Okay so to start off, I'm not referring to regular pornography.

Basically recently he bought a virtual reality headset and uses it for work and gaming. He has been dreaming about VR since childhood, and loves the thing so I feel absolutely horrible to make it into a negative. He has used it a few times to masturbate.

Now, before he got the headset, I had already heard about VR porn, and was ok with it. That was until I experienced the headset for myself, and watched some pornography on it.

When I tell you it's realistic, I mean it's absolutely immersive. it feels totally 3D, and like you're really there. the only hint you have that this is not reality is that the lens blurs ever so slightly.

To add another layer to this all, he exclusively watches POV or single women masturbating.

I have brought up my grievances with him, and he agreed to only use it rarely, however so far, this hasn't been the case. Each app tells you how many days/ hours ago it was used (this info is on the homepage, I didn't snoop for it, in fact I would rather not know) and from my observations he has used it between 3-6 times since he bought it 2 weeks ago. We also live in a small flat, and we are quarantined, so I have woken up in the middle of the night and he's been using it.

Lastly, I asked him if he would be comfortable with me watching POV from a female perspective and he said he wouldn't like it. But he didn't ask me not to do it.

I am sometimes bothered by regular porn, but that stems from insecurity and I don't take that out on my boyfriend. I thought I would feel the same about this, but this feels so much different. I'm also worried about his psyche and how this could affect our sex life.

Honestly, I have no clue what to do. I don't want to tell him to stop (I don't think he will anyway) but the idea of him consuming this and then looking at me/ sleeping with me, brings me to tears (I have shed a lot). I am an insecure person, but I try extremely hard to self soothe and not let that affect my relationship, and I'm working on myself too.

TLDR My boyfriend has started consuming VR pornography, and Im not sure whether I'm allowed to be upset. I don't want to be the crazy, toxic girlfriend so any help is so much appreciated.