An opener I like to use on OKCupid is "well aren't you fucking adorable." I'm not saying I'm the opener master, but I like it because it sets frame, plays with contrasts, and is diminutive; essentially, women don't really know what to make of it.. and, like always, they look over my profile pictures and either bite or don't.

I like it for a frame setter because a tense exchange is almost always sure to follow and a curt diminutive complement asserts my superiority.

But every now and again I'll get a little blow-back.

The other day a nasty little one wrote back something like "are you kidding me?"

In theory, she is commenting on my smug and presumptuous opener. She likely, either consciously or not, picked up on the diminutive aspect of it, and even if the little darling couldn't put that into words, she looked over my pictures and decided that I wasn't attractive enough to be speaking to her that way; it had nothing to do with the behavior- it had to do with her assessment of me.

Women do not have a standard of behavior to which they hold all men, they only pretend they do.

This is social feedback.

Barry "Blue Pill" Beta will get feedback like this and feel ashamed; he tried to seem like one of those "cool guys" he always sees in movies and, as it turns out, girls hate that kinda stuff. Back to the long, droning openers, where tells his life story and talks about movies he likes, and tries to make a connection.

Stupid fuck Barry Beta will take this kind of social feedback at face value and change his behavior.

Barry Beta will believe that no man could have written the online princess a smug and assertive message and gotten a reply from her; not George Clooney, not Alpha Alex, not those silly PUA guys, and certainly not Barry Beta.

However, if Alpha Alex had gotten that kind of reply, he'd laugh it off.... unless, it's more often than not.

Alpha Alex will take the data and realize that it's not the behavior that is turning women off, it's that Alex's Sexual Market Value isn't high enough to garner adequate results from amping his OBNOXIOUSNESS.

My advice is to AMP YOUR OBNOXIOUSNESS

The best way to gauge where you are in your Alpha journey, and the best way to garner quality social feedback data, is to go balls out on being obnoxious.

Take a VERY high SMV man; this guy can seriously open with the word "fuck," and the responses he'll get will seem like the hamster on a coke binge, ie: "OMG, youre so funny," "lol, you're crazy!!!! :):)," "oh my gosh!!!!!!!! hi" ETC

Important: Calibrate your obnoxiousness to where you THINK your Sexual Market Value is... if you think you're a 9-10, try the "fuck" opener, if you think you're a 7, scale it down a bit as that kind of obnoxious opener will ONLY work with the top tier. Is my opener not obnoxious enough for you? Lets brainstorm different obnoxious openers in the comments (try to dissect what you come up with and explain why it'll be effective too).

I have recently amped my obnoxiousness to 10+ and the feedback I've gotten has been fantastic. For one, the positive feedback is truly shocking- if a girl perceives you as a high-value Alpha, the shit you can get away with saying to her is truly shocking... conversely, the girls who pass on your obnoxiousness will give you THE BEST indication of your SMV.

Truth be told, I find getting a positive reaction from amped obnoxiousness so incredibly satisfying that I could never dream of going back to a dynamic that is even the slightest hint blue pill- can't deal with me saying whatever I want all the time? That's cool, NEXT.

In other words, embracing your obnoxious inner-dick will kill off your needy, pathetic, beta-male, blue pill self.

Be warned, amping your obnoxiousness will absolutely lead to the deepest and most rigorous shit testing you've ever had.... this is another PERK of being your most obnoxious you; shit testing sharpens you as a man and forces you to become more masculine- it's like the cold showers of social interactions- and the better you can handle shit testing, the better you'll be socially in ALL situations.

TLDR: Be a dick and get a glimpse at your most accurate SMV. And it's fun to be a dick.

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