This sub is a laboratory, a locker room. The take a penny, leave a penny dish for men. Help a fallen chad when he's down, help a Guy get up, guide a poor kid out of his self imposed hell of dry-dicks chineese have a lot of hells
So I say this as my penny into the dish.
Get out of your fucking head
It's been a problem all the way back to the Mystery days on BBS networks. Mental Masturbation they called it, a nod to the idea of a guy jerking off because he isn't getting laid. You do it, yes you, the guy who is getting mad, or has all kinds of justifications why it's required. I'm specifically talking to you.
Get out of your fucking head. I'll bet you think you have some grand plan, and just that one piece of the puzzle and everything will fall into your lap, right?
I was that guy, when I was 10. We would till a field every few years, turn the soil. Brought up a lot of rocks, so I spent many summers picking rocks out of hundreds of acres of fields. I had some great plan to efficiently move as little as possible and move rocks. It was convoluted, and I could speak at length to my cleverness.
I remember my stefather grabbing me by the scruff of the neck one day and giving me a shake. And you know what? I get it,
I wasn't clever, I was lazy. I noticed in all these wise plans, the one commonality was, it involved some reason I wasn't needing to pick up a rock and put it in the bucket of the tractor.
You're not picking up rocks, you're coming up with reasons not to. Know why you're so convinced that you need to reduce risk when gaming chicks? Because you're weak. I don't mean mentally, I mean physically. I'm convinced that testosterone increases your ability to accept and enjoy risk. the reason you don't, is because you have too little of it. the more you want to 'monk mode' MGTOW, sex doll, or 'observe the human condition' the more you're bullshitting yourself into avoiding risk.
so a quick solution, lift, eat, and lift some more. I'm serious. You need to beat that woman-like risk aversion out of your body. I'm talking about lifting until you're sore all day. Lift until that walk back to your car makes you dread.
Know who doesn't sweat the small stuff? A guy who is too sore to move. Know who doesn't stress about a cold approach? A guy who is on the way to the gym/mountain and has no time to care.
this sub cannot quash it in you, there's too many chodes who want to jerk each other off, so you'll always find friends. There's too many to ban, and they keep coming back anyways. It's all on you.
If you're worried about fucking up, don't. you will fuck up, you'll fuck up a lot. You'll come off as creepy on occasion, you'll have a shitty workout program, you're 1rm numbers will be embarassing.
Not caring isn't meant to be a coping strategy, it's meant to avoid sweating the small details.
Fuck off, seriously. Quit wasting everyone's time. And if your first thought is to comment on my writing about it without 100% apathy (seriously bro, why you so emotional, why care? Why so angry?) then you can fuck off too. Go waste away somewhere else.
This is as easy as you want to make it.
- Lift heavy stuff as often as you can
- eat good food, as much (or little) as you can so you aren't a skinny/fat fuck
- talk to women as often as it comes up. expect nothing, take every opportunity.
- After you fuck up, I repeat After you fuck up... then do the navel gazing and sort out why you did, and how to stop doing it.
- Stop bullshitting yourself