Women operate on their precious feelings. This is no mystery. They want to feel alive.
Too often I head over to TRP and read something along the lines of - GF of 4 years cheated on me, and the peanut gallery shouts Hypergamy! OK great,time to replace the AWALT cheating GF, problem solved right? Wrong.
Yeah sure hypergamy plays it's role. But without asking the harder questions, no progress can be made. Why did she branch swing? What did she get elsewhere that she couldn't get from you? The answer is always feels. Upon digging into these posts a little deeper, I almost always find the guy saying something along the lines of.
"Yeah, I never lifted, played a lot of video games" Thats a problem, but not the killer blow.
"We basically just went over to each others place's and hardly went out anymore" Bingo
The relationship has become stale. It's predictable. She no longer has that feeling of wonder. That feeling of excitement. To sum up, she's bored. Sadly from what I've observed this is the state of most relationships I see. Cue Chad's arrival, who suddenly sparks excitement again, suddenly makes her feel alive again. So "it just happens"
Small disclaimer - You can do everything right and she could still cheat. However, a woman who's always guessing, always feeling a live, always holding the feeling of adventure and wonder is far less likely to look elsewhere for the feelz when she gets it in abundance from you.
There's always things you can do in a relationship, like dread. Or dark triad shit. To keep it going, however that is exhausting, and a sign that there's something wrong to begin with. In my experience you need little more than to evoke emotion in her. The relationship needs to be fun. She needs to feel that sense of wonder, that sense of excitement.
How do you do that? Well it's fairly simple.
Have fun. Live a life with her that she craves to be apart of. You have to lead. Don't ask her what she want's to do, tell her you're picking her up and taking her somewhere. Let her get tingles every time you pick her up because she knows it's going to be an adventure. When you're leading she’s comfortable knowing that you have her safety at heart and all she has to do is show up and have a good time. More often than not this will results in her spending her time thinking how she can add to the date - sexy lingerie, a surprise blowjob in the car etc. When you're a good leader, she'll become your number one supporter.
Take her wine tasting. Take her for a short hike. Take a day trip somewhere. Go to a gaming arcade. It's not the activity that matters, it’s how you do it. If you go wine tasting, fuck her in the vineyards on a tractor. If you go on a hike, smoke a joint and get lost in nature, also fuck her with an amazing view. Go day tripping and stop next to a lake that says no swimming and go skinny dipping. Go to a festival and get fucked up together. Go to the gaming arcade, cheat on all the machines so you get a bunch of tickets and get her a huge teddy bear (These are all things I’ve done).
I’m not advocating doing anything Illegal, most you'll get for these is a slap on the wrist. What I am advocating is giving her a thrill. A point of excitement. A rush. I’m advocating evoking emotion in her, going to dinner at your favorite restaurant for the 3rd time in a row and talking about your day isn’t going to do that. Try do something memorable every time you go out. Do it to the point where it becomes second nature to you. When you're having fun, and leading, inevitably she will too. It becomes a habit to have fun.
Women in my experience are naughtier than men. They'll be as game as you are(you leading). As time goes on you'll find that they are coming up with ideas and things to do on a date. They become so attached to you because they associate time with you with good feelings. Their mind connects thrilling, exciting emotions to you, this is what they believe to be "love". The higher regard they hold you in the more they want to do to please you. They behave where you set the bar. If you're very wild, fun, adventurous, they'll love you for it and feel comfortable showing their wilder side too. They take comfort knowing that you have their best interests at heart and let out their inner animal, just for you.
Most of the time people start off in a ball of fire but stagnate as the relationship goes on. People slip into comfort. Which has never made sense to me. Life is still happening, why should it be more boring because you've been together longer? You don't stop doing fun shit with your guy friends? Why should your relationship be any different. In the past I've been with a woman for 4 years and nothing changed. We adventured and explored and got up to all sorts of mischievous endeavors in year 4 just as we did in year 1, because it was fun. I was fun. And she wanted to be apart of it.
Don't do it for her, do it for yourself.
It goes for as long as it goes, and if it ends it ends, but do you want to look back on a relationship that deteriorated into a Netflix bingeathon and pizza(although that can be great on occasion) or do you want to look back on an endless list of memories that you've built up over a thrilling period in your life. Yes Hypergamy and yes AWALT but why would she look for a thrill, or excitement, or feelz anywhere else when she's so busy having a ball with you.
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