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So, the old lady cheated. Now things are going to change. What to do, where do you turn for some guidance? "R/Relationship Advice"? Nope, too many women on there. Right here is where you can get some good pointers. I came through that taxpayer subsidized meatgrinder they call "Family' Court, and I did it blind. Was not fun.

So what do you do when you find out?

Do not leave the matrimonial home. Never ever do that. Why?

Because if you leave, you will have to find a place to stay, pay for that, and pay the mortgage on the house, and child support, and spousal support. This is the biggest mistake that men make. You gotta pay all that other shit, why pay rent too. Let her take it out of her spousal support. See, you just reduced her spending cabbage to boot.

Lawyers- holy fvck, lawyers. Do not get a 'Family' lawyer. So gynocentric you wouldn't believe it. I kind of failed there, so take it from me. After I fired my "family' law firm lawyer, I went with a mid size law firm with some good reviews. Keep in contact with your lawyer regularly, your cheating cvnt ex wife will do everything she can to keep you away from your kids, so only contact, minimal, through email. Never, ever use profanity on ANY communication, no matter how much she is trying to fvck you over. It will come back to kick you later.

Do not agree to face to face conferences. Conferences are necessary, but they are very expensive. For example, you are paying to have your lawyer travel to her lawyers office at $300 an hour, both ways, the meeting will go 2 hours, you are looking at $1200 for that meeting. Do it over the phone. Another reason, you may get pissed off during the meeting, you can mute the phone. Trust me, you'll be muting the phone.

What the Separation agreement and Divorce decree state depends on the jurisdiction, I will not go too much into that. But afterwards, you are now in the arms of big momma government. I say that because all the courthouses, clerks and at least half the lawyers are female. So fvckin steel up buddy, you gotta have your shit together.

Since 2016, I have learned to write affidavits, serve papers, and self represent on my own. I am not post secondary educated. I am a tradesman with some vocational college and that is it. What you have to do, is find local law workshops. They will teach you how to do everything I have mentioned above. Now, you are saying 'I can't do that, I need a lawyer.'

Here's the rub though. The reason I needed to learn it was my divorce went through in 2014, and the economy went in the toilet in 2015, and by January 2016, I had nearly 0 income and 2k a month in spousal and child support. Absolutely no money for legal help, serving papers or going to court. Now if I would have went into court with a lawyer, the justice would have looked at me and said 'If you can afford a lawyer, you can afford to pay.'

Because I could prove the hardship I was under I saved about 20k in legal expenses and spousal support payments. She had a lawyer too. I held my own.

When you are self representing you will see how much you overpay for legal representation. I am not saying it is not always necessary, but if you can keep some of that cash in hand why not?

I actually came out on top about 75-80% of the time, because I was squeaky clean.

If you have heard of 'Silver Bullets' prepare yourself, because they are coming at you now. I have had nearly every kind of terrible thing said about me, every kind of allegation, accusation and been investigated by Child Family Services, RCMP and Non Governmental Organization (psychologists) for child welfare. You have to be squeaky clean. She will say anything she wants, she ended the marriage with lies, why stop now. Her affidavits will be full of lies, and every word that comes out of that cocksucker will be a lie, so you gotta be ready. Any interactions with law enforcement that are 'Unfounded' i.e. untrue, get the reports through access to information, as well as any reports from any other government outfits. I did and she destroyed her own credibility with her own lies.

When you do go to court and you are self represented, always talk to duty counsel, always be early, always be clean shaven and dress well. Respect the court. Always stand when speaking to the Justice. Watch some Judge Judy to see how you will be treated if you slouch or mumble. If you are righteous, and squeaky clean, the courts will assist you in your endeavours. They are there in your name, and at your expense. Remember that. Respectful, but for fvck sakes be a man.

These are things that took a lot of sweat to find out on my part. If these pointers can help anyone out there get through the shit show she started, I am happy to help. After all this is done, I am sure most men will be very intrigued by MGTOW, and for you younger gents- I was in love with my ex too. She changed the fvckin day after the wedding, the DAY after. You know why? Because they know as soon as you say I DO, they fvckin gotcha. And the woman you divorce, in no way shape or form resembles the woman you married.

In the spirit of true MGTOW Brotherhood, if anyone has any more pointer for men that are needing guidance, this is the time to show what a supportive bunch we are. Put it in the comments below.

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