So I Faced My First Real Test

4mrkite · 2014-06-02T15:06:56+00:00

The hardest won victories are those over ourselves, and as it turns out they're also the sweetest.

Fight on Brother. Fight on.

General_Fear · 2014-06-02T23:50:41+00:00

The important thing here. You avoided single mother trash.

thrownaway_MGTOW · 2014-06-03T17:24:11+00:00

and a girl I was immediately attracted to (very cute, excellent body) made eyes at me on several occasions and then actually approached me* (I wasn't going to make any moves) before I left. She was throwing up IOI's all over the place as she asked me questions about myself, starting with "hey, you're leaving?" as I was clearly heading for the door. This was as clear an approach as there could be without her just outright saying "fuck me"

Have you ever been solicited by a prostitute?

I mean that as a SERIOUS question, because it is extremely relevant.

A lot of men -- possibly even most men in certain areas of the US and other countries (i.e. so called "blue pill men" aka "good little boys") -- have little or no actual experience with a prostitute attempting to pick them up as a client.

Their behavior is not a whole lot different from the behavior of a (desperate) "single mom" (or woman approaching "the wall") -- the only REAL difference is that the prostitute is a bit more direct, charges by the hour or the act, and wants a (small, relatively trivial, agreed upon in advance) payment forthwith; whereas by contrast the non-prostitute woman is just as predatory and JUST as money-seeking (or call it "gold-digging" or "sugar daddy seeking" or whatever) -- but is planning on grabbing a MUCH bigger payout further down the line (i.e. basically as much as she can get: your house, half or more of your assets, etc).

When you fully realize that... and that the IOI's are not all that different (in purpose) -- and I would argue are virtually identical (just more subtle) -- to the direct solicitations of a prostitute (albeit they are potentially a LOT more dangerous and costly in actual terms of consequences and damage to your finances, your psyche, and your "comfort and enjoyment of life")... well, then you will find your ability to not only DEFLECT such things; but you'll probably start having a far less "fearful" and even a lot more entertaining/enjoyable response: I sometimes have to (literally) stop myself from laughing in their face.

Because it is just so obviously & blatantly TRANSPARENT to me what they are trying to do. (Which is NOT to get you to "fuck them", but rather to trap you with the sex, and then to "fuck YOU over" in vastly more important ways: the pussy being offered is like one of these... best not to step in it {and certainly not put your dick in there}.)

butter1rum · 2014-06-02T17:52:25+00:00

I didn't dwell on it all day like I would have in the past.

That's the key. At this point, I'm only partially successful with that. About 1/3 of the time, I still feel like I missed an opportunity. Usually it's directly related to the attractiveness of the girl.

dixiedownunder · 2014-06-02T20:44:49+00:00

I don't think you joined the priesthood. I don't get hung up on women, but I still sleep with them. Women when you want and none when you don't is how I look at it. Clint Eastwood quote I think.

Gittiup · 2014-06-02T22:48:40+00:00

Right on,

I went through something similar last friday. Where I work we are easily close to a 1000 employees. I usually don't get asked out at work out right, usually it's questions asked Like "someone want's to know if your seeing anyone" My stock answer is kind of, and that's the end of that. But last week I had a woman come right out and ask me out for a drink(She's mid 30's no kids. ). I was taken off guard, and said yes. Which made me upset with myself, because I wanted to say no. But then that opens the doors to a bunch of bullshit in the office if I did that.

So it was a friday, after work we went to a nice place sat on the patio. This woman was in party mode. She ordered a beer, and could just see the disappointment in her face when I ordered a soft drink. She asked if I didn't drink. I said not very much, lies. I would of loved a beer. Started talking about hopes and dreams and told her of my aspirations to live out in the remote wilderneess, something I was considering doing. She found that disturbing. more lies. ... After about an hour she made a snide remark I guess in order to shame me, that she wanted to move to the other side of the patio where a large party of people where obviously celebrating something because it seemed more fun to her than where she was at. She quickly added, "I'm just kidding" I said "no your not, but that's ok." I don't give a shit I thought to myself. Stayed for about two hours, shook her hand and I went home happy and she went home frustrated or disappointed.

She won't be asking me out again, mission accomplished.

mindhawk · 2014-06-04T01:29:44+00:00

Although I applaud your ability to resist for the sake of resisting, as in she held no power over you, MGTOW isn't about just running the other direction for no reason whatsoever.

If she threw some red flags, like started talking about her cat or marriage, that would be one thing, but I find the idea of a woman not being ashamed or whatever to approach me, kindof cool.

If someone wants to talk with me, I will totally talk to you until you bother me in some way. I would be secretly hoping she would actually be cool and that may be some suitable companion, against the odds.

Not saying you didn't do ok, but don't throw the baby out with the bathwater, is my mgtow .02.

2014-06-02T22:04:53+00:00

Nice man, I've had similar encounters lately. While I used to usually listen to my dick and go with it, I decided to stop. A lot less drama in my life lately and I am a lot happier. I definitely wouldn't say I don't want sex anymore period, just not with any women who will cause a headache in my personal life. No time for that!

Maschalismos · 2014-06-03T04:40:40+00:00

Good on ya, man. One question: whats an IOI?

Title	So I Faced My First Real Test
Author	magx01
Upvotes	15
Comments	21
Date	June 2, 2014 2:17 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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