"The Red Piller's Guide to Online Dating:" Word Fodder
Word Fodder (werd fod.der) n. -a conflict-adverse reflective word or words men’ll use to ‘soften’ the tone of their messages, similar to how some guys’ll add ‘lol’ or ‘ :-) ’ before/after messages to make them less blunt, brash, harsh, cold or succinct.
This post'll teach you how to tell if you're word foddering when you're texting bitches.
At the bottom you'll find a nice list of the most common Word Fodders I've noticed after months of giving RPer's Text-Game/Tinder advice.
If you're using these a lot, you're weakening your Alpha assertion in favor of PC-esque linguistics.
Without the big words? You care too much about whether the girl on the other end sees you as "overly-abrasive", "overly-aggressive", "too to-the-point" or too predatory.
But you want to be those things. Or at least seen as those things. It causes Polarization.
While I'm not a big fan of the book Models I really like that term. I'm gonna dumb this way down but:
Polarization (po.lar.ee.zay.shun) v. -an act, appearance or trait that, for those who're perceiving them, makes the process of categorization within some sub-genre (in this case either Alf or Betafish) both easy and effort-free.
Speaking/texting succinctly instead of padding you're responses. Don't decorate it. Just say it. It sounds more Alpha.
Ambiguous: So then, what brings are you all the way out here to L.A.?
Alpha-esque: Why'd you move here?
Sounds like a no-brainer. But I bet my bottom bitch that if you talking to an some hot little thing compared to your run-of-the-mill Ugg-wearing Chia-drinker you're likely over-packing your sentences with Word Fodder.
How do I know? Why do you do that? Because you don't want to mess shit up. She's hot. And not wearing Uggs. You don't want her not to like you. You know if you polarize and she doesnt reciprocate, you're donezo. Being ambiguous (not leaning heavy-Red or heavy-Blue) gives you some time to work with.
But you know what? If she doesnt respond to quick polarization, the long con's moot.
If acting Red from the start puts her off then showing up Red later isn't going to change her mind. She wasn't interested before, isn't interested now. And by waiting you've wasted time gaming a dud.
I've been there. It sucks.
Chicks make their mind up fast.
If she's cute she's got options. Mr. Ambigious loses out to Clearly-Red guy because where Red guy stands on stuff is clear from the start.
Again. By padding out sentences to make your sentences "softer"...
you're weakening your Alpha assertion in favor of PC-esque linguistics.
Anyways, here's some examples of Word Fodder. Think about them for a bit.
Examples
"So what do you do for fun?"
Note: Common word fodder.
"Well what do you do for fun?"
"Yeah I love sushi."
Note: The "Yeah" is redundant. Use either "Yeah" or just "I love sushi".
"Hey, can I ask you something?"
"You should make me a sandwich."
Note: "Should" implies a suggestion and is a covert attempt at being overt. Women say "You should" to strongly suggest they want something without outright saying it. Alpha's are expected to be overt.
"Why don't we go to the bar for some drinks."
Note: Common word fodder.
"We should go to the bar for some drinks."
Note: This is also common word fodder.
"Let's go to the bar for some drinks?"
Note: Even more common.
Another Note: A better phrase to start these with would be like... I don't know, "Come with me..." "Come to..." "I'm going to..." "Meet me at..." "I'll be at..." "See you at...". Something like those I guess.
"Don't worry. I don't bite."
"I don't bite ;-)"
Note: The winky faces are the worst in my opinion.
"Lol I don't bite."
"Haha I don't bite."
"I don't bite lol"
Note: Obviously just "I don't bite" would've been the best alternative.
"What are you looking for on here?"
Note: "on here" is redundant/overly-specific. Like going to the mall at asking someone "What're you shopping for at the mall?"
"What're you looking for on Tinder?"
Note: Same deal here.
Look guys. You ain't got to be succint and stern (S&S?) and junk to text girls without word fodder.
A&A for example.
"Yeah, I'm the sexiest man alive. I benchpress dolphins on nude benches lol"
"I'm the sexiest man alive. I bench press dolphins on nude beaches."
Minor change, but look at the difference it makes in tone. Just a twinge of seriousness and confidence in there that the "Yeah" and "lol" take away. Word fodder.
Lesson Learned
You're not the only one that thinks online dating/texting is annoying as hell. Shit's tough. We say "watch what they do not what they say" but that's tough when texting is nothing but saying. Length of text, time of text, frequency of text and choice of wording is all we've got to go by. But we don't give up. We learn and adapt.
-Om the Mach
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