I have a sort of "Imposter Syndrome" and a perfectionist's mind.
I achieved many things in life since when I was a kid. I had a job as a graphic designer at 13, and in the last years I managed to increase my SMV to the point of being at least in the 20% in terms of looks (physique, self-care and style).
The problem is that, as a perfectionist, I never feel confident, because I aim at being perfect. Paradoxically, I'll never be perfect (just like anyone else out there) and that means I'll never be confident (if I keep having this mindset)
I feel like this is some really deep shit inside my brain since a young age, and I honestly don't know how to rewire the brain into thinking that I must be proud after achieving something that only a few can achieve.
Yet, I feel like it's entirely normal to achieve these things (while in reality it's not easy for the average man to go from a total nerd who jerks off 3 times/day and plays videogame to becoming someone who lifts 6 days a week, eats clean every day, do not watches tv, social media and does not get involved in all these consuming habits), so it doesn't increases my confidence.
I have the habits of a succesful man but the mindset of a mediocre man.
All this shit here is strictly connected with my unsuccesses with women.
As I don't feel like I'm enough (while I'm more than enough in reality), I am scared to approach, even if the girl sends buy signals.
I'm still young and I approached some girls in the past and got rejected. I noticed how it affected my self-esteem.
It's like if my self-esteem was related to my successes with women instead of being connected to what I achieved in life.
Basically, when I get rejected, I let it affect my self-esteem, even if I'm in the 20% of men and I should truly believe I'm the prize.
All this happens subconsciosly, and honestly I have no idea (that's why I'm asking here) how to rewire my brain into making me being confident for what I achieved in life, while deleting women out of the equation.
I've been reading TRP for a long time and I reached a point where reading more stuff can only do harm (without enough action).
Any advice is appreciated, thank you.
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