Intro

This was originally meant as a reply to GaylubeOil's Guide to Using Meals to Give Women Feels. I realized it's good to take a step back and see this more... theoretically.

Summary

For a home date that doesn't suck, and also give them feels:

  1. You have to be presentable and have a presentable home.
  2. You have to find something fun for both to do
  3. You have to make this experience memorable for her (activate her feelz)
  4. You have to define your relationship dynamic towards your frame

Body

This is my original reply to dinner dates at home

I really don't like the fact that you have to have cookie cutter dates just in order to power-play women. I would be bored around dinner date 2.

Since she came to your house, she already wants you on some level, so all this can be also done very differently.

Captain/first mate in your house

You just chill in your house and do whatever the fuck you want to do and also have her come along for the ride. Watch a movie? Smoke up and have her listen to the whole pink floyd "The wall"? Fuck yeah, she's in for a treat. Want to cook? SURE THING, go do that, have her help.

Can she munch on your snacks? HELL YEAH, but tease her for all the calories and how will she undress for you later if she keeps on eating like that?

You pay for the food, so it's her job to go get it from wherever it is and serve it to you and she can have a side. Tease her for whatever she does incorrectly or insecurely. She asks with a trembling voice, lost in the woods of your kitchen, "where do you keep the plates?". Resist the urge to reply with "well, you for one are here, the others I don't know and don't care." Instead you can go with something like "Basic bitch, they're in the cupboard over the sink of course. And return quickly, I unpaused the movie already, this shit's so intense."

If you both eat at the same time, you just take a big chunk out of her food and stuff it in your face. She can go grab more, whatever, it's your food anyway.

She learns the whereabouts of your kitchen, and you should always act like she should already know them. That's her domain. Have her fill the bottles of water you keep in the fridge during the summer because she removed the last 2 ones - and you drank them of course, but that's another story.

Also don't forget to reward her from time to time when she gets up to go get stuff. Compliments on the way she walks, slaps on the butt, grabbing her to return for a kiss, all are appropriate depending on your current relationship. Have you fucked? anything goes. Have you not? Good chance to escalate maybe. Appreciate all her effort and express to her how contended you are. Tell her how natural it feels when she treats you like a king while you sit back and relax from all the gym time you're been putting in. Remind her you treat her like a queen too, look at all the shit you have in the cupboard for her to eat.

edit forgot my favorite one: From the 2nd time and after she says she is going to the WC (for some reason girls always seem to announce this), you can go like "WTF, AGAIN?" and just hold a frustrated and weirded out look like something super fishy is going on. Nothing more hilarious than girls apologizing for their bodily needs.

These are not universal advice though and it all comes down to calibration. Just giving out an idea of my version of date nights inside the house. Also, this all sets a good precedent for her going in your kitchen and doing housework. Throwing out subtle hints about doing the dishes should come natural and easy.

For a home date that doesn't suck, and also give them feels

  1. You have to be presentable and have a presentable home.
  2. You have to find something fun for both to do
  3. You have to make this experience memorable for her (activate her feelz)
  4. You have to define your relationship dynamic towards your frame

#1 You have to be presentable and have a presentable home.

A little mess is OK and even good to have so you can measure her reaction. Please do the dishes. Please no clothes lying around. For the love of God please trace and eliminate any weird smells - have people who don't visit you often help with this. Please.

#2 You have to find something fun for both to do

This is pretty obvious. Find stuff you both like to do, and ask her to accompany you while you do it. Like "I'm gonna chill with this very culture much wow Pedro Almodóvar movie. You could also provide the entertainment instead if you have any talents. GLO cooks, that works. Food always works. You could ask a bitch to come over to munch on some deliciously free shit and she's gonna say no? But if the bitch is fancy you offer a fancy benedict egg - if she deserves it. See where I'm going? You can draw them into your frame, but she has to be in the same area at least. The bigger your SMV is, the wider is the area from which you can pull into your frame because of compliance/supplementing on their part. Interesting and weird hobbies are also good to share. Do you build stuff? You do woodworking or any other (manly or not) activities at home you could show/share/amaze?

#3 You have to make this experience memorable for her (activate her feelz)

Your house is full of your story. Literally every piece of furniture could be a start of a story of yours. Say your stories, and also include how you felt during them. Like how you felt INSIDE you moron not how it hurt when you used to kick eachother's balls in school. Which pain is technically inside so I take it back. Anyway, all these gay feelings girls have, like love, and loneliness and joy and excitement and about that time when you COULDN'T WAIT for the stuff that something or whatever. Unless you don't have emotions like me in which case just make up stories or copy from books. Shall they catch you red handed, you can pretend you were reciting literature and she's ruining the moment. So, again, stories, and how you felt during them, not only facts. Cumstains that persist are excellent story material.

#4 You have to define your relationship dynamic towards your frame

I believe I got that one covered in my quoted reply to GLO, but it's not a simple matter and the more one understands, the better off they are. Drawing them into your frame is gradual and should not be forced. If they don't obey your commands maybe you are too soon too bossy. It's your domain but she can be out of it in a few seconds, so boil the frog slowly. You can try sweet talking her into the first few commands and also do it periodically as an advance reward too. You should even fucking smile at her and ask nicely if it comes to that - which it wouldn't if you lift enough.