Link to op: https://archive.is/Lui6j
Summary: Girlfriend is upset her financially independent boyfriend wants to split bills 50/50 when he has the means to pay. Feels entitled to his money even though she doesnt want to be a gold-digging girlfriend.
Body: Girlfriend finds out her boyfriend is rich and her hamster tells her he is being a bad boyfriend for not sharing his money:
After a year of dating, I met his parents and figured it all out. At the time I was a bit miffed that our date nights were still eating frozen pizza on the couch of my crappy apartment, but I loved him, not his money, so I went with it. I also justified it by it being his money and he can do what he wants with it, and also, at the time I figured his parents were just his meal ticket until he was out of school and then he would be more independent.
When she realised he was rich she actually got upset he hadn't spent more money on her but she had to tell herself that "she loves him not his money" (which was probably more true before she realised how much money he has).
This leads us to our problem. My boyfriend has always lived a fairly modest life. He buys nice clothes and nice things for himself, but that's about it. We live in an apartment that we can afford to split 50/50. We have furniture that we can afford to split 50/50. All of this is not a problem, I guess. I do think relationships should be equal.
This is not a problem, I guess. She cant even stop her gold-digging hamster from shining true when writing a post on the internet about not being a gold-digger.
But then there's the other stuff. His sister got married the end of May in Maine, about a 6 hour flight from where we live. Obviously he expected me to go, but I was responsible for all of my ticket and half the hotel/food/car rental.
She made it clear that "he obviously wants me to come", as if she didnt want to go or cover her own expenses she could just say that? Nah, if my boyfriend is doing something fun he can afford and he wants to bring me, it's his fault I cant afford it.
I understand where he is coming from. I don't want to be a gold digging girlfriend that asks for thousands to be spent on her. But it kind of annoys me that we're living a poor, recent graduate lifestyle when we could be living so much more nicely with no real added expense to him. Is this unreasonable?
She doesnt want to be a gold-digger, but after learning how loaded her boyfriend is, she just cant help herself, it's almost like it's in her nature...
At the end this reminded me very much of the netflix-billionaire who got dumped because "they lived frugal", only difference is this woman actually learnt how loaded he is before she had time to call him out on his "lack of ambition".
Lessons learnt:
Women dont want to be gold-digger, but if you have too many zeros in your bank-account they have hard time not being it.
Being a good boyfriend is not enough, you must also spend as much money as you possibly can on her
Women will feel entitled to your money, no matter how little or much you have.
Edit for the people calling him a "cheap asshole": You sound very much like another subreddit, the fact that he says "Until we are married my money is my money and your money is your money" somehow comes off as unreasonable?
Have you not read the sidebar? Do you not know what happens when a women starts feeling "entitled" to "our money"?
2nd Edit: The general consensus of the comments seems to be that after being in a relationship with someone for 4 years they are entitled to your money. Am I being concern-trolled or maybe we should add a 49th law of power?
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