TL:DR: Learning and applying TRP principles has allowed me to access women I never would have thought possible previously and being able to control myself and situations with ease.

Body: This is to give hope to all of the older guys out there who are working on themselves. I'm 41 and have been separated for 10 months now. I'm having the time of my life.

Last weekend I went out with a couple of co-workers. I could write a whole FR just on that night alone, but basically because I was out with two women, having a blast and enjoying myself I was at a nightclub and got approached by a 22 year old HB8 who actually picked me up. I haven't been to a club in four years because I can't stand them. Blue pill me would have been totally freaking out about this, but I was already getting a ride home from a plate and spending the night with her and knew it going into the night, plus I'd had sex with another woman that afternoon. We flirted a lot, talked and joked as much as possible and I did kino right away because I knew I was getting laid that night anyway and didn't care if she rabbited. Abundance, gentlemen. It works.

My interaction after that was simple and straightforward, no repeat texting. Essentially: "Hey, hope you've had a good long weekend. I'm free on Thursday and let's meet for dinner. There's a new restaurant I've been wanting to try (which was true)." No ambiguity. No "if you're free", no "if you want", etc. Be direct. She declined but proposed Friday instead due to work - she's a student that works two part time jobs - more on that later. I texted I'd set things up and left it at that. Two days before I set the date and time, again being totally direct. We did end up flirting a bit over text, which I consider totally fine as long as I am the one leading the conversation and I'm getting warm responses. Keep it short and simple but funny and flirtatious so they know your intention.

I kept the restaurant a secret and the day of confirmed, and asked for a preview of her outfit, she texted me a selfie but was at school so wasn't in her night outfit. I had told her previously when I set up things that the place was decent so she should wear something sexy and she did - she looked killer but not trashy. For you older guys, there is nothing better than a sexy young woman in a tight dress who is done up properly and looks sophisticated. But I told her to do it ahead of time. I was dressed well too obviously. Be attractive, and make heads turn when you walk into places. As much as heads turned for her when she walked into the place, I caught the eye of a couple of women myself.

Kept the conversation going well - learn your conversation skills, folks. Use good body language and keep eye contact but not creepy eye contact. Open ended questions, joking, learning more about her. This girl was in short pretty close to perfect (for her age):

  • only child to hard working immigrant parents
  • Colombian and Russian descent, both cultures where strong men lead and women follow.
  • taking a high level science degree and already had her future laid out.
  • well traveled and intelligent
  • actually asked about me - I consider this very important as many younger women are totally self-absorbed.
  • did not touch her cell phone once the whole night
  • responded very well to kino
  • did not assume I would be paying and asked to buy the wine, even though she's a student

I already had the next venue picked (which again was a surprise to her) and we went to see some live music with a fair walk in between. Had social proof because I knew one of the guys in the band. My only flaw was that the restaurant was loud and made it hard to hear each other, and live music following meant we had short time alone where we could really hear each other. I kissed her immediately after the restaurant when we walked - be bold and don't GAF - and after that we made out several times, in public. At the music venue we danced a bit and got more friendly. Lots of touch and flirting. I have no problem being physical. We had to cut it short because she had to work this morning early, as did I. Date ended without anything major except a good makeout session at her door - I didn't even ask to come in because she had already stated she had to work. She has already texted me at 7am to say she had a great time and wants to see me again. I will probably see her again next weekend and already have my strategy in place for seduction.

So here's my main takeaway: Blue Pill me would have considered this something surreal because of her age. This date was NO DIFFERENT than I've had with a dozen women older than her in terms of my approach and strategy, and it works every single time. I get sex usually by second or third date without any issue. Just because her age is really young (and I think I happened to find a really well adjusted 22 year old) it doesn't mean you change who you are and how you enjoy spending your time. Make them adjust to you, not the other way around. With this age group you might get flakes, but that can happen in any age demographic.

Also, be different from the 25 year old guys who just want to get high and drunk and get into her pants. She commented several times about how she didn't have anything in common with guys her age because they liked clubs, video games and partying. Sometimes these younger women want a mature person to lead them and she loved that I had things planned and it wasn't all about drinking and partying.

My next date with her I've already planned to be something fun and athletic, and outdoors - then dinner at my place, where I will escalate and probably have sex with her. I'm looking forward to it but also don't care if things explode because I have three other active sex partners right now. Again, abundance works.

Summary: As an older man, don't treat younger women any differently or consider them special. Lead, be attractive and have a good time and let them come along for the ride, not the other way around. Older women love this too because most guys don't do it. Basic Red Pill principles IE Sidebar stuff works - I could go into detail about how much it's helped me and my sex life post marriage but it would be a humblebrag. Your life is not over if you're single and over 40 - it's just beginning if you think it is. Enjoy your life and good things will happen.