I am a year into my TRP journey (a couple years if you count my accidental awakening, but one since I truly unplugged from the Matrix). Meeting women in real-life, plating them, is now rather easy for me. I meet women, and I instinctively let them know my intentions. After that it is just escalation, showing them a good time, and closing when the "iron is hot". Unlike some red-pillers, however, I desire more than just ONS and meaningless sex.

And this is where I still stumble and make mistakes....learn from mine.

Enter the female "friends". I know many Redpill men say you are better off ditching women when it comes to friendships, but I don't believe in throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Maybe it is my circumstance of living in Alaska (transient people, unique friendships that are built in the outdoors), but I truly do meet and enjoy solid female relationships. The outdoor women of Alaska are not vapid and prefer outdoor adventures and a female version of "IDGAF" that is intoxicating compared to most women. Building friendships with women is part of life here. Not to mention friendships with women leads to...meeting more women. But I digress...

Back to the story.

As one can imagine, spend enough time with these women and they tend to get close to you. They fall for you. It is a bit ironic, but the act of mentally friend zoning women in your friend group makes them want you more because you literally DGAF. You are a little mysterious to them. But they also see the quality man that you are. And if you are smart, you are still adventuring and having a great time with them. And the same pattern repeats for me. After 3-6 months of total platonic friendship, they start hitting on me. They start contacting me to spend time together. They start showing interest.

And...ONEITUS kicks in.

"This girl is different!"

"I know her so well, she has exuded such class and potential wife material!"

"She cooks and cleans whenever we go out to cabin trips!"

"She is well spoken and intelligent" (Actually legit, because most of my female friend group is made up of Arctic researchers from Europe...all with Phd's).

Gentleman, stop before you ever reach the italics above. Don't let your mental hamster tell you anything otherwise...AWALT. And...NEVER EVER PEDASTALIZE a woman. They are all the same. The same way you approach women you just met at the bar, you should approach "female friends" once they show an interest. This post serves dual purposes: To help the small minority of men who actually have female friends who eventually show sexual interest, and, ....AWALT and you always need to strike when the IRON IS HOT.

Speaking of striking when the iron is hot...

So you may ask, what exactly did you do wrong, ozenmacher??

Enter the illness that we shall call ONEITUS.

It is a real illness. Symptoms include:

  1. Timid around your female target of interest
  2. Trying too hard (losing the IDGAF attitude that got her attracted to you in the first place).
  3. Being too "nice"
  4. Acting like she is "special" and not like the other women (A unicorn)...which reinforces numbers 1-3 and turns it into an ugly feedback spiral.

Eventually you enter her frame. Every RP aware man here knows what happens next. Being timid pushes her away because she can't tell if you are interested or not...and it signals to her subconscious that you lack confidence on a deeper level. Then you just try too hard. She starts flaking on requested meets, you start trying harder, you start "asking" to spend time with her, and by this point it is likely all over. ONEITUS is an illness that you MUST cure.

This exact scenario has now happened to me about 4 times, all with the group of European researchers in AK. They are all low 30s and are all on the prowl, so they tend to move fast when looking for partners. The last girl from Denmark will be my last ONEITUS, and even then it only lasted a few days, but those final few days were enough to change her mind.

We talked about the symptoms earlier, here are the cures that helped me:

  1. AWALT, always. Remember that. Just like when you approach women you never met, you need to approach in the same direct and intentioned manner with female friends. At the end of the day, even your female friends are still....females. They are looking for strong, masculine, attractive men who will lead them. Once your frame breaks, the interest is gone for good.
  2. Women love sex. Once again, don't treat her like a special snowflake. Always be escalating from the moment you sense interest from her.
  3. This counts for all interactions with women...but once you feel ONEITUS kicking in...immediately refocus yourself on your life and mission. That is all that matters. Keep approaching other women and spend time with your plates (even if they don't mean much to you), and you will find that your ONEITUS fades. This is classic Abundance Mentality.

Summary:

All women are the same. Even when they are "just friends", they are always looking for a strong, masculine man to lead them and to partner with. The same attributes that make you so attractive to them should never change. ONEITUS is a real illness that will destroy any potential budding relationship. Strike while the IRON IS HOT. Don't wait or else you will be left in the dust. Always have the mentality that YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Because you are. Let them enter your frame.