There is nothing revolutionary about this post – it is merely a field report providing supporting evidence for the importance of abundance mentality.

I am a late 20s/early 30s male living in a typical large American city. At the time of this event a couple months ago I was banging girl 1 (Age 25, HB8), but she was out of town for work for the week. I had been on one date with girl 2 (Age 29, HB6.5). I hadn’t banged her but lots of making out and heavy interest on the first date.

It was a weeknight and I wanted to do something so I texted girl 3 (Late 30s, HB6.5), that I had been talking to on Tinder. Girl 2 had asked me what I was doing earlier but I ignored it. Older chicks can be fun and it seemed from our texting that she would be an easy lay. She said that she was with some friends at a bar near her place but that they were leaving soon and she invited me to meet her.

When I meet her at the bar, the first thing I noticed is that she was a “regular” at this place and kept on talking to the bartender and another guy on her other side as much as to me. She was also mildly drunk and had an arrogant, off-putting personality. I tried to redirect the conversation several times and she seemed interested, putting her hand on my thigh once, but then her attention would wander and she would start talking to someone else again.

After about 15 minutes of this I started getting pissed. How could some late 30s chick with a lower SMV than me think that she could pull this shit? Rather than losing my shit though, I simply stood up, put my hand on her shoulder, and said, “Nice to meet you. I’m gonna head out.” She didn’t say anything but just stared back at me with a stupid shocked look on her face.

While outside waiting for an uber home, I texted girl 2 that I had been getting a drink with a buddy but that “I could be convinced to stay out.” She agreed to come meet me at a bar within walking distance of my place. We met, had a very pleasant evening, and a few pitchers later she was on her back in my bed with her legs over her shoulders.

The lesson is that as the side bar states, abundance mentality is key. If I wasn’t banging girl 1, the hottest and youngest of the bunch, I probably would have responded hungrily when girl 2 texted me. Instead I ignored it, which got her hamster spinning and generated interest. If I hadn’t had an unanswered text from girl 2 sitting in my phone, I probably would have kept trying harder to score with girl 3, wasting my time and putting up with disrespect.

Abundance mentality derived from actual abundance cuts through all the bullshit and you don’t have to fake it – you just act naturally and do whatever you want. I didn’t ignore girl 2’s text because I was consciously playing some sort of game. I just felt like trying out girl 3 that night. Similarly, I wasn’t executing an intricate strategy when I ditched girl 3. She was just pissing me off and I didn’t feel like spending any more time with her.

Of course, if you don't happen to have an abundance of options at a given time, you should try to act like you do. Girls are evolved to see through that shit though. The real thing will always be more effective.