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Researchers from Binghamton University and University College London asked 5,705 participants in 96 countries to dig deep into those emotional memories and recall their last breakup. The researchers then asked the participants to rate their emotional and physical pain following that breakup on a scale of one (none) to 10 (horrible). Women tended to feel the strongest effects following a breakup lie about how they feel and were seeking attention. Their average rating for emotional and physical pain being 6.84 and 4.21. The men on the other hand averaged 6.58 for emotional anguish and 3.75 for physical. So, still hurt, just not as much.

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Met this girl when I was about 20 at a Christian conference in Alexandria, LA about 6 years ago. We instantly hit it off and started dating soon. She had me read this book about commitment and all this stuff before we started dating. Neither one of us had ever dated or even engaged another person physically in a romantic context in our lives. We soon fell in "love" (or I did at least) after around a year of hanging out and started planning our lives together. I'm a Christian so although it was a struggle, we saved ourselves for marriage and eventually after working 3 years to gain her parents approval we got married.

I dropped out of college to plan a career around her and her family. At the time, she wasn't, but her father was fairly famous in a certain community. Eventually after working with them, traveling, and being married for 2 years, she comes back home from about a week of being "at work" to tell that she wants to leave me. No build up whatsoever. Everything seemed fine before that. Eventually come to realize that instead of going to work she went and slept over at this dudes house almost 8 hours from where we live for almost a week. He lives with his parents, deals drugs, and lives off of a medical lawsuit. He and his parents all knew she was married. She confesses what she did to me, our family, and church and "repents".

I remember telling her that it was if she left, died, and never came back. It was like she was replaced with a T-800 or something. Absolutely no emotion or remorse. We go to counseling for about a month and then one night she decides to just up and leave again, this time for good. Leaves me passed out in our driveway after me begging her not to and crying harder than I ever have in my entire life to meet him in a hotel room and bang him. I continued sending her letters and flowers even though I didn't see or hear from her again for close to a year until she finally tells me she wants a divorce and "its time to go our separate ways" even though she had been living as if I never existed for the past year. Even though I'm losing my career and half of my family and friends I cared for her the most. Everything I did was for her and now it feels as if the past 6 years were completely meaningless.

I have nightmares about her and this guy almost every night still. I'm afraid I will never fully get over it... My parents suffered a divorce when I was a kid and I told myself my entire life I would never be like that. All I ever wanted was a person I could trust and rely on to have my back no matter what. I wish I could say I did something to deserve it but although I wasn't a perfect husband by any means, I have remained faithful to her even after all this. I guess all things work for good but it still hurts and it's something I know I'll live with scars from for the rest of my life.

Fuck it's hard reading this shit... you guys will automatically understand this... poor guy has no clue.