Recently moved to University, 7hrs away from our hometown, and I come home every month due to work obligations.
I’ve been at my new University for two weeks so far. Girlfriend of 6-7 months told me yesterday that she didn’t think she could do the long distance thing.
I’m fine with this as I haven’t been taking the relationship seriously. I’ve been spinning plates and maintaining abundance as I knew this was bound to happen. Especially because since I’ve been at my new Uni she’s been a lot more distant. She started hanging out with her “cousin” more often than usual and even told me that the university she wanted to attend she doesn’t anymore. I just played along since I was doing my own thing as well.
After she broke up with me I wished her the best to which she said “we aren’t even going to talk about it?” to which I said “I have nothing to say. You made your choice, I’m willing to work through it, you aren’t. Goodbye” to which she said “wow ok. I wish you the best too”
I understand LDRs don’t work out. I just just going through the motions with it.
I did care for this girl as we have many wonderful memories and she did hit a lot of the boxes on the LTR material checklist:
Father and mother is in life She doesn’t party, drink or smoke She doesn’t disrespect me in front of others We split the bills 50/50 when we went out Great communication Have a lot in common
Until obviously this. A girl who cannot handle an LDR (as silly as they are) isn’t LTR material.
Anyway, today she kept calling me while I was in class. I guess this was due to the fact that she saw my snapchat of me with another girl and she wants closure or validation to which I owe her nothing. Her friend also snapped me. I deleted them both off of snapchat and haven’t responded since.
I understand if I “give in” to her and tell her I’m willing to work things out, she will do a complete 180 and revert back to “I don’t want a relationship right now” or “I can’t do this LDR thing”
Am I right in my assumptions? Why is she calling me? What should I do? Ignore and continue to spin plates and lift? Engage her? Play along? Hard next? Soft next?
Any advice is welcome or appreciated.
EDIT: Thanks for the gold kind stranger.
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