I see this image being created of the ideal relationship being one of the super submissive feminine female with the super dominant masculine male. It sounds good on paper but you should be seeking balance in yourself and in your partner. Submissive doesn't have to mean weakness and victimhood. She should be strong enough to keep herself together without your constant attention. Being the one to make every decision in the relationship sounds great if you never had control over anything before, but the reality can be exhausting.
There is a danger period in learning game, TRP, pickup, whatever.. Where men think they are winning but fail to screen properly beyond a few traits. Beware of the super submissive woman.
Red Flags:
She is not just submissive to you. She is constantly seeking outside council for her own life from friends, family, coworkers, television, etc.. The truth is, you are not, nor should you want to be, the only person in her life. If she does not have enough self esteem to be assertive with others in her world, your relationship will have so many outside influences that it can never succeed. Her friends and family are not on the same page with you and your goals.
She is unable to make decisions in her domain. "What should I wear?" "What should I cook?" "What restaurant should we go to for my mom's birthday?" And a thousand other questions you don't give a shit about.. You do not want the extra work. And don't be surprised when she over compensates by making decisions with no real reason but to get it over with
She is the scapegoat/caregiver for all of her friends. At first you might think it is a positive, that she cares for people.. But the truth is she may have made herself the tampon of the group. Your problems will never be as important as her friend who just had a bad breakup, her meth addicted ex roomate's custody battle, her coworker from ten years ago's mom dying, some girl you never heard of got too drunk and needs a ride home at 2am.. Be prepared to look like and feel like an asshole for expecting to be the center of her attention when there is a crisis happening in one of 50 other people's lives. You want a woman who will be a mother to your children, not a mother to 10 dysfunctional adults.
She gets fucked over by various people and never does anything about it.. Her mechanic ripped her off. nothing happened. Her landlord fucked her over. Nothing you can do about that.. Her sister borrowed money and will never pay her back.. Well that's just how life goes sometimes.. You do not want to put yourself in the position of trying to save her from these people. You can't show too much anger either or tell her that she is responsible for putting them in their place.. They worked the same alpha male dominance on her and she accepts it.
She thinks 20 pounds is heavy and expects you to carry things for her all the time. There is a huge range of physical strength before a woman starts to appear bulky or overly masculine. A fit, normal looking woman should be able to throw a 70 pound child over her shoulder and carry them up steps. If she is unable to do that, she does not work out and is unfit for the responsibilities of LIFE. Being feminine does not mean being physically weak. If you think it's cute that she asks you to do little things like that, remember it will not be cute after you worked 10 hours on some construction site and she expects you to do all the "heavy lifting" around the house after that as well.
She feels no need to be able to change a tire, check oil or have even basic knowledge of automobiles.. Again, you will not constantly be with her. She should look forward to learning new things that can help her in the future, not feel like she doesn't have to because a man will always be there. Do you really want to drop everything and drive 30 minutes to change a flat on her car because you both decided that is "your job"?
So there are a few things to screen for when looking for a quality woman. Life is about balance. Bad things happen. You want someone who will be an asset and not a constant liability to your happiness and lifestyle. The super submissive girl will make your life easy for a little while, but be on the lookout for signs of balance in her personality.
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