BP myths float around in areas of life outside romantic relationships and women as well. There is this romantic idea that one day you're going to find your one true passion and then you will not have to work another day of your life. And today, I am going to call out the BS on this, because this statement has been hurled around without any idea what it really means, and it's ruined a whole generation from real growth.

In my university I've seen far too many people go down the mediocre path thinking that their passion will one day come after which their life will be complete. It was silly and they missed all the opportunities in front of them, never satisfied for too long with any one. As soon as things got a bit tough, jump ship. There are a lot of people who just changed majors as soon as things got tough. I swear a lot of student debt is simply because people want BP love for their "passion" rather than being passionate as a way of living, and putting that energy into something that is actually worth the investment.

And we wonder why they're doing the same thing in relationships as well.

First of all, this very idea simply postpones your best living to the future, which kind of guarantees that it's never going to happen. It's reactive, and another form of blue pill "Happily Ever After" myth. And it fails because the only real life you ever have is the life you've got right now.

There is no "ultimate life purpose" or "passion" as we are told to believe it is. This is yet another BP oneitis idea - only this is applied to your purpose rather than a girl. Look around and see what you can contribute without reservations. When ideas start to come, you won't have time or energy for all of them - there are that many issues out there to solve.

And don't think the road is easy. If I make you work all day on your "passion", for most BP guys it will evaporate like water in the Atacama desert. As a man, there is no escape from the blood, sweat and tears. The very word "passion" comes from a latin word that means "pain". Romance is sweet, but it is naively idealistic. It seldom passes the test of reality. You can call anything as your passion at the start, but the work involved in getting into the 99th or 99.9th percentile (yes) will test your BP ideas.

Just like there is no "The one woman" there is no "The one purpose". When you stop thinking about this one ultimate purpose that will be perfect for you and complete your existence -- only then you come back down to reality and look around. You'll be present for what's in front of you rather than waiting for something to come in the future - and that's really the only reality you've ever got. Everyone creates their future in this moment all the time with whatever they've got. That's the point that you realize when you come back down to this moment. This moment is the only one where you're creating. When you wait for the future or stay stuck in the past, you don't live. Your energy and ideas do not flow.

There are many real problems and things you can do right now however - and you need not spin your work with the complexities of spinning plates. Ok, no one asked you to solve all the world's issues, nor are you bigger than the totality of life itself, but look around. You will find a lot of stuff that no one bothers to address because they're all stuck in needy, reactive, consumer entitled mentalities. Even making a difference in one of them will change your life in ways you didn't imagine.

Anything that you think will complete your quest or whatever variation of it - it's bound to show you its limits sooner or later. Then you'll start thinking "This doesn't <cough> <cough> feel right. Maybe I'm meant for some other stuff" - ok, sometimes this is true. Most jobs suck after a point. Lots of people suddenly hit on an opportunity and took it and changed tracks and became something greater than what they'd been before. This is all true.

But it doesn't happen in a needy manner - you were needy, then you found your purpose and now you're blissed out. So long as you're needy, you'll keep drifting from purpose to purpose and keep wondering why you still feel incomplete. It's one more BP belief that has probably ruined an entire generation of homo sapiens who find to their shock that the world ain't idealistic as they thought it should be

Well, the real problem is YOU. You lack abundance. You think like a consumer. You believe stuff that isn't real and it's impossible. This is at the root of your incompleteness that's keeping you seeking. You think there's one and only "ideal purpose, career, woman, or way to life your life" and those ideas become your biggest limitation. You could actually find a lot more if you drop your ideas of oneitis in your life. You are incomplete because of your lack of abundance. Your creative energy is stuck and can't flow because your beliefs are unrealistic and self sabotaging. That is causing stress and pain within you, and it is guaranteed to ensure that you never get what you want.

Here's the reality. Most people just came up with ideas because something in their life sucked and they wanted to solve it. There was a need and it had to be resolved. The rest is a lot of blood sweat and tears, and only someone with some measure of abundance can even go ahead and sweat it out - reactive people who're consumers simply sit on the sidelines and criticize about how bad the world is - proactive people are the only ones abundant enough to try and do something about it. None of them thought that this was going to be really their ultimate purpose. For most of them, dropping their ideas of oneitis in life led them to find abilities they never even knew they had. And that's how the passion or life purpose began to grow and happen.

As an example, look at Grover (NMMNG). His problem was he began to attach expectations to his book, thinking it ought to reach Oprah, touch a lot of people, be absolutely perfect, etc. As soon as he got outcome dependent, work stalled. The reality is that no one can really work on an outcome, only a person and a process. The outcome is what happens at the end, whereas the reality was that his present should have only been occupied with the process of writing his book. He finally completed his book when he dropped all the ideas of what it should do and just did what he felt was the right thing needed for this world. That was possible (and it was the only really possible thing), so it happened.

There's another guy called Mike Matthews who spent 7 years making limited gains, found out what was wrong, built himself up, decided to build others up, and now he's probably the biggest fitness resource out there on the internet. He wrote 2 books that are now up there with Mark Ripptoe's starting strength. I learnt how to lift and diet from his blog and books - for the first time I made real, shocking gains. I don't think he fancied it would become something that big in such a short time, but he just kept at it and it got better and better and better, and now it's his life purpose. That's how abundance works. A needy guy would have simply cursed the imperfect world for having cheated him and would not have progressed beyond giving his gym a 1 star review on google, and still stayed fat or skinny a decade later.

There's a guy called Mate Rimac who essentially created the automobile industry that was non-existent in his country. Right now, he just made the most powerful production car in any category, the Rimac C_Two, with 1914 HP.

What people fail to realize is that "Finding your passion" is a statement that can only be said when someone has gone through the whole process of growth, faced everything that comes along the way and found success and fulfillment in whatever they have done. Passion is something built over a lifetime as a result of being passionate and determined, it must never be confused with the initial lure of the honeymoon phase. This is not the love of instant attraction, it is the love created by a lifetime of devotion.

The myth tries to tell youngsters that they'll never to face difficulties or BS along their way, which is blatantly untrue. The reality is that the master has faced and overcome more obstacles and failures than the student has even tried or is capable of imagining.

In retrospect, you look back and many of those difficulties were not really so bad when you see them in the light of growth and evolution. That realization brings new peace and strength within oneself. Only the guy who's built his body up from scratch and is now an inspiration to others has the right to say that "Fitness is my passion". The beginner doesn't really know what that even means.

Proactive people who've gone the distance and have come to the top where they reap the fruits of their crop are the only ones with any right to talk about their life purpose. Reactive people who expect to one day find their ultimate purpose will never find anything worth it.

Many others didn't have a choice, sometimes life just went in a certain direction, but accepted it and excelled at it. For most of humanity, we were in fact like this. It's only in the 21st century that we're spoiled for choice. And now we wonder which of them is the right one, when in reality none of them are really perfect. There is no perfection in life except the level of perfection you bring into it. It's a journey, not an end goal.

Giving up the idea of the "idealized one option" is the best thing you can do with your life - because that's when you'll look around and find a thousand other options for taking, which you never noticed. Our ancestors would pity us because they didn't have jack shit in comparison to what we have, but they invented everything we use today, while we just sit and whine expecting the world to offer itself up on a platter. Reactive people simply keep waiting and become resentful when there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Proactive and abundant people just invented the torch instead. Necessity is the mother of invention. Abundance is the mother of opportunity.

Proactive people often have no idea that their impact really turned out to be so significant and are often shocked by the results and what abundance flows into their lives - but it's always as an outcome. The only thing they did right was they worked on themselves and their work and saw an opportunity and went for it. What really drives proactive people is not the idealized end reward, but belief and a willingness to try where other people's own minds tell them that they can't do shit - and therefore other people really can't do shit. Most proactive people got mocked in the beginning, people told them they were crazy, but eventually those same critics shamelessly become their biggest fans (although some of them are too stuck in their jealousy and self hate to ever admit it).

TRP and it's associated impact itself is an example. I am sure no one did what they did thinking that they are certain to have this much of an impact - they did what they knew was needed. Somehow it came up to the 21 convention, to the point where BP society sees awakened men as a threat. I'm honestly surprised it got this far. I'm in fact shocked I'm even able to grasp and write this. In the last one year, I've used my writing skills to get noticed in my personal circles. I didn't expect it would unfold like this, or where it will lead to next, but hey, I've never felt more energized and alive either, despite difficulties.

Don't think that just because you see and opportunity, life is settled. It ain't settled until it's done. If you're really abundant, you can put in the effort as well. Do not think that life will be free of difficulties or growing pains, or that these difficulties are even a bad thing in the first place. This is unrealistic. When one sees life in terms of growth and evolution, one comes to a state of acceptance and then focuses on doing what they can with what they've got - consequently one becomes stronger and more joyful. When we believe that difficulties and discomfort are a totally bad thing, a sign that something is wrong, that life is only supposed to be full of pleasures, that one day we will be forever free from if we just find that special something or someone, we're setting our generation up for disaster. You need not believe me, just look at the obesity epidemic vs the ones who're making themselves fit in the gym.

The life purpose is not something that happens in the beginning. It's the result of a lifetime of purposeful living. Reactive people want it to happen before the beginning, which is BS. For proactive people, passion is a way of life, not some thing that you find one day and then life's perfect.

The guys who talk about not working another day are already fulfilled within to a great extent and they're hardy enough to tolerate pain and sweat. They're the only ones with any right to use the term. BP guys listen to that, then they listen to their ideas of what they think it means, and they will get disappointed.

Oneitis locks you up in a limited range of possibilities and it locks your energy into a conditional existence who's conditions can never be truly met. The lack of energy and abundance mentality in your life will make you depressed and resentful down the road.

If you plant a tree and water it for the sole purpose of giving you a perfect fruit, you'll be disappointed when things don't happen as expected. If you plant a tree because it's the right thing to do and you can do it, you might end up planting an entire rainforest of trees over a lifetime and inspire a whole bunch of other people as well. Lots of things happen that are far more significant than your limited ideas of "life purpose". The guy who made the rainforest can talk about how it ended up becoming his life purpose. The guy who's waiting to find his life purpose before planting a single tree won't plant a single one in his lifetime, and he'll still be waiting in the future because life never happens in the future, it happens now. There is actually a guy who did this.

There is no perfect life in the future, there is only the real life you live right now.

There is no one passion or ultimate life purpose out there. But if you look around, there are in fact many things you can do, and over a lifetime of dedication and success, you might look back and talk about how one of them became your passion or life purpose. Ideas are abundant, it's just that we need them to be in a way that they can never be, which is why we never find them.

Oneitis makes you needy for the perfect life purpose that never comes, abundance makes you willing to invest in a thousand purposes and make a difference in at least some of them. You might be good at a few things better than others, and so you'll tailor your approach accordingly. Your time and energy is limited, the requirements are exacting and lofty, and your abilities specialized, so don't be surprised if you can only end up doing justice to 1 or 2 things, but hey, that's how it works. Those then become your passion or purpose. Even they aren't forever. Over your life, things may change, and other roads may open up as well.

In a feminized BP society where fleeting emotions are given far more importance than strength and stability, this is yet another consequence of people saying things without any idea what they're talking about - it is childish prattle. This whole idea that difficulties are a bad thing and that we'll be free of them and live "Happily ever after" as soon as we get that "one purpose" or that "one person" is bullshit that has ruined an entire generation with expectations that are totally out of tune with life, and set them up for disappointment, and debt, that they are then incapable of handling, because they lack strength and stability, and money.

It is much easier to just be passionate and proactive as a way of being than to make it dependent on an ideal that does not exist. Only when the tree of devotion has fully grown and come full circle do words like passion or love actually mean something that works.