ times in 6 months. Her ex goes away to rehab. She then tells me she able to be my girlfriend. I said fine, yeah, you're my girlfriend. After that happens, sex starts to cease. She says she "doesnt feel close to me". Huge red flag, cause she is a slut and never turned down sex in the past. I get her to get a job. She starts telling me about guys at her work hitting on her. Shit testing me. Well, this was before I started to read TRP. I let her get the best of me. Get defensive and jealous and then she knows. She knows I am not as confident and secure as I once was. She knows she has options.

The real break in the relationship happened one night where she was hitting me up asking me to go out with her and her friend, and if I could find a male to go out and bang out her like... HB5.5 best friend. Her only female friend. I say I can't, and she essentially ghosts on me and goes up to her friends house. I say fuck that, we're done. She gives me this laundry list of shit like I am smothering her, etc. and really, it's true. I smothered the shit out of her. It was because I was paranoid of ending up like her ex boyfriend, that there was some other bull in the room while she called me, etc.

This wouldnt have been an issue if I was a cheater. But I am a loyal guy. So I try and break it off, and she weasels her way back in. In retrospect this is where I go from alpha to beta in her mind. We break up, she still hoovers around, and later on in the week I find a big ass dope kit in her jacket pocket. She was smoking oxys. Supposedly her ex gave it to her to take it away while he was in rehab so he didn't have any temptations. But there were active drugs in there, and she claimed to have "forgotten" to throw it away. Horse shit. She wanted the bag back too. It's at this point where my beta white knight savior complex kicks in. I start to rationalize everything she does with regards to being an addict. She understands that I think she needs help, and starts to just run amock. I got oneitis, and I have codependency issues myself due to childhood. Whatever. At least I recognize it and I am working on it. But I didn't kick her out. It was because I put her on a pedestal, and I truly was attracted to her and cared about her. For whatever reason, I am a good person.

There were many periods of time during this month that she gave me ample opportunity to take my alpha status back. I remember one time she drove her car over my place before work and simply spread herself out on my bed and asked me if I still loved her and begged me to fill her up. I should have said no, but of course I did. Shes hot. Really I could have taken alpha back at any point. I was the best thing in her life. I just acted like I didn't know it. Honestly, I knew she was bad for me too.

Finally, I pulled of a solid no contact with her. Mind you two weeks prior she lied to be about being pregnant. Then she starts sending me texts like "Why are you ignoring me", "Do you think we can be friends". The power was in my hands, like it always had been, even though I didn't realize it at many times because I was caught up in the pussy. Well, I broke the no contact and acquiesced to her terms. I agreed we could meet up and be "friends". But then I realized she just wanted me to be her beta provider and I threw one last fit and haven't spoken to her since. I was on a serious bender the day I responded to her. This is a god damn shame, because I ended the relationship with me seeming needy and chasing after her. I should have been her "friend" and just blown her off. Or just ghosted her.

I have never been in a relationship where I let someone take control. I truly let her play the victim, let my paternal instincts take hold, and I feel like less of a man because of it. I saw all her manipulative tactics and I let them slide because I wanted her, and I guess I had this paternal love for her. She took advantage of that love. I gave trust to the wrong person. I let her drain me (in more ways than one). But I have learned a lot, and really wish I had read TRP prior to dating this girl again. She didn't want a father or someone to save her. She wanted me to bang her and give her a safe zone. Unfortunately I am at an age where I am looking for a LTR... so it wouldn't have worked. She has years to go. I recognized this, but thought I could guide her to maturity, and make the hoe mine.

Mistakes:

1 Letting a girl stand me up for a date. In this case, since she picked me up later on and gave it up, I don't think it was that bad of a call.

2 Doing anything more than banging a girl who desperately needs validation/support from others

3 Letting the ex-bf contact me at all

4 Dating a girl who has an orbiter LIVING with her

5 Dating a girl who can't let go of the past.

6 Dating a girl with serious Daddy issues.

7 Letting red flags slide, especially when they caused me concern

8 Letting a girl drain me emotionally

9 Believing I could fix a truly damaged person

10 Doing anything more than banging a girl with no degree

11 Doing anything more than banging a girl with no real job or prospects

12 Letting a girl back in and not making them do so on my terms

13 Letting a girl make me jealous

14 Giving away too much information (telling her I hated opioids and they were a non-starter for me led to a long game of cat and mouse)

15 Letting a girl stay at your place when she has no other options. Or at least letting her decide when you have sex.

16 Me smothering a girl

17 Me being needy

18 Me showing loyalty to a girl who has two-timed someone

19 Me not taking back alpha role and holding on to it

20 Breaking no contact not on my own terms

21 Not breaking off a relationship when you KNOW you have higher ground

22 Turning into her father

23 Blinding myself and trying to make a hoe a housewife

24 Opening up my trust to an untrustworthy person

25 Don't set up expectations for destitute hoes if you want to keep them around. It will drive them away

26 Letting her play the victim

27 Catching feelings for someone you know is a psycho

28 Ignoring hard drug use, or needing PROOF of hard drug use.

29 Not trusting my gut

30 Not realizing that most girls stop maturing emotionally after high school

31 Dating someone who can't ever take responsibility

Takeaways

1 I will never let a girls ex talk to me or be active in my girls life again. If he messages me, I threaten to kick his ass if he ever contacts me or her again.

2 I will never do anything more than fuck a train wreck. I will absolutely never try to "save" a train wreck again.

3 If I fuck a train wreck, I wrap it the hell up, to avoid emotional distress from her claiming to be pregnant when I break it off.

4 I will never let red flags that bother me slide or go uncorrected. I will need to see hard evidence of a correction, or cut her off, or plate her.

5 I will never let a girl think she can shit test me again. I will never care enough about a childish woman like this ever again for shit tests to matter.

6 If a girl ever gaslights and makes me doubt my sanity again, they are gone.

7 No degree/job? Plated.

8 I will never let a girl do anything that is not on my terms, within reason

9 I will keep as much information to myself as I can. This is difficult for me, because part of my con is self-disclosure.

10 If the hoe is about to hit rock bottom, let them hit rock bottom

11 I will not seek validation or comfort from another human being. I will find a way to generate intrinsic value. This is how you lose alpha status, period

12 I will never believe that a two-timer won't two time me

13 I will never believe that I can turn a hoe into some sort of LTR

14 I will ALWAYS trust my gut, and my friends.

15 I will never love a person who does not love themselves

16 I will never turn into the girls FATHER!

17 I will never let a person play the victim. I will force them to take responsibility, or get the fuck out

18 If I want to keep someone codependent around, I will never let them know I care about them

19 I will learn to say no and weaponize sex the same way that women try to weaponize it

20 I will never break no contact and lose my position of strength again

21 I will treat all damaged women like this like the high school cum guzzling sluts that they are, with no respect, just like they deserve

22 NEVER do drugs or drink and message your ex

23 I will set up boundaries. I may not tell the person my boundaries, because I don't want to let on I am hurt, but the boundaries that I set will determine whether the girl is kept, plated, or ghosted.