Why do women try to change you, if they just end up hating you once you’ve changed?

Protocol_Apollo · 2020-12-11T18:16:44+00:00

Women don’t know what they want.

Also, Patrice o neal once you said “you know how much you want to fuck a bitch? That’s exactly how much she wants to change you”

Also, reminds me of that tiger comment by u/fereallyred.

Women are really, really interested in tigers. They're strong, pretty, nice to pet, protectors, have an "I'm the king of all I see" vibe, dangerous, and great status symbols.

To keep a tiger, though, it's convenient to train them to walk on a leash, not eat the occasional lamb, piss in the designated area, sleep in a cage, etc.

Problem is, tigers don't like being caged or on a leash. This is against their nature. Some do get domesticated, though, even learn tricks. It's helpful to chop off their balls to accomplish this domestication.

Problem is doing this makes them lose the edge that made them attractive in the first place.

They become compliant little kitties.

Women then realize all the excitement around owning a tiger has evaporated, because now they're walking down the street with wrinkled tiger balls in their purse, holding the leash of an overgrown neutered housecat.

Guess what? They begin the search for another tiger. Don't be a pussy. Stay tiger.

Edit: for more comments like this. Give fereallyred a read. Read his top voted comments too, a lot of his best insights came from replying on asktrp.

throwhawayyyy · 2020-12-11T18:08:28+00:00

because they want to be the one break your unshakable frame, once they realize they’re figured you out, they move onto the next puzzle

DBOLandDECA · 2020-12-11T18:10:23+00:00

Why do you eat all those cookies when you'll just end up fat?

YoungAussiePrince · 2020-12-11T22:38:02+00:00

“Don’t be like your father” > Is also married to him and had multiple kids by him

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-12-11T18:21:01+00:00

The same reason you would yank your harness before zip lining

Greaterbird · 2020-12-11T21:08:30+00:00

Some people when they see a wall they wonder how strong it is. They start tapping on it to see if little chunks fly off.

Sometimes it turns out it's just styrofoam painted to look like a wall, and they just keep idly picking at it out of boredom. Eventually there's a big hole in the wall and a pile on the ground, and with a disappointed "yeah, thought so" they go looking for a better one.

YallNeedMises · 2020-12-11T20:56:28+00:00

Women try to change you because they want (need) to know if you're vulnerable to being changed, and they resent you when you do for the same reason. That is, women need (evolutionarily speaking) to determine your fitness as a protector & provider by performing destructive testing, and your failing the test reveals to them that they have been saddled with a weak man for a mate, hence the hatred. To them, if you can't stand your ground against a woman, how can you be trusted to stand up against the world when necessity calls for it? It's all perfectly rational.

Coolmariner1992 · 2020-12-11T21:35:18+00:00

Everything is a shit test. So they know they are with a true alpha.

linkofinsanity19 · 2020-12-12T03:30:55+00:00

Because they don't actually want a man they can control and make do what she wants. She wants a man that is strong enough to resist her and other people.

kaizen987 · 2020-12-11T21:41:42+00:00

They are disgusted by their own creations? Lol

daproest1 · 2020-12-11T22:06:15+00:00

What they say they want, and what they actually respond to, are often worlds apart.

ThenIJizzedInMyPants · 2020-12-12T00:15:57+00:00

Because we all do shit that doesn't align with what will really make us happy in the future

With men it's all about video games, drug, and alcohol

psychotropy · 2020-12-11T21:14:29+00:00

Who cares? Just stand on your square, your rules, your boundaries, etc, and they can stay or they can go.

Robin2Fast2Furious · 2020-12-11T23:12:50+00:00

Simple. Women don’t know what they want. You can probably extend this to say that most people don’t know what they want.

empatheticapathetic · 2020-12-11T20:59:59+00:00

To see how real you are/were.

Optionsmfd · 2020-12-11T22:40:13+00:00

99% of the people dont change.....

unless ur still young

robbiedigital001 · 2020-12-11T23:15:29+00:00

Is a test

Abnull · 2020-12-12T09:50:16+00:00

They don't. They are trying to see if you will change yourself for somebody else.

11-Eleven-11 · 2020-12-11T21:59:15+00:00

They don't want you to change, they want you to put them in their ppace. Its a shit test. Sidebar.

subaruguy14 · 2020-12-12T02:54:26+00:00

To test your frame

tax_evading_apple · 2020-12-11T21:02:01+00:00

Why does a dog chase a bus?

Title	Why do women try to change you, if they just end up hating you once you’ve changed?
Author	dryperson
Upvotes	142
Comments	79
Date	December 11, 2020 6:04 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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