TL;DR: Been in several situations where girls were apologising for the behaviour of their out of order friends. Had an epiphany that female friendship is really fickle, at least from my point of view.
A couple weeks ago I was seeing a friend I had not seen in a while. He was accompanied by a group of girls. Long story short, we had a great time, but there was one girl who could not stop talking how fat I am
(Side note: when someone fat shames you, take that as extra motivation to hit the gym, run faster, and lift harder. Not because you're doing it to placate them, but because you're not going to give up.)
The rest of the group were constantly apologising for their friend to me. One of the girls was like 'she's being a bitch.' I asked if she considered getting better friends, she told me that she is 'not normally like this.'
Fast forward to a couple days ago. I'm hosting an open mic, and two girls who were loud and disrespectful. One of them could not stop talking and was keeping one of our acts from moving forward.
Her friend apologised to us and told us she 'was being a bitch' and that she was 'extremely drunk'. Talk about a case of deja vu
Now, I don't know about the rest of you, but I try to surround myself with friends I can count on, and therefore not being a position where I have to apologise for my friends. If a friend of mine does something egregiously wrong and people are asking me to apologise for my friend, that person is no longer my friend.
Either I expel this person from my life or I defend this person to the hilt. I don't throw them under the bus to placate strangers.
Maybe it's a woman thing that we men can't ever understand, but I find the fact that girls are willing to throw their 'friends' under the bus is incredibly depressing. It's crap like this that makes me glad that I was born a man.
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