I credit most of my social success to these two communities and would like to write about how I got to where I dreamed to be.

I found PUA at the ripe young age of 16 when I had my heart broken by a girl I crushed on for over a year. My first Google search was, “how to get girls to like you”. Down the rabbit hole I went!

At the time, I felt that I could not relate to people, and that most people could not relate to me. I stumbled upon PUA sites, namely Neil Strauss. One of Neil Strauss’ first advice to me was to visualize where I wanted to be in 5 years. I was to conjure an image so vivid that it would become a self fulfilling prophecy. This is my image:

I am at a club. Purple and blue lights are flashing everywhere. I am surrounded by beautiful women who love me for who I am, my homies going around spreading love and showing respect. Money litters the table. There is a deep trust. I am calm, content, and collected. I am not nervous nor shy nor lonely.

That image was my dream. It was more of a feeling, anchored down by this vivid image. It was who I wanted to be. I wanted to be connected. I wanted people to want to connect with me. I wanted to be sexually satisfied and have an abundant pool of ladies waiting for me. I wanted respect.

For years I watched videos by Mystery, Christian Hudson, Neil Strauss, David Deangelo. Read books like The Game, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and Models. Read guides by Pook and tens of others. Joined forums like highschoolpua, TRP, Mystery Lounge, and such. For years I went out and faced rejection, over and over again, pushing myself in clubs, bars, parks, libraries, cafès, and house parties. These experiences numbed me to what others thought of me. It suppressed my ego and taught me perseverance. It also taught me what creepy meant, how to hold eye contact, and how to touch.

I had my first relationship when I was 17, but lost everything because I was too clingy and demanding. I realized my inner state of mind was keeping me from happiness. I was still not happy with who I was and the people that surrounded me. So I kept going. I picked up guitar, singing, and weight lifting. I reached out to like minded people on the path of self improvement and found myself my first mentor. My circle of friends expanded and improved.

I found Red Pill when I was 20. The most significant things I learnt here was stoicism, frame, and vulnerability. I worked towards strengthening my inner belief in myself and reducing nervous reactions towards outside influences. I pursued leadership positions that forced me to speak in front of hundreds of people. I started performing music to people I knew. I started speaking from my heart and saying what I believe even if it was harsh. I started writing honestly about my experiences and posted them on this forum.

I gained another mentor when I was 23 who really pushed me to practice my communication skills religiously. He would ask me what I thought of different topics (life, parents, business) and drill with me until I was able to express myself clearly and completely. This, he said, would allow me to work with the top .01% of the population. I applied my new method of communication to my family, friends, and pickup and found that honest, transparent and coherent communication was the fastest path to respect and love. If you only speak the truth, then there is no miscommunication, no stress.

Today I have a lot of what I dreamed of having, except for that cash on the table.

A girlfriend who I am sexually attracted to who loves me for who I am.

A large group of loyal and high SMV guy friends who have known each other for 5+ years.

A pool of girls waiting for me to be single.

Low ego (acid and shrooms helped).

Calmness in my heart without chasing drugs or women.

Zero social anxiety. I can go speak in front of hundreds without fear.

Ability to communicate clearly and honestly from the heart both in writing and verbal.

It’s been 7 years and I have seen so much progress. To the newbies on this sub striving for improvement, it can be done if you keep trying and applying. Hold onto your dreams. Visualize it day in day out until you dream of it. I truly believe that visualization of your goals is a fail-safe way of self improvement.

Tldr; OP reminisces about his 7 year journey down the red pill rabbit hole and how he now has most of what he dreamt of having.