So if you didn’t read the post on here last evening a guy named Rian Stone or whoever? Posted a story and made it abundantly clear there is no reason in hell, a 6’3 140lb goofeball should be marrying Ariana Grande. But I think I know why.

Congruency. How many of you have heard that word in this forum? It means you act in belief with your values by demonstrating high value

What does this look like? It’s literally showing you IDGAF if you like me or not so take it or leave it. I have a video to share with you in case you wanna see what I’m talking about. I encourage everyone to watch it before posting a comment.

https://youtu.be/RTJeCP1Xg24

So if you imagined you were acting in direct compliance with yourself at all times. What would you say? How would you dress? Who would you approach? All good questions. Only you can decide. No one on this forum can tell you who you. Everybody has the answer.

There’s also something worth mentioning here and it’s Shakespeare All the worlds a stage and all the men and women are merely players. Everyone has their entrances and exits, at different stages, at different ages of their life. So be exactly who you are at all times and watch yourself interact with people. Watch yourself get dressed, watch yourself go to work and interact with those your living with. That’s all you do. Everyone should write that on your bathroom mirror and keep it written down in your journals because congruency is the only thing that’s going to help you to have a healthy relationship.

TLDR; Be you in charge.