ex-gf popped up out the blue and tried to scam me, should i fuck with her emotions?

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November 29, 2018
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Ex-gf who I haven't seen since 2017 slid into my social media inbox. I didn't chit chat, got straight to the point, told her to come over, and that I wanted to fuck her.

Two days later she turned up to my place in a skimpy dress looking sexy as fuck. Made a move, she put up tons of resistance, doesn't even want me to touch her, then tried to get me to use my credit card to buy Apple Storage online (WTF LOL). I said no.

Then she talked about how hungry she was, I didn't have much in my place and she didn't want the food I cooked for myself, she them suggested that I order a pizza from down the road. I told her I didn't have any cash and if she has the money to go ahead and buy a pizza if she wants, I went on to eat my dinner in front of her and told her she was welcomed to some. She declined.

I wasn't seeing any pussy so I fired up my laptop and began working on a paid project. I wasn't about to let a bitch that wasn't putting out get in the way of billing for a quick $20.

About 90 minutes into her visit she blurts out "this doesn't make any sense" and leaves.

Her visit didn't throw me off at all. Once I realized she was all about a hustle and no sex, I continued on as if she wasn't there and she left. I'm still laughing.

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D


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Title ex-gf popped up out the blue and tried to scam me, should i fuck with her emotions?
Author jay_jay_man
Upvotes 144
Comments 102
Date 29 November 2018 12:57 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/54549
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/a1h3q7/exgf_popped_up_out_the_blue_and_tried_to_scam_me/
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[–]Rosace_89164 points165 points  (14 children) | Copy

rhetorical question OP, we all know you want that pizza :o)

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 72 points73 points  (9 children) | Copy

I do want it lol. But the part about broadcasting it on social media... that's what up for debate

[–]Shirye147 points148 points  (4 children) | Copy

Only If you had a more attractive girl to share it with; that would be magical.

[–]adam_varg44 points45 points  (0 children) | Copy

10/10 savage

[–]EvanPetersDouble7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yesss

[–]Builtblind5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I support this response

[–]Wolveryn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

eful she’ll more than likely come out with some shit about that night to (incriminate) you so save those messages pimp

Just get a half attractive girl, and get her hand holding a piece of the pizza, as long as shes not obese... her imagination has to assume shes at least a 7

[–]Xkirbyx18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

Post it fuck her well deserve wallet whore. But be careful she’ll more than likely come out with some shit about that night to (incriminate) you so save those messages pimp

[–]yumyumgivemesome14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep, be careful stooping to the level of this type of person. They've got way more experience being petty vindictive assholes.

[–]EvanPetersDouble3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do it!

[–]erthian0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damnit now I want a pizza.

[–]Kpwn88186 points187 points  (4 children) | Copy

Passive aggressive behavior is a bitch move that will only show you're emotionally invested.

[–]Jabbermouth72 points73 points  (2 children) | Copy

Normally I would agree with this, but fucking with people is genuinely fun for some people, myself included.

If OP is doing it just to fuck with her head and it makes him happier, then I say go for it.

[–]MissingQuark15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

I totally agree with you, but it'll probably hurt her even more if he does nothing at all.

[–]phareux6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She'll be more pissed if he doesn't do anything at all I agree, cause it'll be like he didn't even care

[–]friendandadvisor17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

OTOH, lording it over enemies shows that YOU have the power; a very Machiavellian act!

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar142 points143 points  (2 children) | Copy

Why are you getting caught up in stupid drama, hanging out with low quality people? Don't you have anything better to do?

[–]EvanPetersDouble30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy

This.

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar54 points55 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never wrestle with a pig; you'll just get covered in mud and the pig likes it anyway.

[–]GoRedBad 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Don't fuck with people's emotions. What will it get you? Nothing but the possibility of the other person pursuing revenge against you. Be better than that.

Weak people are capricious and vindictive. You are supposed to be a rock.

[–]HotWaffler12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

This. You can tell how many of these bloops are still bitter. For one, why act like a spiteful woman and engage in that petty unattractive behavior? Second. Why are these strangers so excited for OP to "fuck with her" when it isnt even that good of a way to fuck with someone.

[–]IFuckingHateAllergy4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Because it is amusing. Functioning with the mindset of "the world being your oyster and the people in it are made for your own amusement" is a thing for some people. It is only petty if you think it's petty, otherwise it's entertaining. It's very Dark Triad if you think and look at it from a different perspective.

[–]Narcissist456-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s the most fun you can have honestly lol.

[–]Bulozi2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Come on guys OP just showed he's Rock solid when he feasted on a home cooked delicious meal in her face...it ain't out of rock solid character to feast on Pizza in her social media face as well

[–]FlyingSexistPig17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're falling into her frame. It's all about the competition, and you're focusing all your attention and energy on her.

This isn't going to end well for you. You'll win a couple battles, like the ones you've won so far, but she is biologically and evolutionarily designed for this exact fight: the nonviolent drama war.

She's been dreaming of these scenarios since she was 4. While you were playing with trucks, digging holes and building imaginary bridges and skyscrapers, she was playing with dolls, forming cliques, manipulating emotions, backstabbing, flattering and reveling in the drama of it all.

You might think that you have the upper hand, and you do, but if you overplay this hand with your clumsy social media attempts, it's going to end with you making a minor slipup that results in either a false rape accusation, a kid that you don't want to support, or the undermining of your entire social network.

Do not do this.

[–]Bedtimeshine40 points41 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is sub of grown men supposedly wanting to embrace masculinity and improve their luck with women... and y’all are talking about posting pizza on social media? Smh

OP get the fuck off social media like an actual grown man. delete that shit. Social media is for little girls. Forget about her. Put down the pizza. And put your energy into improving your body, your career, and your REAL social life with real people that doesn’t involve an app or computer.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

i'm right with you man, i literally went back to work and ate my bake chicken before she even walked out the door lol

[–]bradtwo11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be careful op.

The last thing you want is a psycho claiming fake rape on you.

Something ain’t right with that girl.

Keep your distance

[–]Tuplad6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is sad. Shame for TRP.

[–]Herdsengineers6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

This story exemplifies exactly why trying to mess around with an exLTR usually has major diminishing returns.

[–]Platos_slow_brother43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy

You still care too much.

[–]LLL3peat32 points33 points  (14 children) | Copy

It really wasn’t about the Pizza, it was what she could tell her friends that you went over for pizza or food to defer the part of wanting only sex or you. In her mind it was about not being a slut for my ex and he did nothing for me. You read it wrong. Not paying for apple storage was a smart move but having food and making things happen was the right move. You will learn with time. Women will show up and make themselves available but won’t just turn on a light switch and bend over to be fucked.

Alternatively it sounds like you made the whole interaction have a lot of stance off instead of a welcoming vibe. Either way she’ll be back if you weren’t a 100% asshole or seemed butthurt about the break up. Sounds like you are still butthurt so she validated her reasoning to say yes the breakup was the best move.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (6 children) | Copy

I'd agree with this assessment. You should have bought pizza and turned on Netflix. Cuddled and sexed. She could then tell her friends, if asked where she was, that she went over to a friend's and had pizza and watched a movie. It's a BS cover story but could be legit. Makes her look like less of a slut.

Next time OP.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'd do that with a normal girl but this chick is off. She literally did not want me to put a finger on her so cuddling was out of the question. There was no warmth or attraction on her part. The only sex she could give me is "just hurry up and finish" sex. The juice wasn't worth the squeeze and the juice wasn't good.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ah yes, I've had that before. This one girl I broke up with started snapping me. I said a couple of friends and I are going to the casino, you should join. She agreed, I picked her up. Afterwards I asked if she'd like to come over she said yes. We went to my place, started to watch a movie and we cuddled. I started to escalate and make out with her and she stopped me. It's like if you didn't want to do this then why'd you agree to come over? She could have said no and I would have brought her home after the casino. Now that I remember it, I don't know how she got home. Uber maybe... When she said no I didn't care anymore.

It may be some type of validation on her part then. She wanted to make sure she was still desirable.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It may be some type of validation on her part then. She wanted to make sure she was still desirable.

I didn't even consider why she acted the way she did (don't really care) but now that you mention it, validation makes perfect sense.

[–]Joeboard9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is the first thing that popped into my head after reading the story. She was frantically looking for an excuse to validate herself being there... other than sex. No girl wants to be KNOWN as a slut, although most girls like being slutty.

She wasnt trying to scam you out of a $15 pizza.. that is just ridiculous thinking. Now, if she started telling money trouble stories, like how her phone, cable, electricity is about to be shut off because she cant pay the bill.. well thats a HUGE red flag.

Tbh, it seems like you still came off a bit butthurt which probably had her second guessing everything which lead to her leaving in a hurry.

Its all good, live and learn my man.

[–]friendandadvisor-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Tbh, it seems like you still came off a bit butthurt which probably had her second guessing everything which lead to her leaving in a hurry.

So, not buying the Apple thing...was that 'butthurt' or just 'not holding frame'?

[–]Joeboard6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I dont use apple, but isnt that shit like a dollar? I mean thats hardly a scam and could of been used as a validation excuse. "Oh i went over because he helped me setup my apple cloud".

Idk the reasoning really.. but i sincerly sincerely sincerely doubt an ex is going to hit you up, talk dirty, dress up and come over to scam you out of a few gigs on the cloud and 2 slices of pizza.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hmmm...good point.

[–]Bitscoinmooning4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

You're a dumb faggot. Apple storage came first. It was entirely about milking the once beta OP. The girl seems extremely low quality and severely mentally ill. Not the kind you should ever date.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

How did you determined she is mental? It took me weeks before I realized what I stuck my dick into.

What gave her away?

[–]Bitscoinmooning6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't respect you at all and demands money from you. Has she ever paid for anything?

Don't associate with her anymore and don't antagonize her she is the kind of woman to claim you raped her.

[–]HurricaneHugues3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Ex-gf who I haven't seen since 2017 slid into my social media inbox. I didn't chit chat, got straight to the point, told her to come over, and that I wanted to fuck her"

Sigh

[–]Peter_B_Long4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D

Are you serious?

Once I realized she was all about a hustle and no sex, I continued on as if she wasn't there and she left.

If this was true, and you are genuinely indifferent about her, then how could you even consider going through the trouble of buying a pizza and posting it? Just to try and maybe upset her?

You're actually going to give her what she wants. The attention. She'll know that you're posting the pizza to spite her so she'll know you're thinking of her.

You know what actually happened? She's been going out (probably wearing that same skanky dress) and she's been getting all these guys doing shit for her. She's been getting massive validation from guys giving her gifts so she feels entitled to get any guy to do shit for her, hence why she hit you up and tried to milk you for some cash. When that didn't work, she settled for a pizza. You being non-needy or beta made her hamster malfunction hence "this doesn't make any sense."

She took a hit on her validation meter so now she's going to go online and sell her nudes on snapchat or open up Tinder and get some free meals.

She's also going to hamster this as SHE friend-zoning YOU or that you like dick in your butt.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

If this was true, and you are genuinely indifferent about her, then how could you even consider going through the trouble of buying a pizza and posting it? Just to try and maybe upset her?

Buying pizza and eating it is hardly any trouble. As for my motivation, it was to get even more laughs at her expense.

You being non-needy or beta made her hamster malfunction hence "this doesn't make any sense."

Good explanation.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. Don’t waste your time with dumb shit.

[–]8oh828 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha yes, buy the pizza and post on social media. That would be funny. But don't tag her on it lol

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

About 90 minutes into her visit she blurts out "this doesn't make any sense" and leaves.

She's right there.

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D

Do nothing.

[–]Datanami4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

How come it's always the stupidest, most pointless shit that gets the most upvotes here

[–]flatox21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

You obviously have a long way to go still. I'm assuming you must be very young. This thread is pointless.

[–]Johnnadawearsglasses26 points27 points  (5 children) | Copy

This isn’t a real question. It’s a brag and a weak one at that.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lighten up man, I have plenty of bragging stories, this isn't one of them. I just find the whole situation amusing.

[–]Johnnadawearsglasses2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

So you are telling us whether your own story is a brag. I don’t think so. The whole story is about how well you handled a situation. There is no issue and no real question.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Read to the end.

[–]Johnnadawearsglasses15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah should I buy a pizza. Seriously.

[–]Fuck_You_Pay_moi5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

The ultimate question, pizza or nah

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (11 children) | Copy

You should grow up

[–]Corvus_Uraneus12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Grow up" "Man up" "Who hurt you?"

All phrases to try to shame a man into accepting unfair and unacceptable treatment.

[–]X-Trem04 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

oh, come on! its objectively funny

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

It is. As a story, not as a serious attempt to "put her in her place". That's what a teenager would do. The best response is ignore.

[–]X-Trem00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with you that would be the best response... still funny tho

[–]QueenSlapFight2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Subjectively?

[–]Vrokko0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your opinions aren't objective.

[–]Andorli-3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You should get sense of humor.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

should i fuck with her emotions?

if you think an adult can write such a topic you should grow up too. Seriously.

[–]Andorli-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

See dude, the thing is I do mot go that deep, i don't give a shit about that. This is not a question on asktrp worth investing that much though into. Didn't even pay attention ot that before you pointed it out. You should find better things to do. Also buying and posting especially at that age is hilarious.

[–]nofilmynofucky2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're better than her dude, don't do this to yourself. Just move on.

[–]trele_morele2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did everything well right up to the point when she left. Then you should have gone back to whatever you were doing instead of engaging in high school drama bs

[–]BeastWithSombra2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Should I buy a pizza and post it on social media to rub it in her face :-D

bunch of children you all are. lmao

[–]1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Buy the pizza because you want a pizza, don't fucking play games...

[–]MakeMenGreatAgain4411 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah buy a huge pizza and post it. Great idea.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No you should have more important things to do

[–]TurnDownForWhat3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Imagine that shitty brag stories.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

You have oneitis. If you still care about making this chick feel bad, it means you care, period.

You tried to score an easy ex-gf lay. It didn't work. Stop wasting your time and move on.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If you still care about making this chick feel bad, it means you care, period.

I'm actually a sadist and a kick out of inflicting pain...

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Now you're rationalizing. She won't be hurt by a picture of a pizza. Your dumb faggot ass wants to keep texting with her because you're in love.

Stop acting like a chump and go find some new bitches.

[–]jay_jay_man[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your dumb faggot ass wants to keep texting with her because you're in love.

lol. fuck off

[–]cluelessguitarist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah nothing good comes from it, it just shows you still care, indifference is the best.

[–]Musicgoon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Attention is chick crack. Good or bad it's still attention.

She's a total freeloader that doesn't even deserve your time.

[–]1byronshadow1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Any sign of drug use? There's a possibility she wanted to swipe some things from your apartment or make some accusation and blackmail you. Ghosting is the best option.

[–]Svarthofthi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can do that very easily by ignoring this garbage and her.

[–]BusterVadge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Block her again. You seem like you know your shit so I'm sure you blocked her before but she found a way around it.

[–]macheagle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re better than that pettiness bro. Forget her and move on. Next.

[–]scanfan20220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No contact her.

[–]SlappaDaBayssMon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You've handled everything well so far, passive aggressive SM posts is the only way you lose ground here.

Finish that project and find a new girl.

[–]RedditRated0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You did great by offering what you had on the table and not going out of your way to please her needs. She’s an ex so she doesn’t get the same treatment as a gf would.

[–]Nov516050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I like the idea of buying the pizza and rubbing it in, but in the end, take the high road and forget it, because it's unnecessary. YOu already made your point and she got wrecked

[–]AceMav210 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Dude bro, that’s kinda messed up how you sexually objectified her like that and ignored her. Like that is a girl. In the name of social justice and virtue of vagina you should’ve gave her the info to all your debit and credit cards, taken out a credit card for her, and then take her out to a 5 Star restaurant instead of offering her leftovers.😂

[–]ArdAtak0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

YES!!!! Maybe even mention something about the date/time to make sure she's knows it's from the same evening. i.e:

"Check out my tasty treat from Wednesday night!"

[–]dgillz0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ok here's the scoop, Buy the best pizza you can afford, and get the hottest woman you can find to come over (assuming she is hotter than the ex).

Take selfies of the 2 of you and the pizza. Post it everywhere, but mostly where the ex can see it. Caption one of the photos "Man I've been craving a pizza for 2 weeks!".

[–]jay_jay_man[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

you're a stone-cold savage, I love it!

[–]dgillz-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I probably would, even though I shouldn't.

[–]laserdicks-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

"This doesn't make any sense" Fucken ded.

[–]The_Adm0n-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You should absolutely punish her. Women are going to keep trying this shit until they learn that they aren't immune from the consequences.

If we ever want to see worthy women, we need to motivate them to be worthy.



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