Ninja Edit: Seems the mods on the other subreddit removed his post because I posted about it here and he messaged me asking why they removed it and why people called him "fishy". Im not too reddit-savvy but it seems he deleted his account as well so Im not sure I can reply to him, so if you are reading this OP:

READ THE SIDEBAR, you dont have to take all the advice religiously but it will open your eyes and help you understand why your wife is acting like she is.

Link to op: https://archive.is/yfXGO

Summary: Couple meet in school and marries a few years later. He realize her hamster is playing tricks on her and she actually wants a man (read alpha?)

even though she is a liberal and a feminist and expects me to support those things.

She defines herself as a feminist but still wants him to be the man of the marriage. Shit makes the beta uncomfortable.

Body: Well OP cant understand why she keeps shit-testing him, even though she claims to be a feminist.

She also has a way of rewarding men she thinks are living up to how men should act. It's almost as if she is not fully aware of it when she does it, but she does it and is confused if I question it later. When we were first married she gave a guy my parking space because he had a truck. Men should have trucks.

Well this one speaks for itself, an ultimate shit-test. The fact that this didnt spark some sort of reaction makes me think he is a lost cause.

This next thing has had my wheels turning for a while now. Recently a friend's husband won a mountain biking competition of some kind and insisted my wife and his wife stand next to him when he got his award. She stood next to him for pictures in her bathing suit at his insistence, she pulled her coverup over her head and off for the pictures right there, which she thought was fine because he competed and won. All I can think of is him standing there like some dumb mountain gorilla with her and her friend on either side of him. I felt insecure as hell then and I still do when I think of it and it has been months now.

Friends husband wins a manly competition and she would rather stand almost naked next to her friends husband than next to her own husband. She'd rather share his Alpha-status with her friend than be connected with her beta husband.

She ran away from me when I was speaking to her back in school to congratulate a friend of ours who had won some competition in a made up college drinking game/sport, and then I didn't see her for hours but our plans were shot for the night. Men should play sports and compete.

"I didnt see her for hours", sounds awfully lot like she took a ride on that college CC that night...

At the same time, if I go too far toward being the kind of man she thinks a lot of, I get put in my place. For example I pondered buying a truck and she told me that I'm not the type of man who drives a truck, which is true but she meant it in a way that really bothered me.

Classic shit-test ("you are not a man") should not be answered with "which is true". If he had actually gone out and got a truck with out asking her then no matter what she said or thought of him, he would be a "man with a truck". Not saying you should make your financial decisions based on shit-tests, but if he really wanted to drive a truck, he would get one, not ponder over it, and if he doesnt want to drive a truck he should simply drive his Prius like its a fucking ferrari.

Lessons learnt:

  • Dont get married?
  • Dont listen to what women say, look at what they do
  • Women like men who do manly things (Winning a mountainbike race), not so much men who do girly things (give fashion and shopping advice).