I had known this girl for several years now, and in my BP years, had tried for a relationship with her and drooled over her. When she chose someone else instead of me, I was disappointed. Fast forward to today... and she’s been plated.

The girl is still in a relationship with that same guy, but has most certainly fucked around behind his back. She had commented to me that most guys, when they heard that she was in a relationship, cowered away from doing anything with her. I looked her in the face and said “I don’t give a fuck.”

She had added me on Facebook recently after she remade her profile, but I didn’t accept it (still haven’t). Instead, I sent her a message on Snapchat asking if she made a new Facebook, and eventually suggested we make plans next weekend to catch up. She said “sure, or even this weekend if you’re up for it.” Noticing how she was eager to hang out, I told her to come with me on a hike I was going on, and she complied.

During the ride to the trail, I neg her a fucking lot and make sure she realizes that I’m no longer the kid she knew 4 years ago. She picked up on it pretty quickly. I also acted in a very laidback way, and kept myself composed and my voice deep. This was drastically different compared to how I usually would have acted before (nervous as fuck, talking too much, trying to be overly flirty). Funnily enough, I had been known as a creep back in high school (unknown to me until last night), and how i acted when i first met her came off as creepy. Now, when she looks back on it, she calls it “flirty.” SMV does wonders.

When we got to the trail, I began the slow process of escalation. I started with a tap of the shoulder during conversation, and didn’t continue until we stopped at the pond nearby and sat to talk. While we talked, I continued to escalate. I usually follow a roadmap of “shoulder > upper arm > wrist > hand”, but I felt that I could progress quickly and went straight for it. It took a bit, but eventually I had escalated to touching her hands and getting my hand between her thighs, grabbing them. By then, I knew I would be able to close and plate. I rubbed her thighs a bit, and then put my arm around her. When I pulled her a bit closer, a weird combination of LMR and ASD kicked in, when she playfully pushed me away and mentioned that I never asked her if she was in a relationship. I look at her and didn’t say anything, but made sure that I didn’t look nervous while I was silent. I just gave out a small chuckle that was noticeably aloof and uncaring. It was then where she had made the comment about guys cowering away after discovering that she was in a relationship. Then she asked what my intentions were, and I simply stayed quiet, smirking, and looked into her eyes, holding eye contact. She kept asking and rambling but I never revealed what they were, though she most certainly got the message. I told her at one point to stop rambling and we then made out. I began to roam a bit, but we didn’t get too touchy, as she apparently was not used to actually doing something with someone else (unfortunate, but i don’t care; nice ass though.) I occasionally stopped and attempted to re-escalate and break through this, but she blocked my advances 3 times so I stopped it there. As long as I play my cards right, I will be fucking her real soon, so I’m not really concerned. Haven’t spoken to her since i dropped her off, and don’t plan on it until a couple days from now, when I’ll be hitting her up to plan something for next weekend.

With that background given, this interaction has given me my first insight into how hypergamy truly is. This girl was with this guy, on and off, since she was around 14 or so, with a good stretch of her actual relationship being from 16 onward. She posts stuff with this guy most of the time, and even has her FB cover photo as her with him. He gets her gifts and spends a stupid amount of time cuddling with her, but she had complained to me that he has not been acting very much like a boyfriend lately. The guy doesn’t do much with his life. Apparently he had been involved with gang activity in the past, but also apparently has ceased from these dealings (not sure that’s how things work.) With him having been involved with gangs, it’s not hard to understand how he got an HB9 for a girl. That said, he just works and likes his car a lot. I’m not even sure if he has actual hobbies. His SMV clearly is not good enough to maintain this girl, and I never really thought that MY own SMV was good enough to pull 9s (I have another 9 on rotation when I get back to college, so it must be!) Hypergamy is quite a beast. Since she is a 9, she’s able to easily find a man of a higher SMV than her boyfriend’s to partner with successfully. I read somewhere that, unless you acquire a soft harem, you do not truly know how women act. I’m beginning to, and I am finding that saying to be true.

The sad reality that I’ve come to realize is that women WILL abandon a lower SMV man for a higher one. I’ve begun picking up various hobbies and have also changed the way I act on social media to give a display of a higher SMV. As of recently, I never view any girl’s Snapchat stories (I mute my plates’ Snapchat stories), never like their pictures, and never comment on anything they share. I also now don’t post mundane things on my Snapchat, such as gaming or a song I’m listening to. Instead, I only post when I am with friends (show that I’m social), or when I’m participating in high-SMV activities (occasionally post at the gym, posted something from my hike yesterday, post when I’m traveling to a different place outside of the norm.) This is far more than what her boyfriend possibly does, and it is beginning to bear fruit. Rollo Tomassi was spot-on with this assertion on SMV in “The Rational Male”, and it literally happened with me.

While this girl certainly is NEVER getting LTRed, she has been plated, and I’ll have a great time fucking her behind his back.