r/relationship_advice•Posted byu/ThrowRA_pedophilehus31 minutes ago

I [36f] just ruined my whole family by asking one single question.

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So for some context, my husband and daughter both play video games. I do not. They usually play them by themselves but since the whole Corona virus thing has happened they've started playing them together. So they've been spending a lot of time together, yeah yeah I feel left out and I've been lonely.

So my husband [39m] and daughter [13f] stay in a room by themselves for long periods at a time. I'm talking hours a day. They'll just sit in there playing video games all the fucking time. I just thought "weird, they usually never spend time together, but they've been with each other for hours a day in a room by themselves." They will occasionally leave the house and go to the grocery store together or a McDonald's or something, but they'll come back and play some video games.

I don't know why I asked, but after them staying in a room together for 6 hours my husband came out, went to the living room and gave me a kiss. I felt super suspicious of him and I straight up asked him, "Have you been sexually assaulting our daughter?" I thought he did, I mean they never really were ever together, but all of a sudden they suspiciously started spending tons of time together. He immediately gave me a "What the fuck" look and pushed me off him onto the couch. I screamed at him "What the hell is wrong with you" I thought I caught him, I thought I figured out that my husband was doing stuff to our daughter. He straight up left the house, didn't tell me bye or anything. He didn't even say anything to our daughter.

30 minutes pass, he hasn't answered the phone or responded to any of my texts. I decide I'm going to get to the bottom of this and find out what the hell is going on. I go to my daughters room and she's sitting there on her phone. I sit on her bed, she had a nervous look on her face, but I got the courage to ask her, "Has your dad been sexually assaulting you?" She seemed to put two and two together at this point and figured that's why he left the house, but to my demise she said something along the lines of "What the fuck mom? No!" I felt my heart drop. She is a good kid, she has never cursed before, most certainly not at me. So I could tell this really bothered her. All I said was, "I'm sorry" I then walked outside and started crying.

My husband pulls in the drive way around an hour later. He walks in the living room, sees me, and says "Me and Kate are going to be spending some time at my parents house. And don't get any fucking ideas, because she asked me to come get her" He said this in the meanest tone he possible could, I just wanted to die in that moment. They pack up for 10ish minutes, then leave. I just ruined my whole fucking family just like that. I now know he hasn't done anything to our daughter, just their reactions proved that. I'm so fucked up for just ruining everything.

What do I do? They left me? I just wanted my daughter to be safe and I just fucked up everything. They probably hate me now. I don't blame them, I just accused my husband of the worse thing possible. Please just someone help me