How do I become a better woman?

browndelicious · 2013-08-01T06:21:26+00:00

Wow.

I don't have any easy answers for you, but I applaud your courage. It's time for a redefinition of what it takes to be a strong woman.

By asking the question alone, I think you're well on the road...

dropit_sphere · 2013-08-01T13:54:35+00:00

Try http://girlsbeinggirls.wordpress.com/ The mods of /r/redpillwomen are counted among its contributors.

The-Self-Post-Guy · 2013-08-01T20:53:10+00:00

Personally I find that women with A unique skill set to be more attractive than a woman who just sits and waits for things to happen for her. Like a woman who can play guitar/any instrument, can fix a car, is an artist, chef, or dancer. Something out of the ordinary. A lot of the girls I've dated had no idea what to do with themselves when I was gone, they didn't have a hobby or outlet which made them clingy and needy. Plus a woman with some sort of talent or skill makes her that more desirable than one who doesn't. Its the reason you don't see that many women in bands (now they're getting more popular, but men still dominate this category) or women in racing, etc, etc. Because they don't feel like they have to develop these things, mostly because guys mostly do it to impress/to get women.

TRPsubmitter · 2013-08-01T06:48:23+00:00

I see you posted in /r/redpillwomen and that's a good start.

My advice is to be confident in your femininity & never let other women slut-shame you. You're young and are still becoming an adult woman. You're very impressionable at that age and often young women will mold their personality to fit into the larger social group.

The bad thing is that positive social groups for young women that actually celebrate femininity are lacking. Everything is telling you to be a feminist, hate men, watch out for potential rapists and never let a man control you. It's all debate class (what guy wants to argue with his gf?), feminism protesting groups, or environmental issues. In short, it's all just various ways in which you can complain about something...and that is not attractive to a guy. How about groups that empower or improve yourself as a woman? Cooking, fashion, photography, home decorating, nail art, yoga, running, female fitness, etc. Never seen any of these social clubs in the West (I live in Korea where they are common for girls though).

If you want to give up control to a man in the bedroom, do it and don't feel ashamed after the fact. If you like a guy who dominates you, celebrate that! Don't beat yourself up after the fact for "not saying No" or for "being weak". Those are feminist methods to shame you into feeling bad about yourself. It's your decision to do whatever with a guy, so OWN your decision and don't regret it.

Lastly, develop female game. Learn how to look for high value men, engage them, tempt them, and how to keep them coming back for more. Develop those high value skills (fitness, get in shape, cooking, learn how to walk in high heels). Guys will in turn give you their value as a strong man. Learn how to watch out for and disarm clueless beta men who will get angry at you when you "don't like nice guys".

HumanSockPuppet · 2013-08-01T14:54:27+00:00

The answer to your question is a big one, because it's domain is as potential as large as the interests of the men you will hope to attract. I can give you a idea, but you must try to treat it like general advice, rather than step-by-step instructions on how to win a guy's heart.

The reason why a lot of women end up "riding the cock carousel" (e.g. spending their late teens and twenties having sex with every man who makes their vagina tingle) is because they're spending that time looking for a guy who will remain committed after having sex.

Of course, in most cases the guy moves on once he's had sex with her. The girl ends up sad, alone, and assuming that putting out too soon is what scared him off. This is wrong.

Men aren't put off by a woman who has sex when she wants to have it. A woman who has sex when she wants to because she feels ready to is a good thing.

The real reason a man will pump and dump a woman is because he doesn't see her having any enduring value BEYOND SEX. Much in the same way a gold-digger might call up an orbiter so he will treat her out, a guy might call a woman up for another quick lay. But that's not going to give you the relationship that you want.

You need to develop other traits and qualities that will make a man want to stick around after the pleasure of the orgasm has passed.

What do I mean by other traits? Feminine traits. Kindness, compassion, sweetness, patience, and supportive and nurturing instinct.

Most importantly, you need to demonstrate to a man that you have these traits before you've had sex with him, because it will be relevant to his decision to leave or stay once the two of you have had sex.

Now, that doesn't mean withhold sex until you're sure he knows you're nurturing. It means take every opportunity you can while you're together to show your feminine side is well-developed.

You seem like you've had some practice at this, so it may be easier for you than it is for some women. But for a lot of women, they'll have to work at it, and it'll come off as forced and artificial and even "desperate". That's okay.

See, much like guys who have been brainwashed and deceived about what women truly want, you too have been brainwashed. It will take time and practice for you to get into the habit of demonstrating your sexual polarity. And like any skill you're new at, you'll appear clumsy in the beginning. It's okay - just stick with it.

Once you've demonstrated attractive female qualities, the small details will fill themselves in.

I'm working on a piece which I plan to post to /r/RedPillWomen about how to engender female qualities. Check there from time to time.

Most importantly of all, never let anyone (e.g. never let other women) shame you for doing what you want in order to get what you want. Feminism's entire platform is built on shaming men AND women into compliance with an agenda that suits a small number of individuals. This is your life and your happiness, and no one in the world is responsible for it other than you and the man who will claim you as his own.

SoftHarem · 2013-08-01T06:45:31+00:00

Keep your sex drive high but your partner count low. Become a serial monogamist and learn girl game so men you sleep with end up wanting a relationship with you. If you have any plans on marriage and children consider becoming a pregnant wife before your 25th birthday. Those are the basics, for more detailed oriented information I'm sure the fine women over at /r/RedPillWomen will contribute to your thread. Also, I would like to request you PM me your main Reddit account. This is troll protection in case you have ulterior motives. I went ahead and took care of the flair.

Edit: She apparently doesn't have a main Reddit account, which is typically a red flag but I am attempting to give more benefit of the doubt. You all know what to do if she reveals she is actually a feminist.

throwaway8671 · 2013-08-01T13:55:20+00:00

I created a throwaway just to throw in support. I'm 18, female, and see the same things you see (entitlement) and want the same things you want. But if I post this from my main account, which people I know can recognize, people will assume I'm backwards or not politically correct.

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Duppey · 2013-08-01T06:48:45+00:00

Considering you're asking here, you'll get a man's view of a better women: Simply improve yourself. Eat healthy, exercise, don't get out of shape. Try picking up hobbies for the sake of enjoyment. Challenge yourself, but don't take unnecessary risk that are pointless. Assess the pros and cons of everything. Be honest and a person of your word; men appreciate character and integrity in people. Be feminine: the last thing a straight man wants to date is another man. But there's nothing wrong with a man liking a man either. There isn't a secret formula where you do a certain thing that will instantly transform you into a better person, but physical making yourself healthy is a good way to be mentally healthy.

Last but not least, don't feel sorry for men. We can take care of ourselves, but that's not to say we don't have legitimate concerns. We don't play victim because there are actual victims out there being discredited by imposters. We prefer to be in the company of a pleasant women.

cokebottlesandguitar · 2013-08-01T13:54:43+00:00

What kind of woman does the man you want, want? If you understand what kind of attributes will make you the most interesting, to the kind of men YOU find most interesting, you'll have a good roadmap for your own self-development.

As a corollary, figure out where the man you want is likely to hang out. Chances are it's not in a nightclub. Your odds aren't great on dating websites either. Strive to understand your prey and seek him out in his natural habitat. Approach mate-seeking as an active participant, don't passively wait for the Hollywood movie coincidence. Other than explicitly red-pill communities, you might also look into your local D/s scene (not all doms are redpill, but density is greater than the general community), gun range, or martial arts school.

Read the post on RPW on The Slut, and How Not To Be One. Remember that your goal is to keep the best men once they've already had you. Being physically attractive is just the start (but an important start). Cultivate skills and behaviors-both bedroom and otherwise- which will keep the man you want coming back for more.

Also read Feminism's Terrible Blunder. Find a husband who's worthy of you while you are still young. Kids then career works great. Career then kids really doesn't.

Don't settle for less than you deserve. Don't expect a great man to settle for less than he deserves. Work to become worthy of the man who would be worthy of you.

And send me pics. ;)

cokebottlesandguitar · 2013-08-01T18:38:41+00:00

Meta: Is anyone else noticing we're having quite a few young women visiting us asking for advice? There was a 14-year old here asking the same thing a while back. Any speculation as to why we're having such an impact on the younger audience?

fragglemook · 2013-08-01T09:32:57+00:00

Jeezus, you're still a little cub, remember, so don't pressurise yourself over this stuff.

But one of the things I respect in women is when they are honest. Especially being honest about what they want. True to themselves, true to others.

With your (future?) partner, again, be honest. Make sure you know what you want. Then communicate that to him. Clearly. Don't be frightened of laying down an ultimatum. That can only earn you respect and will probably make the best of your relationship. Both partners willing to walk away if their needs aren't being met makes for a relationship where their needs are being met.

red_tux · 2013-08-01T12:58:14+00:00

1) Be honest
This is true for much in life, it's hard to do and may hurt you at times in the short run, but in the long haul it's the best thing to do/be.

2) You are human, which means you are judged by other humans.
You will be judged by other people, not because you are female, but because you are human. Men will judge you differently than women however. I don't have specifics but it's important to keep this in mind as it can help you question your own actions at the time as to weather or not those actions are a good idea or not. In addition, you are judged by the company you keep. If your company is a bunch of catty shallow bitchy women, guess what, you're a shallow bitchy woman. If your company is a bunch of shy goth kids, you must be a socially awkward shy person yourself. In both examples the judgement of you was done by proxy, and is rarely correct but it's often a baseline for people to use in their initial interactions with you. This is where honesty and integrity are important.

3) Understand the Russian saying "The man is the head of the household, but the woman is the neck."
Yes some people may complain that the saying puts men first, but overall not that much. When you think about it, your own head needs it's neck, it's can't survive without it. Your head contains your brain which needs blood, which is delivered by the arteries in the neck (which comes from elsewhere). Your head needs support which is delivered by your spine, which is in your neck. Mostly, your head has a limited field of view, to truly look around and be aware of your surroundings your head must be moved/repositioned by your neck.

Women and men need symbiosis. They each bring their own strengths and weaknesses to the table. Your strengths should complement each other and lessen each other's weaknesses. Most of all neither of you should be made to feel bad for being who you are by each other.

4) Respect yourself!
If you find yourself the victim of abuse, do what you can to change the situation. Nobody should be abused, but someone who chooses to stay in the downward is not likely to cast a good net for a good partner. Bottom line if you don't respect yourself enough to surround yourself with friends/people who build you up, why should your partner? And yes, this is easier said than done, nothing worthwhile in life is easy.

GayLubeOil · 2013-08-01T09:13:38+00:00

The most attractive women follow difficult workout routines. Learn to squat and deadlift and take Bill Starr's 5x5 training plan for a spin.

[deleted] · 2013-08-01T16:22:16+00:00

Always drop that zero to get with this hero.

[deleted] · 2013-08-01T06:57:28+00:00

I think really all you have to do is try to understand men in the same way you wish him to understand you. Be confident, and be yourself. Gender stereotypes suck but you must live beyond them.

[deleted] · 2013-08-01T08:14:42+00:00

Largely through finding a respectable guy a few years older and then making sure not to cheat on him, and then you will grow and learn together. It's not really rocket science, two good young people who stick together loyally just learn from life and each other.

rbcrusaders · 2013-08-01T09:32:15+00:00

Look to the past for example of strong women in history who did not have this feminist perpetual victim, entitlement culture to be sucked into.

r-a · 2013-08-01T12:26:58+00:00

Assuming that you are sincere, I think the most important thing is to realize that other women will call you "special snowflake" and treat you as a traitor to your sex. Knowing this is the first step toward ignoring it and not letting yourself be dissuaded by conniving feminists.

timdesuyo · 2013-08-01T06:54:08+00:00

Worry less about being a better woman, and more about being a better person. I think the truth is that men and woman have some inherent differences, but the things that make you a good person are not dependent on gender. /u/Duppey's got some good advice, but just straight up be a good person.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-08-01T07:33:46+00:00

I think the most important thing you can do is just NOT be crazy.

We really appreciate that.

vacuu · 2013-08-01T07:19:56+00:00

Men are romantic at heart, they just need feminine inspiration to drive them to do great things. Women pretty much crush this aspect of us by instantly giving their bodies to men with higher status while at the same time manipulating and leading those of lower status on and squeezing as much as they can out of them.

Don't do these things. Don't let yourself get free emotional support from guy friends, because that is manipulative (even if you don't realize it). It's just like guys with game banging young girls. And don't be one of those girls either. Don't let the other girls around you beat you down to attempt to bring you down to their level.

Instead encourage us improve and achieve great things, and be a worthy prize for those accomplishments.

Know yourself and your limitations. It's ok that you may have the inherent weaknesses that women have as long as you understand they are there and you take steps to avoid or mitigate them. Such as getting drunk, that might be a good one to avoid. You can't reason or love at the same level a man can. So find one willing to lead you and show you. If you have to lead in those areas you'll never get anywhere, so you need to find a man that will do it and gain his commitment.

Title	How do I become a better woman?
Author	cokebottlesandguitar
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Date	August 1, 2013 5:46 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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