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My girlfriend has better dread game than me

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November 9, 2018
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I went out last Friday and got really pissed and she didn’t like it so she didn’t speak to me for a few days. She still wasn’t speaking to me into the week so I decided not to speak with her.

Got to tonight and we still weren’t speaking. She doesn’t come home from work until 11 I was worried sick calling hospitals and her phone multiple times.

I guess the moral of the story is don’t be such a huge pussy.

Any feedback would be appreciated.


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Title My girlfriend has better dread game than me
Author Cruise25111
Upvotes 64
Comments 48
Date 09 November 2018 11:18 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/53851
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/9vpdgu/my_girlfriend_has_better_dread_game_than_me/
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[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen189 points190 points  (10 children) | Copy

I went out last Friday and got really pissed and she didn’t like it so she didn’t speak to me for a few days. She still wasn’t speaking to me into the week

That's not dread game, but it's creating unnecessary drama. the proper answer is soft next.

https://archive.li/nrGrE

http://archive.li/Qb83t

I was worried sick calling hospitals and her phone multiple times.

Reading this made me physically uncomfortable. Pathetic.

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

You seem to be well versed with soft next, so I'd like to ask, let's say you want to soft next for 5 days, if the girl never initiates contact, do you contact her 5 days after the soft next, or do you extend the soft next until she initiates.

[–]ArnoldBateman19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

What exactly is this concept of soft next for X number of days. I always understood a soft next to mean you don't initiate contact and if she doesn't then you just move on. A "soft next" that only applies for a certain amount of time isn't a next at all. It's just ignoring a girl for a couple days. If you aren't willing to say goodbye then I don't see how it's any type of "Next."

[–]TRP Vanguardnicethingyoucanthave9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have you ever seen the trope of a bratty little kid telling his parents he's going to run away? He takes a few steps, then turns around to make sure they're watching. His parent's just laugh, because they know he's not going anywhere.

That's what this is:

What exactly is this concept of soft next for X number of days.

"Next" means you're on to the next one. "Soft next" also means you're on to the next one - but you are still open to the possibility of allowing her to come back to you if she wants to and if she changes her behavior. It does not mean you pout like a spoiled kid for a few days, and then contact her.

If a girl is seriously disrespectful or cheating or something, you hard next her. Do not take her back. Block her number. It's over. But if a girl is mostly okay, but just doing one thing wrong (nagging for example), you soft next her. In both cases, you should be out looking for the next girl. You should not be watching a calendar and counting the days.

/u/Cruise25111, you've fucked up a number of things here, but it's okay. We've all done it - I've done it multiple times. Try to be stronger in your next relationship, but accept that this one is over. Get her out of your house, and start fucking other women.

In the future, don't give them quite that much commitment. Don't let them move in, at least not until their behavior is perfect. Try pushing women away. They'll pursue you, and then, because they pursued you, if you give them commitment, it will be valuable to them because they'll have earned it.

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's what I'm trying to clarify. Everyone might just have a different view.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

Depends on the girl and the kind of incident.

Five days usually means that the incident wasn't too bad and I will usually initiate contact. Some girls will just never take the initiative, because they fear the consequences. If you want to keep seeing them, you will have to take the lead.

A soft next can very well become a hard next though or it can become an infinite soft next. Also depends on how much I like the girls.

You'll have to set the rules for that kind of stuff and stick to it.

[–]vverons 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Reading this made me physically uncomfortable. Pathetic.

Do you mean you felt op was pathetic or she was pathetic for creating this situation?

[–]empatheticapathetic6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP

[–]DebonairD87 points88 points  (1 child) | Copy

Imagine being in a relationship like this lol

[–]Thizzlebot30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

im not 12 so no

[–]PurpleRespect32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's not your girlfriend. You're her bitch I'm afraid.

And I'm not saying that to be antagonistic. She knows she has you by the balls.

[–]mrpoopistan25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'll argue for straight-on confrontation.

Flat-out tell her that her behavior is bullshit and that it needs to stop. Do not buy into her frame regardless of what argument she's selling. Be prepared to eject if your demands are not acknowledged and met.

[–]Themdubsup2somethin43 points44 points  (2 children) | Copy

Take the redpill and realize it’s a clear shit test, your only option now is to cheat since she clearly wants you to believe that she is.

[–]bigkids12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

0 to 100, real quick

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Started from the bottom

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

I went out last Friday and got really pissed

Okay

and she didn’t like it so she didn’t speak to me for a few days.

This has happened before, several times. She knows it works on you.

She still wasn’t speaking to me into the week

Big deal

so I decided not to speak with her.

This is a childish game, but okay, sure.

Got to tonight and we still weren’t speaking.

So you're "winning," right?

She doesn’t come home from work until 11

Because she's out fucking someone else (or wants you to think she is), and this girl has you so clocked she knows exactly what your reaction is going to be.

I was worried sick calling hospitals and her phone multiple times.

This is the reaction she wanted. Blowing up her phone, good job. . .

I guess the moral of the story is don’t be such a huge pussy.

There's way more to it than that.

Any feedback would be appreciated.

There's tons of feedback, but the list would be too long.

Start by nexting your girlfriend. This shit is clearly toxic.

Read the sidebar, multiple times.

[–]Rhyat4500 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Im new to asktrp what u mean by "Read the Sidebar"?

[–]FireDrillem30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

The assumption is that she cheated. Act accordingly.

[–]Thizzlebot13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

What an immature bullshit relationship.

[–]justicecantakeanap6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

If someone doesn't talk to you, don't try to talk to them.

Was going out with this girl for the last couple of months. She stopped calling and i will never call her.

I've got other stuff on my mind

[–]4matting2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

u/vandaalen properly showed you how to deal with her.

As for you, my advise would be for you to go out with your buddies, or by yourself, and have fun. Talk to chicks, get some numbers, do whatever you feel like. Get back into the abundance mentality, and then you'll have the mental clarity to make the right decision for youself.

DON'T waste your time being a loser while she's playing her little games. (Ie get drunk by yourself, play endless hours video games, and limit your masturbation. Actually don't masturbate at all, you'll get more motivation to go do what I suggested above)

[–]3chazthundergut3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whoever needs the other person less will always have the better dread game.

She obviously has the upper hand in the relationship. Go find someone who can look up to you.

[–]throwitdownman3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you don’t give her attention, some other man will. Learn and move on.

To the commenters, it is time to be objective. If the roles were reversed, there won’t be a problem. Meaning, she is acting exactly how a RP man would act if his LTR was in a similar situation (out drunk, getting mad, therefore soft next and dread).

This means that she’s either been alpha widowed, or is treating OP as a plate. You’re either in charge, or you’re being lead. I don’t see what she did as wrong.

[–]prash33n2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have u asked her why she doesn’t like seeing u in a drunken stupor?

[–]HIJKelemenoP5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Calling hospitals? Lawl.

[–]EnzoGold1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are you so emotional? Chill out and ignore her bullshit

[–]beginner_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn’t come home from work until 11 I was worried sick calling hospitals and her phone multiple times.

Besides the pathetic blow up of her phone, why do you even realized she wasn't home from work? Are you living together?

It's not that she has better dread game, it's that you are dreading yourself and are fully in her frame. You would feel 0 dread if you would have had plans and wouldn't even have recognized her being "late from work".

[–]BusterVadge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You got ghosted bro.

[–]satellite7795 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Is she a narcissist? Silent treatment is one of their signature moves. If so, run away.

[–]mrrooftops8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is classic Borderline Personality Disorder. He should GTFO

[–]koedeloe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't even sound like plate material.

[–]YesVeryKewl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why did you get really pissed?

Unless she did something really disrespectful, I don't see a reason why a couple won't speak to each other for a few days.

Maybe you guys are just sick of each other given that you live together? Seeing someone every single day, regardless of who they are, can become annoying.

[–]Casd120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I was worried sick calling hospitals and her phone multiple times.

Call the cops next time and organize a search and rescue

[–]AlfredKinsey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can I have your balls, since you're not using them? I hear they make a clean 200k on the black market.

[–]mrrooftops-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is classic Borderline Personality Disorder. GTFO

[–]mrrooftops-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Looks like someone with BPD doesn't like my revelation. Reee

[–]2319Skew0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Next. Read the side bar.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Why the fuck would anyone be in a relationship where someone does not speak to the other

[–]JustSatan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly my thoughts.

[–]masterpiece00-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a next - there's dread game and then there is obvious cheating. She's got another plate.

[–]MisplacedSanityP-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

The moral of the story is get your bitch in line. That's unacceptable behavior.

[–]TirionTheHallowed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No it isnt. He needs to get HIS bitch ass in line and stop being the way that he is.

[–]Bedtimeshine-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop playing a game and actually stop giving a fuck.

[–]addwater-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Translation:

I'm more invested in my LTR than she is in me

You need to fix that.

It ready boils down to increasing your value and abundance.

You need to communicate to your brain again that you have other options so you become less invested in her.

Your brain needs proof, not promises.

I.e start gaming other women, hell, even start fucking a girl on the side if that's what it takes.

[–]TheGoldenLeprechaun-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read some of your post history. I won't sugarcoat this, your shits all fucked up. Even if she is pregnant you should cancel the engagement asap and sell the ring. Alternatively, it could just be her BC pills fucking with her head and also causing the deadbedroom. But at this point I wouldn't even be certain the kid is yours.

In other words, get out now before you murder each other. Sidebar, monk mode, new girl, no fucking rings.

GL

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is she really your girlfriend? Or somebody else's? It seems like that latter is true. No chick can go no contact for more than a week. If she's still not contacting you after a week, you are not attractive enough and you should just next her.

Which you won't do, because you have oneitis. Never invest in a woman more than you will be willing to walk away in 30 seconds (paraphrasing a quote from movie Heat).

Women's currency is attention. Man's currency is sex. If she doesn't get attention she gets bitchy and sad and clingy etc. Now it seems she gets attention elsewhere because she is just fine ghosting you. Which is great. Let her go and do not fall into her frame again. She doesn't value you that much. And remember she will never ever ever love you how you wish to be loved. Women are incapable of unconditional love for a man. They love puppies, children, maybe parents. But never their men.

I doubt you will understand this advice or even go through it but.. when you will get older you will get it.



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