My ex falsely accused me of rape and nothing happened of it cause I didn’t. BUT

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November 6, 2018
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Alright so the title pretty much explains it. I explained myself to a detective without self incrimination because that’s honestly the only choice I had because I’m flat out broke. (currently getting my shit together)

BUT. After she falsely accused me. I can’t even think about having sex for the moment. It’s like my mind can’t believe the dumb bitch pulled that cause I thought we were good and both moved on. I’ve been radio silent for a long time now. I don’t even feel like approaching for the moment let alone have sex. This normal?


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Title My ex falsely accused me of rape and nothing happened of it cause I didn’t. BUT
Author SteveRogersPill
Upvotes 115
Comments 61
Date 06 November 2018 12:11 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/53733
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/9uns5u/my_ex_falsely_accused_me_of_rape_and_nothing/
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[–]Mr_Queef 1 points [recovered]  (9 children) | Copy

welcome back to the anger phase. it's like having a warm doona pulled off suddenly.

what a cunt

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 31 points32 points  (2 children) | Copy

Back to square one I guess lol

[–]Xkirbyx8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learning lesson bro you got lucky life’s a shit show sometimes

[–]xddm26532 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Counter-sue? Get a lawyer

[–]baconsativa17 points18 points  (4 children) | Copy

I had to Google what a doona is. :/

[–]MallowPallow5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Same lmao

[–]friendandadvisor2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Well?

[–]cojohnso5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Doona” - Australian for quilt that has air pockets filled with down or another (usually synthetic equivalent) material; synonymous with “duvet.” The British equivalent is “Continental Quilt.”

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you.

[–]RomeNeverFell2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is there a list of phases somewhere? I can't find it.

[–]1atticusfinch197366 points67 points  (3 children) | Copy

Of course it's normal, you're going to take a long time to trust a woman again. With good reason.

Hate to say but not smart talking to a detective without a lawyer. There are free ones out there.

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 24 points25 points  (2 children) | Copy

Oh I 100% knew that which is why I meditated beforehand and spoke to my best friend (he’s a cop) about the situation and he walked me through it

[–]vicious_armbar 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Everyone knows that meditation negates the need for legal counsel!

[–]Virachi6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Will meditate when I talk to police after committing my next crime

[–]2319Skew47 points48 points  (5 children) | Copy

Women will hit you wherever they can find a spot to hurt you.

Source: Ex wife tried to claim assault charges to get custody of our child. Didn't work since she stated it occurred right after we married (over 8 years ago) and I have no criminal, abuse, or any kind of negative record.

Also inferred that I, as an atheist, porn watching, homosexual tolerant, pork loving, beer guzzling, was going to raise my son under strict Islamic law.

Repeat: Women will hit you wherever they can find a spot to hurt you.

[–]johnpayne1016 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

Also inferred that I, as an atheist, porn watching, homosexual tolerant, pork loving, beer guzzling, was going to raise my son under strict Islamic law.

That's hilarious. Although imo stay the hell away from porn.

[–]2319Skew13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Funny. Now. Not funny when you are in court paying insane legal fees because of it.

[–]johnpayne109 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I get it man. Kinda insensitive so...but I feel ya

[–]TheFratStar1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Also inferred that I, as an atheist, porn watching, homosexual tolerant, pork loving, beer guzzling, was going to raise my son under strict Islamic law.

​Atheist, but would raise child under strict islamic law yet is homosexual tolerant AND on top of that porn watching, while drinking and eating pork?

Did she even think that none of that made any sense? That's rough man.

[–]2319Skew4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

There was no sense. It didn't matter that I had loved and was faithful for a third of my existence. It didn't matter that I supported her when no one else did for her business ventures.

She didn't care that I grew up in a single mother household and never wanted that.

She didn't care that I moved to another place to make it easy on her.

It didn't matter that I had put into our savings and that I cleared her debt.

She was hurt and upset. She wanted to hurt me. I had left. She couldn't harm me by denying me sex. She couldn't fuck some random dick to spite me.

So she went after my money. But money can be made.

When all that love she had turned sour, she went after my heart the only way she can.

It's a surreal mind fuck.

This wasn't a club slut. This was a virgin, religious submissive, timid, shy thing. The sweet girl that didn't drink or do drugs. She believed in traditional family values. A book worm that volunteered at the community and took care of the elderly.

That woman that people blamed ME for what she originally did because how would this sweet thing ever do something so malicious.

For anyone thinking that you found a unicorn, read this and know that there are no unicorns. Just ticking time bombs and landmines.

[–]Popeman7931 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man I feel you. In my bluepill days I would understand that there were straight up mean bitches out there, who would lie with no remorse. But it wasn't about female nature, it was about bad people.

Then at some point it's one of the good girls who does stab you in the back, one who you always trusted, one who you didn't do anything bad to. And then it really hurts, to realize that given the right circumstances, a woman's feels will overcome any sense of righteousness and trust.

It'll take time to start enjoying women again with this knowledge, but you will. Hang strong.

[–]omega_dawg9322 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

today's younger women throw the word, "RAPE" around in every sentence.

WTF?!?

as soon as they are upset, a new form of rape is invented.

[–]SalporinRP18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude don't ever talk to a police officer without a lawyer present what are you doing?

Easiest way to self-incriminate yourself.

[–]KingSlapFight8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is nothing to gain by talking to police, and only something to lose. STFU.

[–]Nergaal8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stay away from her. Never allow her to get back near you. Ever

[–]DadOnDabs8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Had the same thing happen with a girl I didn't even fuck her. Had her recorded in a phone call saying I didn't do anything but still had a lot of ramifications from it going around.

Still fucks with my head to this day.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I got accused of drugging a girl one time after drunkenly making out. I just dont pursue women anymore at bars or when drinking. New rule. Too dangerous out there. Its super popular among these cunts to try to accuse dudes of they regret a night out. GYOW

[–]JoesIcedTea2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

GYOW?

Go yo own way?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep

[–]KingSlapFight5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have had two mildly false claims (not to police). One was a LTR had sex with me after her feelings had changed, unknown to me. After we broke up, she referred to me "forcing her" to have sex. Uh spit-take? I asked her to clarify and after a brief conversation, she admitted I didn't force shit, she just secretly wasn't sure about things and felt obliged to do it so I wouldn't know she was having second thoughts.

The other time was a date with a woman who was really into me. During the date, she offered to pay her half, and I accepted. She acted perturbed I actually allow her to pay for herself. That turned me off to seeing her again. She came back around to being into me, we kissed goodnight at the end (a mutual receptive move -- I didn't act on my own), and went our way. I texted her and she said she had a nice time. I didn't set up another date or contact her again because she was kinda snotty about paying.

A few weeks later, I had a few beers and was horny, and my dick decided maybe she wasn't so snotty. I sent her a text and she was very hostile (obviously she was upset I had ghosted her for a couple weeks). Fortunately she didn't claim rape, but she did claim I forced her to kiss me, and that's why she didn't like me. She also referred to how she wanted to see someone she could take home to her parents, and I wasn't that material because I didn't pay. So yeah, my dick was wrong and she was very snotty. I'm glad I didn't have sex with her after the date (she was into it), as the false forced kiss claim could've been a false rape claim.

I've had other non sexual false claims by women (being attacked and not retaliating, then them claiming I was the aggressor, etc.) but I won't bore you with my whole life story.

The point is, I've had these experiences, and I seriously struggle with having any desire to have sex with a new woman. All I see is a vehicle to fuck up my life, give me disease, or strap me with an unwanted child if a condom breaks. You aren't alone. A lot of "red pill" guys are all about getting as much (shitty) pussy as they can. That's fine, you be you man. Personally I don't desire every hot piece of ass, and while I definitely don't pedastalize any woman, I do tend to only hook up with those that don't throw up a bunch of red flags. I might still get burned, but at least my dick will work if I can kinda convince myself my life isn't going to get ruined by fucking.

[–]gadabout134 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

https://youtu.be/d-7o9xYp7eE

sorry to hear that...watch this tho. very educational

[–]moltenw0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Does it apply outside U.S as well?

[–]gadabout130 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

im not sure...im candaian so im going to find out

[–]Iceklimber4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

detective

False accusations are a social media smear campaigns, or underhand tactic in family court for child custody & alimony.

As soon as a real police is involved that shit falls apart

[–]staubgame10 points11 points  (13 children) | Copy

Not sure how this works or can go but any way you could get at her for phychological trauma?

[–]Dusttyy 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy

I was falsely accused of rape not too long ago. Everyone suggested I go after her for my lawyer fees and this sort of thing. However, it’s very difficult because the burden of proof then falls on you to prove that the accusation was false beyond reasonable doubt. You’ll need more than just lack of proof the rape occurred. I even had a little more proof than that, but my lawyers didn’t think it would be quite enough to be a slam dunk or without legal struggle.

My suggestion would be ghost her completely and not bring it up to family or friends or anyone. Try to move on and even try to sleep with other women. I know you mentioned this is hard and I know how you feel, but just going out and even dates can be enough. Pretty much dread game. Accuser may get jealous and come crawling back. Don’t respond unless she admits she lied or you can get her to admit she lied. Then contact an attorney immediately. The consultation will be free, and if your case is strong enough and if the specific attorney is worth his salt, they’ll work on contingency.

[–]ActaNonVerbargh14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

The burden of proof in a civil trial isn't beyond a reasonable doubt, it's much lower.

[–]ahackercalled4chan8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

civil trials work on preponderance of evidence. if you show enough evidence that the chick was into you & enjoying herself, then it supports that the accusation was false.

however, this is very difficult to do if it was just a ONS with only 4 or 5 text messages as your evidence.

[–]xddm26530 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

always send a follow-up text "I had a great time;)" after fucking a girl. Her reply will be your defense

[–]kylerosa210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I actually love you

[–]gains_o_clock0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What if she does it to other men?

[–]RunawayGrain13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

My crazy ex did the same, but whipped up the mob instead of going to the cops. Your best bet is to have a good life, while watching hers slowly implode from afar.

Because if she does something this shitty, she will continue to do shitty things until it finally catches up to her.

[–]mineralranch1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Has this happened in your case? I know it's a waste of energy to rely on justice being served, but my mind still fantasizes about her creating her own personal hell.

[–]RunawayGrain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. It's not Karma or any mystical force. Just realize that the kind of person that will level false accusations just to smooth over their own rep, or because they got angry, or for whatever reason generally isn't an introspective person who' going to analyze their own behavior and change it until they are forced to. People like that are kind of like yeast in that they suck up all of their fuel, and die off once it runs out.

[–]1InformalCriticism7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, there's certainly no legal recourse. Ask me how I know.

Spoiler: it happened to ... MeToo.

[–]derrtderr2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

False accusations of rape are slander per se. If the charges are dropped, OP has a defamation cause of action.

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wish

[–]christophertracy924 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Many guys can go through monk phases. It's not bad or abnormal.

Women, regardless whether we are talking about one or many (plates), are not supposed to be the focus of your life. You can go through some periods alone.
Just focus on your goals , your values and move on.

It's normal to feel angry and reluctant to approach again for now. You don't have to.

There are only so many fucks we can give to worry about a crazy girl.

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh I know, I don’t care about the girl nor have I spoke to her in 5 months which is why I’m even more bothered that this happened.

[–]mineralranch2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've already written about this a few times but this happened to me like a month ago. An ex accused me on social media five years after the fact. Some women are fucking shitty, man. I'm sorry this happened to you and I understand what you're thinking and going through. If you want someone to talk to feel free to dm me.

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you bro

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

what a piece of shit

[–]bradtwo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

How did she accuse you? Formally (police) or informally (word of mouth). If the first way, ask to file a false report against her.

Next get a restraining order against her.

Cut off all contact forever.

[–]synthetic_kinetic2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You should do a write up on the main sub (or the new forums) about what exactly you did/said to make it go away.

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I will

[–]seedster51 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Where do you guys find these fucked up monsters. My parents red pilled me and my mom taught me not to trust women. Surprise, they're not American.

[–]KingSlapFight9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Where do we find these women? Dude, just leave your fucking house and throw a rock, you'll hit one.

[–]SteveRogersPill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

LOL

[–]rationalmillenial1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Happened too me too. DO NOT TALK TO THE POLICE OR DETECTIVES. PERIOD. Do not mention it on social media. The only real pain you will have from this is your reputation being scarred. Get ready to lose some friends. Keep it low key and don't try to convince people unless your asked about it first. Hang in there homie.

[–]MNCPA0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sadly, yes. If she regrets, then it's your fault. Some people can't believe that they have regrets or mistakes, so they blame you. It's not fair.

[–]DeontologicalSanders0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I can’t even think about having sex for the moment.

Uh, yeah you can. Why wouldn't you? You did nothing wrong, and she told an atrocious lie to try to make herself feel better.

Plus, if you were to willfully abstain from sex, it would just make it look like you did something wrong. Which you didn't, right? Part of what she was after was an emotional reaction; she didn't care how low she had to stoop to get it. Only that she got it.

Don't be a pussy. Don't let her win.



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