Awhile back, I came to you all with a rather complex question and was down-voted into oblivion. I caught my wife having an affair and she's wealthy and I have a company and it doesn't fucking matter- the answer you gave me was right. Fuck you, divorce her. I literally listened to this forum over friends and family, and it has paid dividends.

I bought "Dating Your Wife," EDIT Book is Married Man Sex Life realized what I did wrong and decided to not revive the relationship, I've been a student of the 48 Laws of Power, I knew (what I'd coined at 22) as the "Theory of Least Interest." What I didn't know was how to apply it when the environment wasn't conducive...when I wasn't feeling my A game.

Quick back story - I married a real hell hound. Beautiful, rich, needy as fuck, (small tits, emotionally fucked because of upbringing but perfect on paper and in public perception.)

I've been the AMOG (lower tier groups probably) since I took time to meditate and realize things about myself at the age of 21 or so, but never scored above and beyond. Pretty good looking but we all have our short comings. I'd never had a problem with the 7 & 8's, but the 9's and 10's terrified me. Girls with big tits in particular. I was a fat kid in high school and it stuck with me until I figured that part out.

Fast forward to 2013, I started a company and it's a perfect business model disrupting an old school industry. Growth was slow but we had big investors. My wife said she supported me, but I found out she was having a 14 month affair with a total beta slob married father of two. There's no way you forgive a woman who had an affair for that long, period.

I came to you all for advice....

I divorced her and left for a big east coast city. Her family railroaded my investors who they were connected to severing a couple of game changing deals. I went homeless. I lived on bananas and crackers from 7-11 but I felt free of her emotionally manipulative bullshit. I rediscovered how to be myself one step at a time, and I'm still going.

I jumped in and tried being sarcastic, aggressive, honest, friendly, all of it. I realized it's a case by case basis...if she seems high maintenance, just go sarcastic. If she seems like a spiritual hipster, go enlightened...never over share during text or in person.

Once I got my "voice" or persona down, it only took one meetup before I boned. Girl #1, a solid 6 (a real car beast - way bigger legs when she showed up) went do dinner, she wasn't interesting, convinced her successfully to join me for wine at my hotel, and couldn't get it up. Miserable sex, super embarrassed. Then I met girl #2, super sexy, huge tits, totally wanted a husband. I went full quasi-beta mode while I figured my shit out. (Knew I was using her for my own laboratory but played the game she wanted) Got some Viagra and got my sex game back on track.

To bring up to present day...I'm not completely divorced, I've shed all my assets, no more living like Jay-Z, I've been literally homeless and waiting on selling my company. Since starting my company, I've fallen out of shape (still not bad with clothes on, but not my rugby player physique anymore), but I have been fucking 9's and 10's every other day. All I can say is /u/MikeHaines is 100% accurate. It's all about the psychological frame.

At first, I did the Bumble/Tinder always be escalating, get to drinks/dinner. But I realized it might be a little while before I had the cash to keep this up. Now, there have been times I showed up to a bar with no way to pay, or no place to go. That "burning your ships" mentality has created a total fuck it mentality. I'll straight up leave a chick who isn't interesting, and I'll triple book my time to always upgrade. I would say I'm an 8 that believes he's a 10.

Now, for all you guys getting back into the game here's my advice. Having been out of the dating scene for 10 years, it took time, so my way to give back is to share some tidbits (probably a lot of knowns for you younger Bumble/Tinder guys) but hopefully helpful for you older guys transitioning where it's a totally new deal.

Firstly, YOU ARE NOT DAMAGED GOODS. Women seek any leverage they can find. Do not give them any. No baggage you have is unworthy of a chick's time. I'm essentially a homeless cuck who is $1mm+ in debt...I turned it around into the most James Bond story ever. Without having to lie, it's all about the frame.

Never answer their questions without a follow up question in mind. If she asks why you got divorced, ask her why she's still single as a follow up. Keep her guessing about her self-worth.

Honesty & Arrangement if you hate your bitch ex-wife, never vent. Say something like "our story came to an end, she's a great person but we were just incompatible..." Put the onus back on her to be interesting.

Make your intentions clear and be communicative. You're busy, but you like to connect to people to learn their stories...talk about other dates you've been on and make them feel like they're auditioning but have a bit of a leg up. And let them know when you're available and what type of dates you'd like to have for the time being. Don't assume most girls just want to move in and glom onto your life, they have shit going on to and you might just find a great arrangement.

Just in case you lost your house in a divorce and are staying somewhere less than desirable like a friend's or mom's) Stay at their place...setup a date closer to them and uber them back to increase the odds that this happens.

Make plans to break plans: I always keep getting better offers...make a plan on a prime time night with a 7-8 but double down on the 9-10. Even if it doesn't pan out, you'll just build up for a hotter chick the next night and you'll be happier with your self-discipline. Cancel because of work deadlines or whatever, and you'll likely get to just bring a bottle of wine over to their place, chat a bit and fuck. This can help you save money.

20-30 year olds just want to talk about themselves just ask them questions that are fun to answer and let them go off. "Why is your roommate a bitch?" or "If you could travel anywhere right now, where would it be?" Don't bore them with your CAP table structure or REITs, just hint that you may be hiding some cool shit from them.

Single mom's are terrible long term companions and decent short term companions clearly they make bad decisions with sex, so wrap it up...but they also think of themselves as damage goods. At the very least, these can be slump busters to practice shit. They also relate to your struggles. Also, don't get too excited if they look like they have great bodies, they don't. Tits will have that weird mash potato feel unless they have had implants.

Other divorced chicks are fucking gold they fucking get it. Don't fact find with a personal agenda to see if it was their fault or not, just let them vent. They'll be connected if they swipe right. It's yours to lose if you meet them.

It will take time to get your true level back be patient, suffer through some shitty dates, practice your story...fuck a 5 or 6 to get it out of your system...it's like going to the batting cages.

The hotter they are, the more unapologetic you should be Especially if she opens with anything that sounds self assured, roast her. Today, this 10 with 4 out of 5 pictures showing her tits said in reply to my bio saying wit and confidence is appreciate "wit AND confidence? you just hit the jackpot with me ;)"...I said "is that what you named 'em?" and let that shit sit for 8 hours. I thought either A) she's too dumb to get it or B) she was offended. No apology, no check in. She just wrote back "I'm this and that and I'm great and humble"...I replied, "clearly" couple other what's this weekend have in store type texts and I'm fucking her tomorrow night.

Use their language in your bio and keep it short Adventurous, dogs, brunch...whatever it is - put them on a challenge that's easy. "Looking for this, swipe left is not that..." make em feel like they connect and then they have to prove it. Also, keep your emotional baggage the fuck out of it.

This young generation uses emojis...you should not it should be common sense, but if they can't take a joke, fuck 'em. If you don't have that attitude, you won't get laid anyway. A yellow winky face isn't gonna bail you out.

Tell, don't ask little things like this: DON'T "hey I'm about to jump on a conference call, can I text you in a bit?" DO "jumping on a call, text in a bit** limit your punctuation and don't ask or apologize.

When she asks about your ex, say nice things it shows her that A) you're over it and B) you won't go ape shit on her if things don't work out. It demonstrates the highest value possible. Explain what you've learned. I refer to it as "on the job training" - it actually makes you a more suitable prospect even if you are 10 years older.

Don't worry so much about what shape you are in put on some extra pounds in a shitty marriage? No problem, just be unapologetic. If you aren't in great shape, dress like a fucking GQ model...get non prescription trendy glasses, whatever just fucking rock it. If they swiped right on you, it's your game to lose.

Meditation is key, if you don't know how, Propranalol is your friend a quick visit to a psych office with some "stage fright/pubic speaking" fears will get you a $3 script for an old school beta blocker. This helps slow your heart rate down and not give a shit. Also helps with sex. If you're nervous, stressed, or just getting old, Viagra is a wonder drug. It's super fucking expensive I found out, but there's a coupon online for 50% off of the $350 out of pocket expense. Also, you only need 25mg of the 100mg they give you, cut it up. And don't rely on that shit, get back in the gym, get a cock ring, whatever, but that's a more expensive habit than coke.

Condoms after years of no-condom sex feel like shit no matter what pay the premium and get Trojan bare skins...they're the only ones I've found that are ok. And use them, even when the chick is on the pill. I've rolled the dice a couple times and got lucky, but the anxiety afterwards is horrendous.

Over the counter sex supplements like Horny Goat Weed & Extendz are probably bullshit, but can give you a mental edge For you younger guys, fuck off if you don't want to hear this...marriage and the stress of a divorce can ruin a good dick.

Do your research look them up, find out what they do, how they dress, the types of people they hang around with. If she gives you her phone number, search on Facebook mobile app for it. See her LinkedIn profile through image search. (Don't click it or it may show her.) This helps you dress the part, ask the right questions, etc. Never lead on that you stalked her. Ask her last name like you don't know. Questions during the chat like "where do you work?" or "where did you go to college?" can help narrow this down.

Use pictures of you with animals seriously, it's the best conversation opener. Take a pic with a buddy's dog if you have to.

Always be escalating dating app to text to phone to face to face, to someone's living quarters to bedroom. Every question or story you say should be leading to this. If you just want a friend, call one. Touch her as soon as possible, my favorite is to touch her arm when you want to jump in and agree...hand on small of back as you escort her out..etc.

Beware of the friend zone your past married life may leave you succeptible to getting friend zoned. Let her know early on that you find her attractive like this: "you look like that actress that was married to Ben Stiller, and in the Brady Bunch movie...I had the biggest crush on her since..." Never tell her outright how pretty she is, she knows.

When she asks if you're ready for dating... say stuff to the effect of "time is relative, if it's with the right person..." and really hone in that you know what you want now. Again, putting the onus on them to impress.

Quit masturbating this can drain your sexual energy...keep it locked away, girls pick up on high sex energy. Also keeps your mind clear.

Never leave a date with a chick you like without either getting back to your/her place or setting up some action items a text band she'd wanted to know about, a trip to see the penguins at the zoo, whatever the fuck, you weren't there to meet her, you're there to fuck her.

Younger chicks dig older guys don't worry about being older. 20-26 is prime age for girls who start to know what they want. 30+ is a prime seller's market.

Don't recycle witty openers unless there's nothing new to go by I've found that forcing your mind to creatively come up with a phrase one off helps keep you fresh for any other chick you may meet.

Make them come to you if you get to texting, never to where they are. Obviously.

Uber them home an extra $6 to go out of the way to spend talking nets me a 95% chance of boning, but never plan on it...girls sense that. Get excited about something you're going to do at home...have some Copenhagen, watch a show, indulgently sext that 6 in Philly...whatever..create an exciting contingency plan in your mind so she wants to earn your attention. Girls pick up on so much higher frequency stuff that we know on the dating scene.

Remember the Briffault Principle if you're on the goal line, lie/cheat/steal whatever you fucking have to do to fuck her...she would and will do the same to you

If she looks high maintenance, dress down if she's an Instagram validation slut, don't show up in a sport coat, show up in a fleece or t-shirt. This shows they are an after thought, though they'll be dolled up and feel over dressed.

Be known, be excellent, be gone don't keep the date going any longer than it needs to. If you're about to order a third round and some more small plates, you're in no-man's land. Get the fuck to her place or bail. You probably missed your window and may have a better shot later on.

Move the party go from one place to another, never be there for more than 2 drinks.

Put your fucking phone away, also make sure she sees new Bumble/Tinder notifications When you finally pull out your phone to show her your dog or whatever, make sure you pull it out of your pocket and open the homescreen so she can see all noticiations.

If she's texting more than once or twice, bail She's either talking about how great you are (which doesn't mean much if she's out of the moment) or she's setting up another meet and greet. If she does text a few times, you should start and then act like you have work to do, but give it a 10 minute curtain call to give her a chance to reclaim you.

Your ex will look fantastic and far less crazy than 75% of these chicks this is good, it means you chose well and your last X# of years weren't a total waste. Don't get discouraged, there are a fucking ocean of chicks out there for the taking; all different kinds.

If you're dating a girl that hasn't been married, she's where your wife was when you got married fuck and GTFO. And be assured that chick has purchased the $29.95 instantcheckmate on your ass.

Best of luck to you, and enjoy realizing that you made the right decision, this life is an adventure, and you don't owe any women anything. Thank you all for your advice in helping me reconnect to this universe.