A story for the Guy who ‘can’t believe she went back to her husband/boyfriend’.

redvelvet_oreo · 2018-06-30T13:49:28+00:00

I had the odd experience of a friends girl tried hooking up with me at a lounge that her bf was at we just went for the bathroom at the same time. I turned her down. I didn’t tell her bf which I realize was a mistake now but at the time I believed the shit she said about him which most was true seen some evidence. She told him 2 weeks later. The odd thing is she told him we hooked up and of course he wanted to fight me. I did confront him. She definitely lied about me hooking up with her but he filled up his head with all these other false details. Long story short I’m not sure why she would tell the guy and lie about it since I turned her down. Wonder what the explanation could be for that.

brownhoosierboy · 2018-06-30T14:51:52+00:00

I’m an avid follower of the red pill. But the theme I’ve picked up is that no girl is loyal. Does this mean I can never have a relationship? Should I just spin plates?

LotBuilder · 2018-06-30T16:30:06+00:00

During my separation pre divorce I was not ready to deal with the effort and time involved in real relationships so I dabbled with sugar dating on sites like what’s your price. I was shocked at the number of college girls with boyfriends that were getting money and dick on the side. They had no shame at all. You would hammer them at a Holiday Inn Express at 4pm and at 8pm they are posting pictures at a restaurant with their boyfriend. I liked innocent looking but sexy girl next door types. I guarantee their boyfriends had no idea what they were up to. That completely changed my view of women along with my soon to be ex wife doing the typical post separation/divorce slut fest.

Shyrk · 2018-06-30T15:39:16+00:00

Girl has always loved Husband.

Oceania has always been at war with Eurasia.

Entropy-7 · 2018-06-30T21:01:21+00:00

AFAIK I have only cucked one guy and I feel a bit bad about it for reasons that I will explain.

This was back in the early 90s when telephone dating started (internet dating was a decade or so away). My buddies needled me saying that only fat chicks and fuglies would use it. However, it was novel (keep that word in mind) and all sorts were trying it out.

Keep in mind, all you have is their voice and their words to figure out if you match. One of the earliest invited me over to her home, and I went. It turned out that she was an aspiring fashion model. She was too short to do runway work but she was slim, gorgeous, with big hair and a very pretty face. My only HB9, shitlords be damned.

After doing the deed on the living room floor it came out that she was married to a sailor in the Canadian Forces who was on duty for 6 months. I felt bad because I was combat engineer and I realized I had just cucked a fellow service man.

Then her 3 year old daughter walks in on us. Thankfully we were decent at that point but it got really weird.

I left as soon as I could but not before scoring one of her 8x10 head shots. I showed that pic to my friends and every one of them got on telephone dating right after.

domable19 · 2018-06-30T11:23:15+00:00

Soo no one's going to tell him. Think he's got a right to know lol.

Wolfgang985 · 2018-06-30T15:38:50+00:00

These cheating wife/fiance/ltr situations some guys find themselves in have always intrigued me.

I fell for the trap the first time it happened to me. The experience went from feeling like a champ, to a little bitch in all of one month. Holy shit, was that both a humbling and enlightening experience for me.

Fast forward several years now, and I now always handle these situations with indifference. There have been many occasions where I didn't find out about the husband/fiance/ltr until after hooking up with the girl. Most of these I end immediately. Some are understood as a week fling that start and end in that time frame. Hell, I've had one night stands where these types of girls just want to be fucked in the back of a car in a parking lot and never talk to you again.

Regardless, the expectation of a cheating women leaving the other guy for you should never be taken into consideration for numerous reasons. Further, I find nothing to gain about being the "white knight" and telling the guy. If you want to leave some anonymous note or some shit, go ahead. Otherwise, use that situation as a learning experience.

retteh · 2018-06-30T16:02:30+00:00

Does anyone expect anything different? A cheating husband would typically do the same thing. Cheating is typically about sex and excitement for both genders with women doing it for slightly more emotional reasons on average. Expecting a real relationship to bloom out of an affair is like expecting to stick you hand in shit and find a gem -- it's certainly possible but you should set realistic expectations.

IntrovertedMagma · 2018-06-30T15:27:22+00:00

Iol awesome writing style.. Keep making posts bro

CaptZ · 2018-07-01T00:04:53+00:00

Girl most likely has borderline personality disorder.

As an aside, if she cheats on husband with you, she'll cheat on you too with someone else eventually. You're no more special than her husband.

U-94 · 2018-06-30T16:11:39+00:00

Heh! I've been in this situation. I can almost hear that Beauty and the Beast song reading this, "It's a tale as old as time...."

Still would rather be dude getting used in the affair than the husband though.

ihnrva · 2018-06-30T20:25:51+00:00

I was the New Guy in this example. This fits it to the T. Good post, OP.

Just always remember, she's not yours, it's just your time.

Viramont · 2018-06-30T21:42:32+00:00

Fucken LOL Being awaken to this shit is like chugging bleach. Why can’t it be like the movies Bros...

WholesomeAwesome · 2018-06-30T21:44:23+00:00

... Girl has never loved husband.

plentyoffishes · 2018-06-30T16:50:41+00:00

This happened to a female friend, husband was cheating with her and she was convinced he was going to break off the marriage, but in the end, he stayed with the wife. I don't know why this was surprising to my friend.

XCommunistX · 2018-06-30T16:24:36+00:00

Hello everyone, i’m really young and new here. This might be a stupid question but is there any way to break this cycle?

Pragmaticpandas · 2018-06-30T22:36:48+00:00

Wow, perfectly and succinctly written. I've seen this exact scenario play out in my own life and in other's. I think just realizing the truth behind this should be enough to unplug someone.

[deleted] · 2018-06-30T20:22:45+00:00

Odd enough this is true OP.

My child's mother parades her new man & his family in family court. I laugh when they keep hamstering in their group how he is a "good guy" and "nice" yet every single time she is always checking me out in front of him, tried adding me on social media midst of the battle, and so forth. I didn't bite any of her bait and I can tell it drives her crazy that I moved on to which she cannot have me easily.

Women are just interesting creatures.

dingleburry_joe · 2018-06-30T23:51:05+00:00

The sad thing is that this points out the idea of how women are based "in the moment" and on feels. Imo When i look at this loop i see that even the young fresh guy was no different deep down, its just the fact that it was something new. Its the essence of hypergamy.

Mystery involves the unknown and thats all. Not every man is sime james bond chsracter, but some men have it better than others. Hence why the mission and goals are sbove women because we also csn have options. Women will cave if you give power to them. Always focus on being more aloha and developing frame.

bakachelera · 2018-07-01T04:20:49+00:00

This makes me go all anxious. So there is no way to avoid being cheated on after all, right? the real solution is to either choose very well your wife or not to marry at all, Am I missing something?

LotBuilder · 2018-07-26T07:55:06+00:00

Date, gift, a weekend trip somewhere nice that I want to go to anyway with a hottie. About that time they start asking about money and I flip it and indignantly say that would be like prostitution and I don’t do that. “I buy you nice things and take you nice places but just handing you money feels hookerish.” At that point they ghost or stick around, I don’t really care either way because I have a few newbies getting warmed up for the same thing.

pbar · 2018-07-01T01:59:39+00:00

Of my half-dozen best friends over the years, every single one of their wives has gone through a spell of really giving it off in my direction. With two in particular, I had a long, simmering, and very enjoyable flirtation for many years. I never got nekkid with either one of then, but they gave off strong obvious sex rays in my direction, enough that it became a bit of a thing with my friends, their husbands.

I'm not quite ready to admit that it had nothing to do with my own charm and vibe, but I've always known it had a lot more to do with them being married to the other guy and not me.

And when I got married, I got to see that whole thing from the other side. It's not nearly so hilarious from that angle.

sulfonylurea · 2018-06-30T18:30:48+00:00

Who’s to say Guy doesn’t have Wife at home, who’s beautiful and loyal? Guy gets attention from Girl at work. Girl is alright, perhaps not as hot as wife, still, new and therefore more attractive. Girl loses interest for reasons mentioned in the story, Guy realizes Girl is a cheating, fickle bitch, Wife was always there for him, goes back to Wife with a clear conscience to ‘work on the marriage’. You all know this is as plausible as the original story. Men stray just as much, if not more, than women. Loyalty and commitment and permanence of relationships is just not valued enough in the culture; that’s what needs to be fixed.

[deleted] · 2018-06-30T18:31:03+00:00

Good read. It's practically a flowchart at this point.

Andgelyo · 2018-07-01T03:50:40+00:00

Nice, simple laymen terms and story, but extremely effective. Bravo for a quality post.

7a7p · 2018-06-30T15:50:26+00:00

You have the link to the original post you pulled your comment from?

IMMRPHANTOM · 2018-06-30T23:22:38+00:00

Can someone tell me SMV meaning please?

NikolaGeorgiev · 2018-07-02T14:22:59+00:00

hahahaha
That was really funny to read, thanks, mate.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2018-07-03T07:12:54+00:00

Did not you read the paper posted here about two weeks ago? Go find your answers there.

The girl is simply in an unhappy relationship and she is in the process of branch swining, testing prospects. Simple as that.

imtheoneimmortal · 2018-06-30T19:17:51+00:00

this work only in marriage or also ltr?

neurot0x1c · 2018-06-30T13:10:38+00:00

Add this to your post

Tldr; Women suck yada yada yada. Ad nauseam.

Title	A story for the Guy who ‘can’t believe she went back to her husband/boyfriend’.
Author	DaveyOneBite
Upvotes	1170
Comments	175
Date	30 June 2018 11:10 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	TheRedPill
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/51153
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/8v15ui/a_story_for_the_guy_who_cant_believe_she_went/