TRP is mostly about sexual game. All content here is understood to be about maximising ones sexual opportunities through improvement of the self. However, as men, while we are executing our sub-process of trying to put our dick in things, there seems to be additional pushes and pulls in our lives. For the beta and unplugged lost boy; these femcentric ideas, objects and motivations will only serve as distractions to leading a life of personal abundance. Self actualisation is the calling of all men, whether sexually abundant or not. As has been explored before; the only other worthy motivation of men (outside of continued simulated insemination of various holes) is the process of self actualisation.

The typical male experience is a process of continual delusion, the actualised male experience is a result of internalised self value

Self actualisation is not just about being the best that you can be, not just a momentary event where one feels fluid and uncoupled from unnecessary detritus. Self actulaisation is a process, and requires a process of forming a masculine identity based on well justified bedrock values. Unfortunately for us lost boys, we no longer have the opportunity to be built as men, for whatever reason we have missed out on the opportunity of having our child like, destructive and unapologetic inquisitiveness refined and moulded into an identity that can provide us with value and purpose (projects, self and community). At some point in our lives we lost a value system that could should have been handed down to us by a masculine community that we belonged to. So painfully for some, the following is not an exploration of sexual game or hypergamy. I put to you that to internalise many of the aspects of red pill game (that is; masculinity); amused mastery, lowered investment, judging people by their actions, behaving Machiavellian, being physically fit, emotionally unmalleable, highly influential, dominant, personally wealthy, being able to communicate covertly and above all, having a loving for ones self during personal solitude; one needs to build ones own high quality process based on bed rock values. The only material difference between red pill aware men and the high functioning betas of the PUA community is this absense of the internalisation of masculine identity and values. For all his success, the PUA is still a man that at the end of the day is motivated by female validation. The PUA community figured out alpha male characteristics and employed them in the use of their fraudulent sexual game. This is not to devalue the necessity of and utility in those learned hard and soft skills; the joke is just that the PUA community identified the behaviours of alpha men by trial and error experiments in the sexual market without ever actually having those behaviours become re-pinned to a high functioning masculine value system. The juxtaposition between the redpill aware alpha and the PUA can be observed between the pathetic behaviour of Mystery and our very own Siberian muscle god GayLubeOil (please forgive the circle jerk).

As betas, we have realised long ago that we are men that we have been mislead and thus we were built incorrectly. The lost boy must remake himself to be made again as a freeman.

The challenge with self improvement is that there are competing internal interests between admitting that we are somewhat mislead and that we are completely mislead. The former has resulted in an industry of airport self help books that scratch the surface of personal soft skill deficiencies while promising personal change that will never actualise into any real difference to ones external or internal life. The latter requires one to inspect ones bedrock values and admit that the things we have up to this point valued, are essentially the things that keep us from living free lives. To admit that we have been completely mislead, is to admit that not only that we have been wrong, it is to admit that we are broken. It is this ego investment and continued frustration coupled with an inability to value anything genuinely self justified that typifies the average male experience. An experience, that for all our so called privilege, has us removing ourselves from our ability to experience, at a rate of 4 -1.

I hope you find the following exploration on the subject of process interesting, insightful and worthy of criticism. So please criticise, so that it can be refined into content worthy of preservation.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." - Aristotle

The process of the beta

The beta is motivated by primal and femcentric ambitions to be loved. A mans highest calling is to be free so that he can influence his community. A beta male, an individual who is yet to centralise his frame around himself, will be motivated to be loved by society (i.e women). This love isn't the idealistic healthy love which I can only seem to define as the intersection of empathy, respect and nurturing (the type of love which one should primarily be reserving for oneself). Instead, this is the love of longing of (mothers) validation, and the beta male uses it as a justification to live. The beta male needs this validation as he is unable to validate hinmself in any other way; subconsciously he knows that he is worthless.

Betas love woman for two reasons. Our lives are empty without external validation and that we have no greater calling. Most men don't have a mission or life process that excludes receiving continual validation and gratification from a variety of orbitees, LTRs, video games, information binging and sport that gets consumed instead of experienced. The amount a beta loves a woman is directly proportional to the amount of love he needs to fill the gap left from an absent existentially justified purpose. The purpose he was supposed to receive from his father to replace his mothers love. A beta males process generates no great value for themselves. It's a process that for many men will inevitably end with them swallowing the end of a pistol or accepting a continued life of deluded mediocrity. To live a life of the beta, is to live a life of activity motivated by suffering at the esteem level of Maslows Hierarchy. The beta is not lucky in love nor life; to be lucky in life and love requires something that most don't know they need. How could luck have a dependency? Rather, how could it not. To be lucky in life and love, one requires a life process that generates luck.

Luck

Some advised reading is "Millionaire Fast Lane - MJ DeMarco" . In this book, MJ DeMarco explores both process and luck. What he notes is that luck is generally perceived to be an event in ones life; like winning the lottery, hitting a half court shot or finding 'the one'. The reality, is that luck is more-so a product of process. When you are out there, you stand a chance of being in the right place at the right time. There are right places and wrong places. To be at the right place at the right time, you have to first be at the right place. Being at the right place requires that ones process inflicts oneself upon the world. To be at the right place, at the right time and to exploit an opportunity using learned personal soft skills is the very nature of luck. Luck is not an accident. It is the successfully procured and exploited opportunity. Develop your process, improve your process and trust in in your process. The luckier you get, the more powerful you will become.

Power

What is the most important definition of power? It seems like a dirty word. We have an idea of who to associate power with; we seem to have an innate ability to identify power in others. Do we know what it is? The ability to influence or control others? Strength? Intelligence? Money? Pragmatically, the most useful definition of power to a man seeking self actualisation, is that; to have power is to have options. Influence is power, because influence creates the options that are only executable with a unified team. Strength is power, as strength provides increased options of sexual partners and increased options when dealing with physical threats. Intelligence is power because intelligence provides the very machinery in which our process runs. Money is power because the very purpose of money is to provide trade optionality. If ones process creates options for oneself, then they are able to build a life of abundance. If your process is built on your values, then your process will create the abundance of things that you value. If your LTR is taking up the time that you would otherwise use to be investing in yourself, then your LTR (regardless of whether you are happy) is not empowering you; it is a deleterious parasite on the power you could be accumulating. This is part of the reason why so many marriages end in divorce; instead of a man investing in himself, he invests his time and resources into others at the expense of himself. After time, it becomes value accretive for a partner to branch swing to a better mate option. Note that, in the majority of LTR's, optionality (power) is actually transferred to the female.

Life, presence and promise

Nietzsche explored in the genealogy of morals that of the many things that separates man from lesser species is the unique way in which we have developed the ability to make a promise, not to others, but to ourselves. To do something that we are not instinctually compelled to do. To promise to ourselves is to ignore our lizard brain, stop masturbating our various itches and plan for the future. The very nature of promises is that they stay intact when circumstances change. A mans process isn't an autopilot subscript that runs in the background without effort - no that is the betas process. As Nietzsche contended, to keep a promise requires two things, a powerful memory and a confidence in the future and ones abilities to actualise that promise in the future. The hard part of keeping ones promises to oneself is admitting that the grind may not be enjoyable. The reality is that, the grind is sought after and enjoyed if you value the process.

It has been mentioned a couple of times on TRP, however it is worth mentioning again. There is significant personal value in meditation. I recommend brainspace.com for free 10 minute guided mindfulness meditations. What were you doing half an hour ago? Why? What about yesterday. The benefits of meditation are many, I believe most importantly that it provides the opportunity to witness oneself and ones life. Meditation not only has the benefit of keeping the bike on the road, it allows us to momentarily enjoy the ride. Meditation provides us the opportunity to intentionally apply attention and keep our promises unyielding by masturbatory distractions.

Process creates freedom

Freedom is the calling of all men. Freedom doesn't provide options, freedom is the degree to which a man has disconnected from the things that enslave him; an unhappy LTR, the emotions and machinations of women, poor financial status, poor health, poor mental health, blue pill indoctrination and even the paradigms that persist the bitterness of the anger phase mentality. Freedom is quite simply the reduced dependency on the distractions and events that take away from the life of a man. To be sexually free is to have or accumulate sexual options; ie abundance. By refining ones process, one refines their value system creating a feedback loop that builds upon and checks itself. When one decides to go to bed early, one now has the option to get up early. Exploiting this option and hitting the gym will allow oneself not only to be tired enough at the end of the day to go to bed early again, one has started the positive process of physical excellence. When one gets up early to check their cat traps, one is able to reset the traps and continue to invest time into their cat fur coat business. Whether ones value is based in physical fitness, fashion, manufacturing or the eradication of vile animals that represent the feminisation of boys, doesn't really matter. What matters is the commitment to the process that stokes that value. When one promises to oneself, and makes a commitment to not compromise on the things one values (in this case; not wasting the evening time with trivial distractions), one has found value in a particular activity.

Furthermore, one becomes pretty apathetic about video games or gender identity when one hasn't eaten in days. Good nutrition becomes an important value to hold when it is in scarcity. This is why hardship breeds men. As one is forced down Maslows Hierarchy, one is forced to drop the things that don't matter. As one moves up the hierarchy again one is able to fill the void with values that contribute to a positive and effective identity.

The mission

If you found yourself tomorrow swallowing the pistol; how would you justify your continued existence? When all you have is taken away; ones wealth, love and children; what will remain? Clarity of purpose. Why? Why continue the cog turning, the beta will ask himself. Why continue to turn the handle of their process that only led them to this miserable point. Here we have hit philosophical bedrock. The answer, quite clearly is ones mission - the justification to the next portion of their life. What should be valued by a man that makes that man? Good carpentry? Building the worlds finest motorbikes? Ensuring that the local kids get fed? Making fur coats from the local residences entrapped cats? As long as the value is yours, then the mission will be yours. If one has a justified mission, then they can implement a process around that mission. Process based on your mission will remain because you will value it. You will go back to mentoring your community, painting, building, selling fur coats to cat people, whatever it is that tickles your fancy, as long as you value your process, and your process generates value for you, you will put that pistol down and get on with your life.

If one has a mission based on masculine values, then one has a life uncoupled from the unnecessary detritus that has been coupled to the lost boy.

The self actualised man knows that his mission isn't to seek validation from women; when the mission is clear and justified; the process of a free life can be experienced. The process of a free life is quite simply the process of diligent continued selfish self investment in activities that create options for oneself. When one has this sort of clarity of purpose, the behaviours of the revered alpha male become genuine; from the perspective of others "you will just get it".