See my ex with her new bf at my gym

markinsinz7 · 2018-11-14T09:51:27+00:00

Hold up your a probably decent lookin dude - went back home after doing masters to do God knows what and now ran into a girl who you asked for a serious thing LAST FUCKIN HOLIDAYS she said no and now you are worked up enough over her and her new bf to write an ASKTRP post about it?

Sigh. Forget about her - she don't exist. Don't even acknowledge her - like don't even nod or make eye contact or stare. Remember that fat girl u saw at the gym? What, You don't remember her? Yea neither does anyone else and the same goes for that girl.

And I hope whatever reason u had to move back home had to be real good else your wasting time not making money off that masters

KilluaKanmuru · 2018-11-14T12:09:56+00:00

Pay more attention to your workout. Really grip the bar as if you're trying to break it. Be thankful and pay your respects to the iron and the gains you're about to receive.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-11-14T11:41:27+00:00

See my ex with her new bf at my gym

She knew.

Her bf checks me out.

He's comparing himself to you. In his head he's probably trying to think of ways that he's better than you.

and puff up my chest when I'm near them.

Don't do that. It's obvious to them and probably anybody who might know the situation what you're doing. It's childish and only gives them more opportunity to feel superior. You want them to think that you don't give 2 fucks about them. You don't care about her, and he shouldn't be on your radar. It's your gym, your territory. They want to work out there, fine, but whatever they're doing is their business.

The first time I saw them, I was debating whether to say hi and be cordial.

Fuck. No.

But, why should I care about people who don't give a shit about me?

This. 10000000% this. Meditate on this. This is the frame you want to live in. Not just with your ex and her new BF, but people in general.

I'm practicing to be more alpha. I try my best to not cower but naturally I do. I'm practicing to be better. Thanks trp.

Keep at it man. There's hope for you. You realize your weakness and know how to improve yourself.

someonesopinion6969 · 2018-11-14T13:07:57+00:00

Mate, alpha doesn't mean you ignore the other human beings you used to interact with. it's up to you to be butthurt that the girl you were banging has decided to bang someone else.

it'll hurt but saying you're being alpha is going to give you pain, you're only human and yes seeing your ex will hurt but only when an ex is classed as oneitus

kweikum1 · 2018-11-14T13:09:02+00:00

If you are working on grad school, and on food stamps, you have NO place looking for something serious. Spin plates that see your value and do not get hooked on an ltr. You have a ton of work to do going into the field you are studying for.

Note: once your out and filthy rich, the plates will be far more abundant. Do not throw it all away by falling in love before you reap what you have sewn.

As-You-Were · 2018-11-14T17:04:12+00:00

You’re in her frame. Get out of her frame.

Dude, you’re at the gym, have a masters degree, and you’re wondering what to say to some chick that’s going out with some nobody?

Leave her frame.

trucknutz36582 · 2018-11-14T15:58:49+00:00

Do not . Do not recycle relationships.

That’s like digging a steak out of the trash because it’s still edible. Hell naw.

There’s a reason she’s your ex. Doesn’t matter if it is her reason or yours, fact is the relationshit failed.

sixseven89 · 2018-11-14T13:57:33+00:00

Ignore

ethbytes · 2018-11-14T14:58:33+00:00

She responded she's seeing someone from her work place.

You were a plate... Learn from this one and do not repeat... I shit you not, Physician hopes will be lost in the stank mire of disposable nappies, take out boxes and hordes of feral spotty children...

Be cool with them. Say hi to both then do your thing. NO chit chat or puffing out like a Silver back. Workout like an animal and ignore. Odds are she will text you soon the hamster will go into over drive; just out of plain curiosity and did she bail on better potential. This will most likely happen when she has had a fight with current.

You can however now be more focused on you: get fit mentally physically, spiritually will follow. While he wastes his (in the mire of...)...

Interested in the choice you make...

omega_dawg93 · 2018-11-14T19:30:58+00:00

dude... you're shoulder flaring like a cobra & chest puffing? please tell me you posed in the mirror or at least deep-grunted on the cable crossovers... flexing... to emphasize. ROTFLMAO.

pics or it didn't happen. lol.

seriously... you are giving away non-sexual attention to a woman that's been receiving DNA blasts to her vagina from a dude you don't like. why? if you just happen to look at her, it should be a look as though she's a piece of glass... right thru her.

go ahead and become a physician. CHASE YOUR PURPOSE!!! you'll see 100 women that look better than her in your rear-view mirror chasing you as you make yourself a better man.

mark55 · 2018-11-14T20:27:19+00:00

I think being alpha would mean saying Hey to them and making it not awkward. She's obviously not your type after all the shit she put you through, so don't sweat it.

BatmanVsThanos · 2018-11-14T20:49:24+00:00

Eat a fuck ton of beans about a half hour before your workout and drop silent but deadlies all around these people. If confronted deny everything.

RedHoodhandles · 2018-11-14T10:33:10+00:00

She's dead to you. Trying to outalpha her new bf is pointless. You don't care about their opinion so what are you trying to accomplish. Fucking with his ego that his gf got dicked down by better dick in the past? That's just jerking your ego. Let. Go.

Btw, learning and motivation wise and if you can cut your ego out of the equation, it is interesting to see if she managed to actually upgraded lookswise (the rest you shouldn't even be knowing) or not.

ZeppKfw · 2018-11-14T16:34:50+00:00

Be happy she dumped you otherwise you could've been stuck with an ldr.

Ivabighairy1 · 2018-11-14T16:44:11+00:00

Dude, what's with the Oneitis? Plenty of women out there.

Herdsengineers · 2018-11-14T18:16:23+00:00

You've grown since your prior interactions with her, you've outgrown her. Go find new women, don't rummage through the past. The past is garbage.

recon_johnny · 2018-11-14T21:12:33+00:00

Simple.

Treat them both like they were ugly, fat chicks.

Don't bother to look, don't bother to have them take up any time in your head.

They're inconsequential. And let it fucking go, will you?

lenixk93 · 2018-11-14T23:31:25+00:00

Okay so here's what I got from your post:

You're pretty good looking considering you work out and have her new boyfriend jealous of you
You have a master's degree and seem to be doing good for yourself.

Now what you do is you fucking leave her, work your ass off and figure out a way to make capital from the experiences you have gained from your Master's program, and hold a solid frame over them. This will get you women much, much, better overall than her.

Also ignore the fuck out of her. She's being an attention whore and bully.

Ballosaurus · 2018-11-15T00:27:58+00:00

You’re not fully formed yet, and that’s okay. Two things:

Forget this chick and find newer and hotter
Med school is rough. Be absolutely certain that this is what you want

faustian_talos · 2018-11-15T10:21:41+00:00

Dude remember - YOU ARE THE PRIZE!

Do not give a fuck about anyone else.

addwater · 2018-11-18T14:09:07+00:00

Puffing your chest up and standing intentionally straight in their presence sounds try hard and insecure.

HoRaTiO12345 · 2018-11-14T17:29:10+00:00

Why would you ask a girl whether you can "start something serious"? It's a woman's job to worry about relationshits, your job is to get laid.

walawalawa · 2018-11-14T23:55:52+00:00

Asked this girl if we could start something serious this time around. She responded she's seeing someone from her work place.

Never ASK a girl to be "serious"...EVER. That is the MOST Blue Pill/Beta thing any guy could do.

You should always be the prize, the one SHE wants to nail down and get serious with. I stopped reading your post after that first line. The rest of whatever you're asking about is unsalvageable if that's your mindset.

Title	See my ex with her new bf at my gym
Author	lenixk93
Upvotes	93
Comments	53
Date	November 14, 2018 9:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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