TL/DR;  Maintenance Sex is a great tool of manipulation by the feminine imperative. Just say no.

A few days ago one of my plates got butt hurt over me texting a hot Russian girl. We spent the weekend together. When I was feeling like it was go time, I got the "I'm not feeling sexy right now", excuse. 

Now I know what most guys on here will say: Next! But it's my call, I still like banging her and I wanted to see what she would do in the morning. So I made her sleep on the couch. I stayed up and played guitar and texted some new potential plates. :-)

The next day she sent me a stupid Jezebel link on, "maintenance sex". Basically she wants to make sure my needs are getting met.

"WOOT Bruh! She wawnts tuh meat yoor neads!". 

Woah, hold the phone alpha bros and let's think about this:

My needs are my responsibility not hers. The second I make them hers, I've relinquished a bit of my freedom and control.

This really is a massive shit test.  Can you say no to sex? Yes, men are the true romantics. The feminist narrative implies otherwise. That all men want is sex. Give men a passionless warm hole and they should satisfied....

This is the sexual equivalent of LJBF.  She's thinking about the treasured gift she's sacrificing. You say yes to sex without desire, and all of a sudden she's a sexual martyr for the relationship. And has the ammo to say AMALT. Or men only want one thing.

Maintenance sex is not a free gift. It's completely loaded and selfish. That girl you're dating is thinking, "Hey,  if I can satisfy his need, he won't next me or look for someone who's sex drive matches his own".

The Brad Pitt rule applies to this situation. If Brad Pitt wanted sex and she wasn't in the mood, would she turn down Brad Pitt? Would she suggest maintenance sex?  The truth can sting! 

As a high value man, don't settle for some half hearted, low value sex. I'm my opinion: one night stand/hookups > masturbation > maintenance sex. What's missing from maintenance sex? Genuine desire.

Sex becomes a transaction at that point and is even less valuable than hiring a hooker. A hooker will not use transactional sex as a way to keep you from spinning plates.

Lessons learned: If you're getting mostly blue balls from a plate, next her or shelf her. Go for a woman or 4 who will give you what you want. There's nothing wrong with desiring her. It should be recprocal. And just say no to sub par maintenance sex.