Can't get a divorce, but considering cheating

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Never in a milion years would I ever consider cheating on a spouse... that's like a huge line I was never willing to cross, but I'm considering pursuing a guy I dated back in high school. He is very ugly, but also a very nice person. I know he would treat me with a lot of love and respect.

I've been thinking about planning a trip and meeting up with him, as he lives out of state. The meetup would be under the guise of "catching up." Then ordering a couple of drinks and heavily throwing myself at him to get him to sleep with me. Then play the "OMG, I can't believe I cheated on my husband card" and cry. Then beg him not to tell my husband (I'm pretty sure he wouldn't).

This sounds like a giant waste of money and time (not to mention, pretty shitty thing to do to this guy), but after not having sex for so long, my sex-starved brain is saying, "go for it!"

I'm 99.9% sure I would never do this, but it is in the back of my mind. I even feel bad that I have these thoughts.

Update:

I am not going to do this. I think it would be quite shitty for many obvious reasons. Mostly, I don't want to hurt my children... the thing I didn't consider is that I would be leaving my kids to run across the country for the sake of sleeping with a man that I don't even really care about. Just for the sake of feeling normal again.

I'm not even currently talking to this said person and no plan is in action or place. It's more or less a fantasy (not real).

I'm going to see if there is anyway I can schedule a block of time to meet with a therapist.

Some people have left me nasty messages... implying that I'm the monster in this mess. I don't think my husband is solely to blame for all the problems. It's both of us. I do love my husband.