Intro:

Life is constently throwing obstacles at us. Failure to recognize and overcome these obstacles is synonymous with failure in life. It's easy to recognize a fallen tree in our path, often it can be more difficult to recognize when we are sabotaging ourself, and stop ourselves from doing it.

 

Understanding Defense Mechanisms:

Defense mechanisms are our way of actively denying the truth, protecting ourselves from anxiety, fear, rejection, and maintaining our distorted world view. If you've ever tried to unplug a Blue Piller you've probably been met with resistance. Maybe it was even hard for yourself to accept the truth of TRP. This resistance (or denial) of the truth is called, "Defense Mechanisms" We use them to protect our selves (and ego) from anxiety, guilt, rejection, or any number of unpleasant feelings. When we use defense mechanisms, we see the world as we are, not as it is.

Major Defense mechanisms, examples, how they relate to TRP, and how to overcome them:

Denial: Flat out refusal to accept the truth/event/outcome. Talking to any Blue Piller make this obvious. When the truth hurts, we ignore it. Like guy who won't listen when you tell him his ONEitis is cheating on him. Most people live in a dream world, and the only way for them to maintain their fantasy is to actively deny the truth. The way to beat this is by actively seeking the truth, consciously acknowledging events, maybe even meditating on them. I suggest writing your thoughts down. The moment you write down a thought it's no longer an abstract concept. It's a physical tangible thing which you have brought into existence from your mind into this world. Your milage may vary.

Rationalization. The hamster. Subconscious justifications, excuses or reasonings given to make a behavior seem logical. This is the girl who fucks Chad on their first encounter while making her BB dance around in circles. "I was drunk, I'm not that kind of girl, Etc.." The reversal is true for men where they justify a woman actions. "She'll love me if I __". "If I give her __ She'll be mine."

The thought process of rationalization is as follows:

  • Decision -> Resulting Behavior -> Subjective Analysis of Data -> Creating Excuses for the Behavior

While a healthy thought process is:

  • Objective Analysis of Data -> Decision -> Resulting Behavior

Beat rationalization by observing your own decision making process in action.

  • Do you analyze the data, make a decision and then behave accordingly?

or

  • Do you find yourself making a snap decision and behaving in a certain way, and afterward thinking about it in more detail to explain to yourself why it’s the right behavior?

Projection: defined as “Attributing one’s own thoughts, feelings, or motives to another.” A few ways in which projection affects us.

  • Notice when you have a(n) (abnormally) strong emotional reaction to someone else, to learn about yourself. Take note of your pet peeves in other people. You can learn a lot about yourself this way.

  • Listen when accusing others. Almost every time I hear of a spouse accusing their significant other constantly of cheating (the ones who are over protective in the first place) It's because They're the ones actually cheating. If you find someone constantly making accusations of another person, it's more then likely their projecting their own thoughts/feelings/actions onto them. People will show you more about themselves though projection then almost anything else. Especially SJW's.

  • Advice from women: You should never take advice from women. Most women are considered to be empathic, but really their just projecting their feelings onto you. "Just be yourself", Etc. "JBYS" is good advice to women, because that's all they need to do to be successful (according to the standards of women). There are too many examples to list.

  • Advice from stupid people in General. A lot of times when someone tries to talk you out of something, they're simply projecting their feelings onto you. (Unless you're about to do something really retarded, then cut that shit out). Ie. "You shouldn't get a motorcycle because it's dangerous." Sometimes it can be hard to discern, but often people are saying nice things to you to make themselves feel better, not for your well-being. Ie. "You shouldn't ____" (Because I would feel bad if you did). There's a thin line for these things. Sometimes you need to question peoples motives behind their actions to get to the truth.

Displacement: Diverting emotional feelings (usually anger) from their original source to a substitute target. This can be good or bad depending on your attitude.

  • Beating the shit out of your wife and kids - Bad
  • Becoming cold and bitter from negative experiences and treating others like shit - Bad

  • Focusing your anger in a positive manner Ie. Weight lifting, Shooting, Hobbies, Sports, Self Improvement, Etc. - Good

Repression. Keeping distressing thoughts and feelings buried in the unconscious. This is slightly different than denial. The difference is doing your best not to think about things that bother you. Combine this with drugs or alcohol and you've got a recipe for disaster. The problem here is once you decide to run away from your problems - you have to run from them, 24 hours a day, 265 days a year. Which is obviously futile. My buddies mom is an alcoholic. She drinks everyday to forget the shit that's bothering her, and it never works because she cries herself to sleep almost everyday, or drinks until she passes out. People that repress their feelings/thoughts/memories dedicate an enormous amount of energy to doing so. It can be hard facing your inner demons, but honestly I think it hurts more running away from them, because instead of facing your problems once, you have to face them everyday once you choose to run away from them.

Regression: A reversion to immature patterns of behavior. Personally I find this one the most absurd. We spend our precious time growing and maturing. We learn from our (often painful) mistakes and become better people. The concept is this: We want to return to a point in time that was easier/more comfortable/more secure. I can't offer much advice on this one except grow the fuck up. A perfect example is SJW's. The world is too harsh and unfair for them, they act like children throwing childish tantrums so that their guardian (government) Solves the problem for them. Women also constantly do this. Treat them as such. You are the authority figure.

All defense mechanisms are focused at protecting the individual from negative emotions (stress/anxiety/rejection). Facing your problems directly instead of working around them is the best way to deal with things. If you don't deal with it now, it will deal with you later. There are more then what I listed here, these are the one's I find to be the most destructive to oneself.

 

Logical Fallacies: There are too many logical fallacies to list them all, but understanding them will help you make decisions based on actual logic, not your feelings. Knowing logical fallacies is also important because most people have no idea how to think logically, It's important to identify these people so you can keep them from poisoning your mind with their emotional, feeling-based garbage. Especially when they use it against you in arguments you can't win, because the other person isn't using logic.

Ad Hominem: Simply put, a personal attack. A person can't refute your ideas so they attack your character. At this point, you've won. They have nothing else to say (if they had anything to say in the first place). A perfect example being SJW's attacking peoples character instead of their ideas. They don't even try anymore. If someone is using Ad Hominem attacks you'd most likely to be wise not to take them too seriously. The reverse of this is being critical of someones character. You can be critical of someones character without attacking them. Ie.

  • This person isn't trust worthy because they constantly lie and steal. - Not Ad Hominem
  • You're a racist bigoted homophobic islamiphobe moron! - Ad Hominem

Ad Misericordiam: Appeal to Pity/Emotion. Basically a sob story. You'll probably get this a lot from single mothers. My personal favorite is, "You're not validating our experiences!" (Hint: Your personal experiences are only valid to one person. That's what makes them Personal). These are arguments that try to play on a persons sense of pity, and are especially low in my opinion, mostly because of how often they're used, and most of the time it works.

Bandwagon: Everyones doing, and you should too - argument. Learn to stand your ground, just because a lot of people are doing it, doesn't make it smart.

Begging the Question: or Circular argument. If you need examples of this look up, "Why I need feminism".

Dicto Simpliciter: or sweeping generalization. Ie. We need to teach men not to rape, Blacks not to steal, and women to keep their legs closed, etc...

False Dilemma: A fallacy of oversimplification: an argument in which only two alternatives are provided when in fact additional options are available. Sometimes called the either-or fallacy. You'll hear this a lot within debates of gun control. Give it a look.

Red Herring: Something that distracts from the original topic. Maybe people will do this when loosing an argument. It's either an act of desperation, or a sign of a weak mind that can't stay on subject.

Straw Man: Grossly oversimplifying or misrepresenting the opposing persons viewpoints in order to make it easier to attack. You'll see this in almost any political debate.

 

** Buffers:** (Seach "buffers" on the rational male's website for a very insightful article.)

Rejection is painful. Instead of becoming strong enough to deal with rejection, many people resort to "buffers" to distance themselves from the pain of rejection.

  • LDR's - A person will this as an excuse not to actively search out new relationships because of their, "Commitment" to their "significant other."

  • Playing Friends - Someone who let's themselves be friend zoned, accepting the LJBF offer while secretly hoping to prove how great he would be as a boyfriend (If only he would get the chance)

  • Facebook and Online Dating - You aren't getting told, "No" to your face, it isn't as big of a deal. There's actual physical distance during the rejection and It's less personal.

  • Scarcity mentality - Taking the first piece of ass as it comes your way. "I'll take what I can get and be glad I got it" (Therationalmale) mentality.

  • Older Women, Younger Women, Fat Women - Thinking that a certain type of women is, "easy" and less likely to reject you.

  • Leagues - "She's out of my league so I shouldn't waste my time talking to her." One disqualifies themselves before they even step up to the plate.

  • Pornography - Just cutting out interactions with women in general.

All of these can be (But not always) used as ways of avoiding rejection. The solution being: know how you're avoiding rejection and face it head on. Become strong enough to deal with rejection. Rejection and failure is part of the process of growing and maturing. Learn from your mistakes, It will make them less painful.

 

Conclusion

Life is going to throw everything it can at you. Don't wish life was easier, make yourself stronger. Everyone is sabotaging themselves to a degree, some more then others. There's no reason to make life harder then it already is by living in a fantasy world full of delusions. The closer you get to reality (and the more you stop deluding yourself) you can make better, more logical, more rational, decisions. In turn this will impact your life in a positive way. The greatest opponent in your life is you. Once you overcome yourself the world is yours for the taking.