This is a guide for newbies who have social anxiety problems or small to non-existent social lives/boring lives in general.

When we're first swallowing TRP and starting to apply the rules to our day to day lives, a lot of us are still in a conundrum: we may still not have many friends or a large social circle. We also may not have many interesting hobbies either. We need to make sure NO women that we encounter think that we don't have friends or, well, A LIFE. Having these things will give you some shit to talk about with women, you can display your passion in conversation to them and be excited about it.. it doesn't matter WHAT your passion is, women run on emotion: they love almost any passion, they just love a passionate man. But we gotta fake it til we make it in the beginning sometimes. I know when I first started reading TRP, I had pretty much one close stoner friend and a few auxiliary male friends that didn't really do me any good in meeting and surrounding myself with potential plates. I didn't have many hobbies either, I always thought I was so cool cuz "I didn't give a fuck what anybody thinks" and "all those people doing those hobbies/activities and being so happy and shit are gay and I'm so cool that people will just come to me cuz I'm so badass!" … that led to quite the lonely existence and only having sex with similarly lonely/insane/daddy problems/red flag sort of women.

In order to come off as fulfilled and abundant during this introductory period, it always helped me to have a weekly schedule and pretty strict rules about sticking to that schedule with borderline zero exceptions. Thus, even if you don't actually have many friends or plates or much going on, you can still seem like you do. You need to not be so available and work on building your confidence and yourself/your life up, that way in the beginning; you pull off the illusion of having abundance, because everybody knows an un-needed, friendless, loser with no life is the definition of a panty drying machine. Build your schedule, build yourself a life first and foremost.

I know for some of us, building a new social circle seems daunting, a lot of blue pillers have social anxiety and when we're one on one or small groups we're totally fucked. How the hell are we ever gonna rope in new plates with this mentality? This is where I reference a football joke in a Seinfeld episode: "why play man when you can play zone?"

If you don't have any hobbies, stop telling yourself that "ohhh I'm not good at that so I shouldn't even try" (stop sounding like droopy dog or eeyore). Pick up a musical instrument, join a sports team, join a club, ANYTHING. You need a place that's NOT A FUCKING BAR, where you can meet new people and invite them to do shit. Soccer team, softball team, when my band plays I meet people afterwards, whatever. And get a dream! Shoot for the fuckin stars and give your life some purpose. Even if it's to buy a home, start a new business, make it big in music, get your dream job, etc. Conversation/socializing is a skill that takes time, but you can learn it like any other skill, but give yourself some help and have hobbies/passions that you can talk about, my buddy rakes in women talking about how he installs electrical transformers for the utility company ffs.

The first step is to build up ourselves… I like to suggest: a day to day consistency (day job), two "small" interests/hobbies (church and mens softball for me), one short-medium term goal (gym gains), at least one passionate "lofty" long term goal (music career and I also am starting up a custom shirt biz). I also read, a lot, this helps me be able to talk about almost anything and join almost any conversation I encounter. Knowledge truly is power my friends. If you know what you're talking about, and can articulate opinions confidently, you don't be all nervous bumbling and fumbling with what to say to people. My schedule is as follows:

  • SUNDAY - Music production work, meal prep, laundry, deep clean apartment (CLEAN YOUR PLACE THE FUCK UP PEOPLE), my new clothing business.. NOTE: also a lot of broads like to do cheesy Sunday boozy brunches which are a great thing to rope a dozen or so people into, especially if you plan it with friends when you go out the night before

  • MONDAY - Day job 6AM-6PM, band practice 730PM-930PM, relaxation (Late Monday is my only netflix/TV watching time) and reading

  • TUESDAY - Day job 6AM-6PM, church 7PM-8PM, gym 830PM-1030PM, then read TRP-related or self improvement-related literature

  • WEDNESDAY - Work 6AM-6PM, then a unique fun thing to do which I can use to rally my new friends group/plates I'm cultivating. During the week most people are working and don't wanna get all lit up at the bar, but otherwise just spend their time sitting at home watching netflix with their cock/cooch in their hands. Last week we did a glassblowing class that also served beers, week before that we did a pasta making class that served beers, we also did an "escape the room" thing, etc. BE THE FUN PERSON! Be the person who everybody else looks to and wants to call and be like "Oh Jeddzus is always doing fun shit, lets hit him up what's he getting into!" That's who the alpha male is. I like ice breaker sort of situations that people can speak with and bond over in a normal sense, and not just drinks at a bar where you can't talk to anybody without yelling and there is no communal goal we're accomplish together. A lot of ideas can be found on things like meetup.com or groupon. Movies are not ice breakers. These must be things you can talk to people during. Having an activity that involves team work or learning something new takes everyone there out of their comfort zones and makes us all work together. This makes bonding and overcoming that anxiety much easier. Wednesday is also good to bring a plate out for drinks or some regular ass date scenario. I like comedy shows/jazz clubs with dinner but do your thing.

  • THURSDAY - Day job 6AM-6PM , gym 7PM-9PM, music production from 930PM til sleep

  • FRIDAY - Day job 6AM-6PM, generally I do somewhat lower key Friday: maybe happy hour drinks with these new friends/plates, etc. Stay out til 10PM or so. Then I go home early to get up early for the gym. This will leave some people hanging waiting to see you again, begging you to stay even, while respecting the fact that you have your shit together enough to hit the gym early on Saturday ("Yeaahhhh I gotta sign up for the gym, damn, I wish I could be like jeddzus!" ALSO this helps you make the most out of your Saturday by getting to experience the whole thing and not wake up at 2pm hungover and miss the whole damn thing.

  • SATURDAY - 9AM gym/sauna, 1PM-4PM mens softball, NIGHT: going out! Like normal going out.. try to pick a place for a special reason, i.e they have a rooftop dance floor, they're doing a silent disco, they do $3 shots, they have beer pong tables etc. Set your plans apart from normal shit. Also I love to dance: if you can get over your fear and dance your ass off (the key is just not giving a fuck what you look like), it sucks women in faster than conversation without nearly as much concern about if you're saying all the right shit.

    With little exception I stick to this schedule. If a girl wants me to "blow something off" I DON'T. This is my life, I stick to it, she gets my free time when I'm available, I don't make free time just for her. She can come join my friends and I when we go out, I tell her. Or if it seems right, maybe she'll get my Wednesday.. she's not free Wednesday? I'm not changing my Thursday plans, she's just gotta wait! I like to be the person who develops the social circles in my city, this is key to being at the head of a social group and then, obviously, sucking up most of the women. Just remember around +80% of people are followers, just waiting to be guided to shit to do like cattle through a maze to a cage with their mother's teets. Be the person who gives them a life! Also new friends bring new friends, so everybody is always invited; don't be concerned about if they'll all get along like we're still in high school ("BUT WAIT THEY'RE IN THE OTHER CLIQUE THEY DON'T BELONG IN THIS CLIQUE!" <- TOXIC) We're adults now. We're all on level playing field. Fuck highschool-esque cliques. Don't judge people immediately, give them a chance, be positive, express interest, give a fuck, smile, make eye contact. If you don't give a fuck, make yourself, fake it til you make it. And the circle grows and grows and grows (which means more women too!). And you also have built in validation that new plates can witness first hand!

    Obviously don't just screw yourself over entirely with this and be so rigid that you miss out on a really fun activity/good chance for new plates, but the busier you seem, the more passions you have, the more hobbies you do: the more fun you seem, and the harder you are to schedule something with, the more attractive you are, obviously. This is just a tiny little guide to getting out into the world basically. So.. keep on, good luck brethren.