Summary
These are some strategies I’ve been using on my current LTR and it’s training her to become a super insta-HB9000. These will make your girlfriend become #girlfriendgoals and #instaworthy. Trust me.
In all seriousness, these 3 pieces of advice in this guide will maximize good behaviours in her (submissiveness, sex, making your life easier) and minimize bad behaviours (bitchiness, flakiness, disrespect). You’ll do this by changing your own behaviour as a man.
This post is for men in LTR’s or men wanting to LTR a woman they deem worthy ¹. These strategies work best when used on an LTR or a girlfriend, and not necessarily with a FWB or Plate. Actually definitely don’t use these on a FWB or Plate… she’ll want to be an LTR real fuckin’ quick.
An insightful comment on the escort post a few weeks ago:
Being a respectful, courteous, interesting, feminine lady is apparently now a rare talent worth thousands per hour. (In fairness, I have no doubt that the market is almost as depressing for women seeking a confident, masculine man.)
— BlacknOrangeZ
You and I can both agree that there is no substitute for having a good woman in your life. This is a woman who is feminine, submissive and willing to please. These women are rare to find, hence why some of them resort to “becoming an esco… entrepreneur”. And in fairness, as BlacknOrangeZ puts it, masculine confident men are also as hard to find. Many of them lurking on TRP.
Note: This advice will only work if you’re already with a (potentially) feminine submissive girl. If no matter what you do, she’s always a flake, disrespectful and a bitch, then time to find a new girl. Some women are simply broken and unfixable. Save yourself, and the TRP community some time and find a feminine submissive woman.
Background on me: I’m 23 years old, white, 6'0, 175lbs, 12% bf. Lift weights and boxing 6 times per week. Bachelors degree in philosophy. Self employed web developer, 40–60k per year. I drive a black 2006 Porsche Cayman. I’ve been with this girl for 3 years now ².
Background on Annabelle: I consider her an HB9. Double D breasts, tiny waist, bubble butt, eastern descent, 24 years old. Classy woman. Doesn’t drink. Exercises (lifts) and eats healthy (vegan). Takes care of her body. Educated, and committed to self development. Submissive and very feminine.
In this post there are one theoretical and two practical/field report guides relating to sexual strategy.
Theoretical advice for using “beta” behaviour
There’s a recurring theme I see on asktrp and TRP. Some of you (not all) will interpret anything that’s not alpha as “beta behaviour”. Rightfully so. Those of you senior to TRP will understand that women have a dualistic mating strategy for LTR’s and each women’s preferences for a man’s behaviour are going to differ (i.e. some women prefer more beta, some women more alpha). Depending on her age, time in cycle, and the type of woman they are. For courting women short term/no commitment (FWB, plate, ONS) you don’t need beta behaviour.
Beta behaviour in LTR’s is meant to be used sparingly. 80/20 alpha/beta seems to be a good balance in my LTR, and it works wonders in crushing comfort tests. Which are also a test of your strength and commitment. The trick is finding a balance between the two. You can gauge as you see fit. Most good women don’t want to be with an emotionless psychopath. They want to be with a man who can lead her in the direction that he is going. Now onto the practical advice.
Tell her what to do. Lead her in every interaction
You need to be leading her in every interaction. If you’re taking her out, tell her what to do. Message her “wear natural makeup, black heels and a dress” ³. Good women want to feel sexy. They feel sexy, when you tell them what to do. They want to be told what to do, because that’s what their fathers did.
If your with a girl and she doesn’t like been told what to do, chances are her relationship with her father is not good. And she’s had a weak or absent father growing up.
The women who love been told what to do (aka been lead) usually have a strong positive relationship with their father. And chances are her father is a strong alpha male worthy of mentorship. Get on that.
If you get a chance, watch how she interacts around her father. Is she engrossed in his frame? If she lights up when he’s around, and he has complete control over her attention and respect, you know that she’s already tame. This means that she is used to being told what to do.
Initially, when you tell her what to do out of the blue, it’s not going to work out well. She’s not going to trust you/or she’ll test you a lot. These are fitness tests, and you can create a new frame around it until she starts to obey ³. See footnotes for more detail. Women communicate covertly, therefore you must change your actions for her to listen to you. OmLaLa has several excellent strategies for framing the relationship in a certain way. I suggest you read back on his post history for more detail.
1/3 in 2/3 out rule
Every 1/3 that you put in, you should get 2/3 out. This generally should happen if you are dating a good woman. Over time, if you don’t put at least 1/3 in with an LTR, eventually she’ll get bitchy, think she can do better and will end up cheating, or find someone better than you ⁴.
An example of my 1/3: I take my LTR out on some kind of date 2 times per week.
When I take her out on a date. I pick her up in my car, I open the door for her, I dress better than she does (hair styled, dress pants, good shoes, shirt and blazer, tie optional — or whatever your current style is). She shows up as I told her to (or better), always ⁵.
I take her to eat at a place that I made reservations for. I touch her, I order for her, I tease her, I make interesting conversation, I pay for the meal ($20–$60). Then we drive around, go to the next venue, (concert, show, social event). I socialize with others, we have a good time. Change locations, walk on the beach, slap her ass to crush shit tests/comfort tests. Talk, laugh, touch, do things that I want to do ⁶.
By the end of the date she is literally hanging off of me. Then I drive her back to my place or her place, take her onto the bed and do what I want to her. That’s my 1/3. I lead the whole night the way I want it to go. And she’s a happy girl because she can sit back, relax, and be a woman with no responsibilities or worries. Sounds simple right?
This is the type of date no girl will ever flake on. Hypothetically, she would cancel plans for her best-friends wedding to go on this date. It’s surprising to me how so many men haven’t caught onto this yet. When you take a women out, she wants to have no responsibilities. She wants to be lead. She wants to be shown a good time so she can feel feminine and open to you. That’s the way it is, and it took me a long time to accept this.
After our date — Annabelle’s 2/3: Over the next few days, it’s TRP on easy mode. Hot sex, spontaneous blowjobs, random presents and gifts (cologne, chocolate, protein shakes). In 3–4 days she’s spent at least 2/3 of what I’ve spent on her in money, time and gestures.
Sweet affectionate behaviour like cooking me food, giving me compliments, being submissive. Little to no shit tests. Comfort tests depend on the time of the month.
I usually reward these behaviours with positive reinforcement. But also act like it’s nothing special at the same time, and that I’m used to it/expect it.
Then rinse and repeat next date night — except mix things up, and keep it spontaneous. This has been working pretty well for me, and whatever 1/3 I put in, I get 2/3 out.
Summary and actionable advice
Find a submissive feminine woman. Apply some beta behaviour to balance out the alpha/comfort her. Lead her in every interaction. Give her 1/3 and you’ll get 2/3 in return.
Footnotes:
¹ If you do these things too often, she’ll become really used to the treatment, and do one of two things. One: Treat you way better and make your life way easier. And/or two: Want you to commit to her for marriage. Use at your own discretion, and throw some dread or play back a bit when you feel appropriate — depending, of course, on what your motives are.
² I am not from a wealthy family in any sense. I budget my money very carefully. I prioritize my spending on certain things and omit other things. I included background on myself for the Field Report section to paint a picture and give context to the situation, not for free internet points. But I’ll take some of those too.
³ Credit goes to the escort post for this line.
⁴ In most circumstances this won’t manifest itself for some time — so it’s difficult to pin-point an exact reason why she left you. Many women also stick around in shitty relationships to use the man they’re with for resources — also known as Beta Bucks. Valuable (and entitled) women will leave when they know they can do better.
⁵ Initially when I started to tell her what to do — the first few times she resisted. Until I started dressing better than her… now she woke up and realized that she needs to step her game up. She’s shows up as I told her to because it’s a standard I set for her, and for myself. That’s why I show up dressed better than her… because I’m not going to put up with anything less. Leading by example. Women communicate covertly, and they get the message when you start to change your actions. Women become the men they are with.
⁶ Your one third is going to look different than mine. If you have an alternate method that seems to work comparatively well or better, comment below.
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