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What red flags have you ignored that came to bite you in the ass?

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April 13, 2020

For me, I ignored her texting her ex occasionally. She said he was having a tough time and she just wanted to be supportive. Two months later I caught her in a lie and she admitted to sleeping with him when I was out of town. We broke up and they started dating again...

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Title What red flags have you ignored that came to bite you in the ass?
Author h0ud
Upvotes 204
Comments 254
Date 13 April 2020 04:43 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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[–]Jacked5parrow169 points170 points  (27 children) | Copy

Addicted to Social media.

[–]kendo3152 points53 points  (20 children) | Copy

Which woman isn't?

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[–]WyldeCutter52 points53 points  (2 children) | Copy

They are awesome when you can find them

[–]babybopp4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol ... this dude never heard of finsta... fake Instagram. Used for billy betas and family members.

[–]WyldeCutter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you aren't retarded it's pretty easy to figure out how much time they spend on social media, a trick like that wouldn't be hard to spot.

In my experience, broads usually have a main account to keep up appearances and a private one to vent their bullshit and post underwear selfies.

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[–]PlusTenStrength59 points60 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Specialcz325 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're part of the problem

[–]DennisErectus4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, 100% she's ugly.

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

i lost brain cells reading your username

[–]Dripshiro2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

And? She probably had a account before that with 1000 followers. I have a friend (a girl) who had an insta with 900 followers before, deleted it and has an insta with 70 followers now. before the 900 one she had one with 1500.

I don‘t say she isn‘t an „unicorn“ but check it somehow if it‘s possible before you say that this is pretty neat

[–]Mementoyeye0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

it's a private account nowadays girls make them and post their memes and mugshots.

[–]Dripshiro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And? You know the answer already. That is their shitpost acc for friends only. They still have an main acc

[–]mugatucrazypills43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy

Social circle, notice one of my contacts from college is a MD + Ph.D now, turns out she has 70 facebook friends and a online profile that updates once a year or 2.

See what you can accomplish if you disconnect the phone.

[–]Greaterbird4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the decoy account

[–]Noodlesoupe210 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some aren’t but it’s rare

[–]Jacked5parrow6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

The one I’m with now

[–]ieatsoggytoast8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

My current ltr

[–]Ill_mumble_that4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Made my girl delete her facebook and all other profiles. Changed her phone number too. My policy was simple, no other men should be talking to her casually. She has stuck to it since. I'm her sole source of sexual attention.

We got kids now, still almost daily sex, pretty happy but always looking to improve hence why I'm here.

[–]unn4med6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, be careful with imposing too many boundaries. Really happy to hear things are going well for you

[–]Jaggarojo19 points20 points  (5 children) | Copy

"Social Status Whores" as we call them. Those who filter you out for not having a foreign, a Rolex, and some designer clothes.

Social media pales in comparison, but they tend to strongly overlap.

[–]Jacked5parrow7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

I’ve encounter them and have success with them without anything fancy. I usually wear plain fitted tees from H&M and a decent pair of jeans from express. Only watch I own is a Diver from Invicta that cost me about 60$. Spend all of that none sense is stupid and most people don’t even care or can tell the difference. Just wear shit that actually fits you and not too “loud”.

[–]unn4med2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Would love to see your experiences inside a post on the main forum!

[–]Jacked5parrow1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

When I have a good block of free time maybe.

[–]unn4med0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Tambamwham0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What’s worse is the grown man that’s actually posting that shit.

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[–]Noodlesoupe227 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Project_Zero_Betas39 points40 points  (5 children) | Copy

Mostly has guy friends and doesn’t like girls (barely any gfs)

This is a huge one, it means other girls have decided she's too much drama and don't want anything to do with her.

[–]mugatucrazypills22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Likely she fucks their boyfriends indiscriminately and only targets married. Lots of women could learn from TRP too.

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[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]DerpJungler7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Single moms in general.

I've been with three of them. All ended in a similar note and I think you all know how.

[–]abhi_076 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have been with three of them in spite of knowing TRP?

[–]Danolix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ugh it's like if I know who you are talking about.

[–]RedSkeller147 points148 points  (61 children) | Copy

I love fucking sluts with tattoos so let's talk about what I haven't seen. The worst is probably when they admit hard drug use or BPD, which are instant deal breakers, even though they're great in the sack.

On an LTR note, if you observe them and they don't appear to have any hobbies or are constantly searching for fulfillment externally, which is all of them, then they won't last long and expect you to be the dancing monkey.

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-72 points73 points  (6 children) | Copy

I’ve rarely found a woman of any quality to have many hobbies. Scrolling IG and binging Netflix shows are the extent of their interests.

Occasionally working out? But it almost seems like they do it because it’s expected of them, because fitness is trendy now.

[–]RedSkeller24 points25 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yeah it's pretty much a unicorn chase at this point, they all pretend to have interests - stuff they got from an ex or dad. As for the gym, you either get the girl who either trots on the treadmill and is skinny fat or the weightlifters who just do ass and arm exercises and skip everything else. There's little to no moderation, and many times you have to wonder if they'll keep doing it or if it's a trendy moment like you said.

[–]wtfdoiaskfor132 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

This reads bitter FYI.

That's what girls are in essence and that's what girls are for: trend followers that ultimately want somebody to protect them while they have babies.

Don't expect anything else from girls. Go find it in bros instead.

[–]gsp951115 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

"They all pretend to have interests - stuff they got from an ex or dad." Spot on!

[–]BKLager9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

You gotta chill. Everyone picks up their hobbies from other people, and everyone has different motivations for working out. The number of guys in the gym focusing on only aesthetic muscle groups is similar.

Besides, girls aren’t supposed to be guys. If you apply the standards that should apply to guys to every girl you see, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

[–]myfirsttimecoding8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Spot on. Shits universal

[–]throaway4000s1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. They wanna be seen in their activewear on Instagram

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[–][deleted] 34 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy

It was the only time i feared for my life in bed, but she could suck start a leaf blower.

[–]iwanttoracecars1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got my ass lmao, that's a fresh one for me 😂👌🏼

[–]RedSkeller8 points9 points  (26 children) | Copy

The usually go hand in hand, drug use fucks your brain and you're more prone to do drugs if you have mental issues.

[–]NoSpeakCanadiano7 points8 points  (25 children) | Copy

To an extent. I'm in a dilemma where I like to do drugs recreationally. I like doing LSD, Shrooms, Weed, and Drinking with friends on occasion. But I am always the guy pioneering harm prevention and using moderation.

Issue is I'd like a girl to be able to partake in those experiences with me. But every girl I've met who has done it is BPD or insane in some other way.

Luckily rn I'm in an LTR with a chick who doesn't even drink. She's supportive of me doing what I want because she's secure and not insane. If I want to drink with the boys, "have fun!". If I do LSD, she asks me all about it afterwards and the cool things I saw or thought.

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[–]femaledoglover61 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

How does wanting to do drugs with a girl considered codependent?

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[–]femaledoglover62 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

Because it’s fun. Having an unforgettable experience and connecting with her plus the insane sex. If you’re responsible about it why not. I’ve introduced it to a lot of people and they loved it too

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[–]femaledoglover61 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

Why does it matter, like how does it affect codependency?If she’s not into it then I’ll try to talk to her about it and if not it’s fine. But I’m into the drug scene at this point of my life so it’s a huge plus if she is but I’ve dated a few girls who weren’t and it was fine besides them not understanding that part of me (which seems to be common with people who aren’t at least open to the scene)

[–]RedSkeller5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

I should have specified I meant hard drugs like heroin will fuck your brain up. Psychedelics are not eating your brain up and causing long term trauma. I think it's awesome you found a girl who doesn't drink, those are usually the best kind for LTRs.

[–]wtfdoiaskfor15 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

To be pedantic as fuck, heroin won't "fuck your brain up". It heavily depends on the person. Addiction is not strictly related to substances.

Yes, you can get physical withdrawal, but only if you were idiot enough to do heroin enough times to actually get tolerance.

I've done all the drugs you know, and many others you haven't heard about when I was younger, and it was OK, because before any drug, I'd read everything about it.

That includes heroin too. I tried it a few times, didn't really like it, dropped it and moved on with my life. That was because I was aware of the possible consequences and the high wasn't even worth it - I'd much rather smoke weed, for example.

It's all down to not being an idiot and informing yourself, really. Something that apparently a lot of people don't do

Edit: to be crystal clear, don't do heroin, don't misinterpret my words. There's tons of reading for you to do if you want to do drugs, don't trust a trp comment lol

[–]skippwiggins6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

As far as drugs go, opiates are rather safe, as far damage to the brain and body. They aren’t neurotoxic, they aren’t liver toxic, they aren’t cardiotoxic, they are just addictive as fuck and have overdose potential greater than other respiratory depressants. I’ve been addicted to every drug under the sun. Literally. Stimulants(even prescriptions), dissociatives, and benzos were the hardest to recover from in terms of brain damage.

Opiates were my drug of choice, for ten years, but I could always detox and with 7 days feel like a brand new me. Long term stim and benzo use left me feeling so foggy and depressed for fucking months. Down regulated dopamine receptors among a myriad of other downstream effects.Opiates do seem to leave a lingering craving that other drugs don’t though.

I’ve been off drugs besides mild steroid use for 21 months. AA/12 steps, intensive 2x weekly therapy for years, gym addict, Just started HGH, etc. Eating organic and intense exercise will heal most people. Therapy for the trauma. I don’t even know why I post this but here it lies. Stay away from drugs, besides weed and psychedelics.

[–]RedSkeller4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Agree to disagree then. Professionally, I've come across enough heroin users to make my point - hard drugs will permanently fuck up your brain chemistry. Heroin will give you a dopamine high that is impossible to imitate naturally, your brain does not fully recover. Not to mention everything heroin is laced with, street drugs are getting worse and worse each year and we're not even aware of the outcomes from this. There are people who have serious neurological issues from using heroin much later in life. Things to consider when you could just smoke weed or get drunk - far less damaging.

[–]wtfdoiaskfor11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with your general point - people end up like trash when abusing heroin.

But it's not the heroin itself. The "dopamine" hit from heroin is actually not dopamine. Dopamine addicts (like me for example) would much rather do uppers like meth.

Not to mention everything heroin is laced with

But then your problem is with fentanyl and analogues.

I understand you understand all this, but people reading may be confused, so I wanted to clear that up.

[–]mugatucrazypills1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I don't care what you're doing or if your microdosing. But in what way is it worth rewiring the one brain you'll ever have on any regular basis ?

[–]NoSpeakCanadiano7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

In my free time I like to draw and play guitar. I have a garage band thing with my homies.

I find that taking psychadellics helps me see the world in a different perspective, and the visuals are really cool and I can translate that into some of my art.

I despise most people obsessed with drugs who abuse them. Even smoking weed daily is bad in my opinion. I think you should keep it to twice a week at the most, and doing it alone is kinda sad.

With psychadellics it's more of a perception high than an inebriation like alcohol or marijuana. Meaning I think many can enjoy it alone, in fact some prefer it.

Onto why I would rewire my brain.

I never even drank until I went on my grad trip at 18. That opened up my eyes on the power that substances can have. I went a bit crazy that summer with Marijuana and alcohol. But that taught me the discipline I have now to not abuse any drug.

Had a good friend die from Xanax overdose, which also reinforced me being safe around substances.

For me LSD really opened my eyes after my first trip (mushrooms I always thought "it's just a drug, whatever"). I started really internalising TRP, lifting, eating well. And it really made me come to terms with that the happiest I am, is when I rely on myself for happiness.

I'm glad it "rewired" my brain. I feel as if it unlocked more than it really rewired it. I'm still the same person, but I'm also glad I'm able to have that experience.

[–]mugatucrazypills1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Makes sense. I respect if from a "what else have you got to lose" perceptive if you're really at a dead end and need to get over some psychological hurdle. eg, MDMA for PTSD, etc.

I would just recommend being careful, a big issue with the 60s was that Jack Kerouac and Hunter S Thompson , romanticized alcohol substance ABUSE. That road is tied to a failed bluebill extreme counterculture ideology that leads to bad life outcomes/death.

[–]Greaterbird0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

And here I am stuck with oneitis for someone with both. The sex was really that good.

[–]HairlessButtcrack0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

What is BPD?

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[–]Greaterbird0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

True for me. Gradually been finding my way here and finally landed.

[–]mugatucrazypills5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

They always have a hobby of the day. It's from one fixation to another. Like the terrible Mr Toad.

[–]RedSkeller2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pretty sure most women have a combination of mental illness, you described a 'manic' behavior

[–]throwawaypain3454 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy

can you talk more about the dancing monkey thing? I think it's spot on in my ex marriage...

[–]RedSkeller32 points33 points  (9 children) | Copy

Sure, women expect you to entertain them. I've had numerous LTRs, plates and it all comes down to - they're bored because they're boring and you're the excitement. Once you lose the 'exciting' factor it's over. I've yet to meet a woman who was attractive and was content with not going out every weekend for some sort of event. Maybe I'm boring but I see my guys friends for a beer every few months, hang out with my dad every other week and briefly chat on the phone with friends/family. I'm not craving nights out at the bar, I'd rather get sleep for a better work out/work day and save money.

[–]throwawaypain345-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

all women expect you to entertain them? and i dont want to be the dancing monkey. what to do?

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't be a clown

[–]savageinthebox3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

When we through around BPD on this sub, are we talking about Borderline Personality Disorder or Bi-Polar Depression?

[–]Adorable_FecalSpray6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder, BD is Bipolar Disorder.

Also "throw around, not "through". :)

[–]savageinthebox2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks and thanks. Leaving it wrong.

[–]RedRiver0415114 points115 points  (32 children) | Copy

Fucked up family, talked about doing LSD the first date, drank 4 strong rum and cokes within 2 hours on the first date, talked about making herself throw up....

[–]i-am-the-prize89 points90 points  (21 children) | Copy

fucking RUN from chicks with eating disorders or self mutilation issues. do NOT try to save, just excuse yourself, ghost and if any mutual acquaintances ask: "we just didn't click" and leave it at that.

but do NOT engage or escalate. fuck that.

[–]babybopp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You forgot body dysmorphia. Don’t ever date a girl with body issues problems.

[–]THE_EVIL_EYE_IS_REAL3 points4 points  (19 children) | Copy

What's the main reasons why eating disorders and shit are a big no no

[–]wtfdoiaskfor116 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy

Bitches get eating disorders because they think they're too (thin OR fat) and obsessively try shitty tactics (not eating, puking, taking antihistamines to get thicc-er, etc) in order to better their image for some of that sweet sweet attention.

Like sure, it's a girl and she wants attention, but instead of doing proper calorie counting and exercise, she looks for the easy, shitty way.

She'll look for the easy, shitty way to get some sex when you're on a weekend trip too, instead of patiently waiting for you.

And generally, people who take the easiest route in life are not to be trusted, and not reliable. FWB at most, if you can handle it.

[–]THE_EVIL_EYE_IS_REAL0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is the reply I was looking for. Real eye opener.

[–]Red_Raze0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I wish I heard this years earlier. I can vouch for what he said hahaha.

[–]wtfdoiaskfor11 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wish I heard it years earlier too. I'm not a 160 IQ genius who's able to see right through people (like Carl Jung). Rather, I'm a fool who got red pilled through experience. Nobody red pills you better than a crazy bitch.

As Pook said in lesson #1:

Foresight teaches gently; error teaches brutally

[–]Red_Raze1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know that quote all too well. When it comes to these types of women, nothing should come as a surprise.

[–]Ed4all1517 points18 points  (9 children) | Copy

If someone eats, and forces themselves to throw up, there is a problem there...

[–]mugatucrazypills16 points17 points  (8 children) | Copy

Antidepressants ... so basically 75% college educated women under 25. You might see behavior that seems acceptable dating her, but more likely than not it was accomplished by SSRIing the BPD into hiding until she's hooked into you.

[–]RivenHalf22 points23 points  (3 children) | Copy

If you ever want to ruin your life, accept a woman with BPD into it. You'll kill yourself within a month.

[–]PhaedrusHunt4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

My former, apparently masochistic self did 11 years 🙄

[–]kingofclubsmorde-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's not that bad, but I have sociopathic tendencies so maybe that's the reason.

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[–]unn4med0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Is it on this account? Couldn’t couldn’t find it

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This so much

[–]alphabachelor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That behavior indicates underlying mental illness.

A lot of guys think they're smarter than a trained medical professional and try to save her. And she ends up taking both of them down.

[–]i-am-the-prize2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

the sidebar explains and keen men observe that all women hamster. And the level of hamstering can be anywhere between "mild AWALT" to "full-on-la-la-land". So, "there is no unicorn" is to me another way of saying: "you can't find a woman that won't hamster at all" so simply don't promote the worst offenders, and spend time with those that do hamster at standard AWALT levels, which you can predict with RP and be prepared for.

The female's ability to rationalize away sins/faults/transgressions and justify the worst behavior imaginable, in my experience is directly proportional to a woman's self loathing (bad daddy relationship. low self esteem, insecurities, regrets, etc).

And since there is no greater red flag to me, of a person's self-loathing than self-harm, or eating disorders; they should be a hard-stop when seen.

PS: and i'm not talking about hamstering like "she cheated on me and called it not cheating" I'm talking about a chick attempting suicide for attention and getting you involved; or poking holes in condoms; or false rape allegations. RealDealLevel nightmare shit.

(a second tier set of behaviors are: a slut who gives away her body for attention; or a drunk/drug addict - some dopamine release can be 'blamed' for the 2nd tier activities at least; but they too will stem from self loathing.)

[–]party_dragon1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

all mental illnesses are a big no no, it's just that people often find excuses for eating disorders or don't take them that seriously (especially bulimia, which has no obvious short-term effect on the body)

[–]mugatucrazypills0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How dare you poor little rich girl doesn't want to eat ! -Carlin

[–]chadtrx18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

Bro this resonates. I’ve experienced all of these.

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[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would advise you see if you can do it with a professional first.

[–]GrooveDive26 points27 points  (5 children) | Copy

I assume she took psychedelics just to get messed up or for fun, so yeah, from her def a red flag, but I hope you don't discount their beneficial abilities in the right setting. They let you see your own life objectively from a vantage point. The red pill is all about self awareness. If the "red pill" were not a metaphor, it would literally be LSD; we see things as they are, not how our upbringing has taught us.

[–]tdx_juice11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Facts. Same with psilocybin and DMT. That shit opened my eyes right the fuck open

[–]Dzihadist0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Opened your eyes in what way?

[–]tdx_juice0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good question. It definitely helped me understand what we call “the red pill” from an evolutionary standpoint. But mainly opened my eyes to life/spirituality. I’m not religious but it has taught me positive things like self love and purpose. It has shown me flaws in society that we normally do not see (corporate greed, etc.) has shown me flaws in myself that I have buried and that need to be corrected. And most of all showed me that there is much more to this life/existence that we do not understand. That there is something much more greater about this experience here on earth.

It’s an intense and life-altering experience and it is not for the faint of heart. It is fantastic for self-healing and growth.

[–]JohnnyOmm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or shrooms and dmt too

[–]JohnnyOmm4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's wrong with lsd

[–]Cyclone353537 points38 points  (3 children) | Copy

When I met my exes father he called me by some other dudes name, then proceeded with “she brings a lot of guys around and I can’t remember all the names” LOL.

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[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Holy fucking shit.....

[–]whoanooby33 points34 points  (1 child) | Copy

Going raw bull ring, no dad = chlamydia. Got off ez if u ask me

[–]divine_pizza36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

-Texting an ex

-mentioned her being institutionalized

-any hints of any personality disorder

-obsession of social media

I've dealt with a few crazies.

[–]EqualFaithlessness28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

Bisexual girls. Everytime.

Excessive piercings/tattoos

[–]TheKumate0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Story on the bi chicks?

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They play with my OLTR and I now

Send them my way please and thanks

[–]FineCopy269 points70 points  (6 children) | Copy

  1. Her mom cheated on her dad. Her parents used to constantly fight
  2. Mentally weak. Whining all the time.
  3. No hobbies, ambition. Too lazy
  4. Mostly guy friends.
  5. Her friends were kind off crazy. I always hated them.

[–]Zapche44 points45 points  (4 children) | Copy

The mostly guy friends is the worst

[–]TiredOfBeingMediocre9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

yeah. my ex had mostly guy friends and it bothered the fuck out of me.

[–]Zapche28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

It should cause they all want to fuck her lol

[–]TiredOfBeingMediocre18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

yeah, no shit. she always wondered why she had so many guy friends, and i told her its because they want to get in her pants. dumb bitch.

[–]Zapche9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s a fucking cunt mate. She knew she wanted thee attention your a better man for it now

[–]operationveritas9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just described my ex in 5 exact points. Well done sir.

[–]gsp951121 points22 points  (5 children) | Copy

Issues with her father, wanting to get her own place as quickly as possible, neediness, reactivating Tinder about 3 months into the relationship, hiding Instagram stories from me, Curiouscat, tweeting obscenities, interest in "witchcraft" (also "practice")... it's a huge list, I feel ashamed.

[–]SemiLoquacious0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Did you catch her on tinder by being there yourself?

[–]gsp95115 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yes. I had this feeling in my guts telling me she was there, so I reactivated my account and after a few swipes: BAM, there she is.

According to her she had reactivated it that very day after I refused to go out with her because I had work to do. She then went out with her friends and they convinced her to reactivate her Tinder account to get more followers (it actually works and that's how I figured something was off too when she started getting all those random followers). She told me that was the reason she did it, but I refused that excuse and told her I believed she did it for attention and validation and that it was unacceptable for her to do that, etc, etc. (bear in mind this was her first LTR, she was 18 at the time, I was 23; I did set very clear boundaries very early in the relationship though). She then admitted she actually did it for that: for validation and attention since I wasn't providing enough of that to her. I really felt like breaking up with her that very day, that was actually my intention. I drove to her house and talked to her about it face to face, but we ended up resolving matters right there with a thourough talk and relationship discussion. The next day we text early in the day, almost break up through text, but I don't do it and simply accept her apologies once again and tell her to never do this sort of shit ever again, yada, yada.

I don't regret it, though. It was good for learning (to keep on in the relationship after that). I'm never forgiving a bitch ever again if she steps out of my boundaries, disrespects me or shows no consideration for me.

[–]unn4med0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

How’d it end?

[–]gsp95111 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

So this Tinder situation happened in november, 2018. We stayed together until october, 2019, when I eventually called it quits for good, breaking up with her through text. But before that I broke up with her in july, 2019 after so much fucking drama (one of the main reasons was that she left my birthday party, making my mother drive her home, because she felt ignored and that I wasn't giving enough attention to her, that I was getting drunk with my friends and spending more time with then, etc; upon arriving home she sent me some texts calling me a lot of stuff and basically threatening to break up with me. I go on with that, but then she steps back and we don't break up. A few days later it was her birthday party. We go out to a club and end up discussing again. She tells me something like how there were so many guys that were in love with her before we got in a relationship, that she didn't give a chance to them because of me, etc. I felt really angry when she said that, but I held my frame and kept cool. We make out, celebrate and then go our separate ways. The next few days I end up breaking up with her through text because I just couldn't feel anything else for her apart from indiferrence and distaste). We stay broken up for 2 weeks when I eventually go back to her asking if we could have a face to face talk (I did this for two reasons: 1) I was weak and felt sort of a codependency with her, realized I still had feelings for her, etc; 2) I wanted to see if I could have her back after all, more of a power test or whatever.

We stay back together for almost 3 months when one day she invites herself to come to my house for a movie, I make some joke and she doesn't take it well (it was nothing offensive, she took it as a sign of desinterest or whatever, but it was nothing like that) and so she cancels the date. She then ghosts me the whole next day and goes out with her friends. The day after that I found out she started following some random dudes on Instagram (some of which I had "known" before) and decided it to end it right there. I've had enough. She was always dragging me down, creating unnecessary drama and showing untrustworthy behaviors, so I broke up with her for good.

Edit: typo.

[–]unn4med1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good riddance, man

[–]throwawayu432183 points84 points  (11 children) | Copy

I had my last ex over at my place. Stepped out of the room for 2-3 minutes, and when I came back she was on my bed, posing and sending some "pretty" selfie. I understood immediately that couldn't been meant for one of her girlfriends.

At first I was thinking about ignoring it. It would have been the best in hindsight, but my blood was boiling. She cried alot when I confronted her.

Before that I thought I had found a unicorn. Yeah right. So many green flags but I guess she was craving other males attention too much. And that was why I had to dump her ass in the end. I never felt the need to check her phone.

But we had a situation were we had to do a LDR for only a couple of months. Yeah, that lasted long.. I came to visit her like a month after she left. After some days I noticed she was texting some dude way too much. His name was popping up way too much on her phone. And I could tell she was really interested in answering even if I was in the same room.

So one morning she woke up a little before me. Guess who she was texting with when I woke up? Yep. I told her it was over and I was leaving. She told me it was just a very good friend of hers. Yeah right, so good friends after a month.

It was sweet to just completely ignoring her when she returned after some months. Because she was really trying to get my attention again. I of course offered no closure at all.

This became a novel because I had planned to write something about it for a long time. I got this girl because of the red pill. And I dumped her in 5 minutes because of the knowledge I've gained from here. Pay attention to what they are doing, not what they say.

I thought maybe a LDR could be possible because it was only for a couple of months and I was relaxed because of the green flags.

The fucked up part in hindsight is that I sent her a good night message a week before I came to visit. And I thought she was in bed by then. She sent a picture, I could tell it was from a bar. And she wrote that she was out drinking with friends. It was just a picture with drinks on a table. And not a photo with the "people" she was with. So I suspected maybe she was out with a dude. I got the whole reptilian gut-feeling of that something was wrong. I could barely sleep that night. And didn't ask her about it.

The fucked up part is, yes, I should have trusted my gut feeling. But I thought maybe (hope) that it wasn't any fishy going on. But thanks to the red pill, I knew what I had to do that morning some days into my visit. She swore that nothing had happend, but I knew that this was major disrespect and I didn't like it at all. And that I knew we couldn't have a relationship in the future, because she treated me as number two. It was a huge ego-boost to notice how hard she tried to get me to talk to her again after she returned. But whatever.

Lesson learned guys. Allways trust your gut and watch what they do, not what they say.

[–]TheGreatGatzb80 points81 points  (2 children) | Copy

6 million years of Evolution and that gut feeling stuck around

It’s important to say the least, brotha

[–]throwawayu432112 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly man. It was so fucked up, because I knew what it was telling me. But I understood that it was possible that this relationship was done, without me being physical present. I thought maybe I was just too paranoid because of the red pill knowledge but nope. Something was really off.

[–]unn4med0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m glad you properly vetted the situation instead of shutting it down right away at the first possible red flag

[–]throwawayu432119 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, I forgot. How do you deal with the question: "Can't I have male friends?".

I knew about the whole orbiter-thing when she sent that "pretty" selfie. And I knew that she were only fucking me at the time. Deny her male friends seemed like the wrong boundry at the time, coming from weakness. That was early in the relationship, so I said yeah you can have them.

I guess I made the mistake of not setting the boundry about no alone time with male "friends". Because I really believed she was a "good" girl and thought she knew better. But right before I dumped her, I understood immediately that the amount of texting was way too much for simply entertaining a orbiter. So yeah, thank you for reading my story about my christian "good girl" unicorn. I was devestated but I think about it as a lesson learned. I've never dumped a girl before her.

[–]electricspresident17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't deal with that question.

The correct answer is to say "you're a free woman"

(Hint it's a double meaning cryptic)

(On the face it says yea you can be friends with whoever you want) , But the subtext is your not my gf anymore, you're free to be taken by another man, cause with that stupid question you just downgraded yourself to a plate)

[–]unn4med0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just want to chime in that I’ve had several female friends over the years (and still do, kept 1-2 good ones to this day). It’s been awesome. I realize that this will only work if you have no sexual attraction for each other. My SMV is okay, will be interesting to see how my female relationships develop as I start hitting the gym.

Anyways, as long as you know what you’re in for, female friends are great to have. They have connections and know people, and know cool places to go to. Don’t miss out on them - everything in moderation, not “no female friends” like most people on here think

[–]Fuk_Boonyalls15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pictures sent without people or faces is a red flag. They're pretending to be transparent, while omitting the most critical of details.

[–]gsp95114 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit, this was exactly my problem: to not trust my guts, even though they were tearing me apart inside. One day I just couldn't take it anymore and broke up with her, as if I was waiting for her to slip at any moment to end it for once and for all.

[–]quijote300043 points44 points  (14 children) | Copy

Too close to her mother. I mean, I understand it's important. But in her case, it was mental.

[–]weicheheck33 points34 points  (4 children) | Copy

this is a good one I knew a girl that had an extremely tight relationship with her mother and I thought it was a good thing at first I kind of envied her.

I took her to a friends house one night for board games and she got hammered, was being extremely loud and obnoxious, purposefully spilled an entire glass of water that was given to her because she was offended (she held it in her hand in the air at the center of the table as to bring it to our attention, then with a cold empty expression on her face, she slowly poured it all out onto the wooden table), and she shat her pants by the end of the night.

Turned out she's bipolar, with BPD and OCD tendencies, and is on meds and shouldnt be drinking in the first place. Absolutely crazy bitch that I had to see almost every day until corona hit because we had classes together.

[–]major_hyman16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeh but did you smash?

[–]weicheheck26 points27 points  (2 children) | Copy

She threw herself on me when i was taking her home and i was disgusted

[–]major_hyman20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good man. Never put you’re dick in crazy. Be the best fuck but it will end in tears every single time. Not worth it.

[–]benchpr3ss10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

She shat her + She threw herself on you = disgusting

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[–]mugatucrazypills22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

Have a single mom means trained to become one. (88%)

[–]abhi_074 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have to agree, seen it in real life. My cousin and her mom

[–]FAKH893 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Holly shit yes!! It's like you're dating the daughter and the mother it was exhausting, and it basically leave you broken and angry by the end of it

[–]quijote30001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Broken and angry

How true

[–]AuberyBitoni0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Been there.. they were both psycho.

[–]Krebota0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit I felt this... and her parents hated me at the same time. After a year we broke up and now she's suddenly friends with benefits with the guy she wanted to have sex with anyway. Took her a whole relationship to get over her parents (she was 21), let alone that she was adopted and just got to know her real parents.

[–]bettywhiteishot16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Back in my more “natural chad, blue pill mindset” days, I dated a girl with several. Long distance, went clubbing all the time, slutty friends, super into social media and garnering as many likes and followers as possible, and worst of all, flashed her tits to me on snap one time leaving the club. Told me it was just around her girlfriends, come to find out her orbiter friend mentions how he saw her tits while I was on FaceTime with her. Aka a slut liar. Still dated

[–]myfirsttimecoding7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Long distance ahhahahahahahha

[–]pyth0ns[🍰] 29 points30 points  (4 children) | Copy

Told me that she dealt drugs on the side... She was a stripper, my dick was >>> control over my brain! So I justified that as it was her profession, it was a normal side hustle.

Cleaning my apartment, toilet isn't flushing properly.
Open the top lid, to find a massive bag full to the brim of pills inside.

She would occasionally (in her words), store/hide her drugs at my apartment and would take them with her to work, after we would fuck/etc.

I told her, GTFO and don't ever contact me again.

Few nights later, some jacked dude (now I am perceived as jacked, this was fucking Mountain from GOT big) banging on my door.
Idiot me, opens it without looking through the peeper hole.

Something was watching over me that night I believe, as he only half assed threatened me and didn't try to make problems or cause any damage when I slammed the door in his face, after I found out why he was there and on behalf of whom.

He just wanted the other bag of drugs, which the bitch had hidden in a compartment inside my kitchen drawer, that I didn't even know was a feature I had - LMAO!

[–]Payanasius6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck bro that is WILD. Hope you learned your lesson lmao.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

A jacked "though" nice guy. I guarantee she bullshited him about you and he's probably her orbiter.

Did you give him the drugs though?

[–]pyth0ns[🍰] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes of course, I wasn't having any drugs/etc in my apartment.

Honestly thinking back - He had done this way more than once.

His attitude was like dude... I don't want to be here, but obviously I need my thousands of $$ worth of narcotics back!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I get it, I wouldn't fucj with narcotics either. But poor dude lol

[–]FAKH8912 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Her mom didn't like I don't want him in my house lvl of bitterness....

[–]Purplegetraenk4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

100% girls with bitter single moms

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[–]babybopp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude if a girl mentions an ex even as a passing thought, dude is still in her mind. Don’t deal with that emotional baggage at all.

[–]Fury_9311 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Notifications turned off, phone always on silent, placing the phone screen down.

No hobbies or friends that are girls.

Promiscuous social mefia profiles, tumblr account.

Dress like whores to pick up weekly shopping.

Never had a proper job or only worked for a few months but they always relate back to it.

Falling too quickly and trying to embody everything you like in a girl, can't take any criticism perceived or not, smokes weed everyday or they can't hide the bitch in them.

They get uncomfortable being in public for long periods of time usually because their schizophrenia kicks in and everyone is" judging them badly".

Fringe, piercings and tattoos dumb ass fake nails, family issues, life owes me mentality, cats... or dogs sometimes

Gaslighting, projecting, silent treatment, verbal abuse, plays the victim all the times, bpd like rollercoaster, likes controlling you but heavens forbid you tighten the leash back, self harm.

Constantly depressed, plays being uncomfortable in situations to get their own way, steals, lies, latches onto anything you do or say to use against you during an argument, plays dumb, has dyslexia

4 or more siblings, divorced parents, substance abuse in there house while growing up, none of the family are on speaking terms, ran away at a young age, moved houses/schools a lot growing up, sexually abused, high N count, always talk about how an ex did this or that to them.

The quickest way to weed them out are to sit and listen to their total bullshit lies, they will all tell you they are crazy either directly or indirectly, it's upto you to piece it together.

[–]kinraw22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Talking about how her exes used to obsess over her. Perfect attention seeking whore! XD

[–]RivenHalf9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

I was completely cucked when I was younger. Allowed her to ignore text, stay out all night with her friends without calling, turning her phone away when I was around, has more guy friends then girl friends, chronic weed smoker and she was always high, would let things slip that made me suspicious but I would ignore it, constantly rearranging plans, the whole nine yard.

Yeah it's embarrassing looking back at it all but I learned my lesson and I know people go their whole lives never changing course so I find refuge in the fact that I did and I'm not even 30 yet. A lot of life left to live hopefully...less cucked life.

[–]unn4med1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a blessing.

[–]alphabachelor8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Some of these have burned me. Some of these have burned friends.

Broken family, excessive tattoos, hard drug use, addictive personality (smokes a lot of weed/drinks a lot/social media), extremely insecure, mental illness (BDP, narcissist, etc), works in sex industry (these are fine for short term), social circle is filled with riff raff, acts masculine and does not see eye to eye with you on dealbreakers (for example, she's a spendthrift and you are frugal - you cannot change her).

Edit: Forgot another red flag. When she's incredibly dumb - had a FWB that dropped out because she found Bachelors in Psychology was too hard. We've moved on but from time to time I check her FB. Her life is going as well as someone who dropped out for that reason would end up. Horribly.

[–]LazerSpin0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

acts masculine

What do you mean by that? Any examples?

[–]alphabachelor2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Swears a lot, drinks excessively, very aggressive (think lawyer cunt), not fond of things like long hair, makeup, wearing dresses, etc.

To be fair, not being fond of just makeup isn't a red flag. I find too many women wear so much that its borderline deceptive, I prefer minimal amounts.

It's when she rejects makeup and many other feminine things that it's a big red flag.

[–]LazerSpin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gotcha, thanks.

[–]andrew_little119 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

She couldn’t sleep without taking benzos

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[–]Zero-Milk18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was beginning to think I was the only one. Socially acceptable or not, being proud of drug use is a huge turn-off. Some other dude can have that.

[–]eatdiz1357 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

-Always quick to say “sorry” but never backed it up with any action

-Quickly became attached to people only after just having met them

-Fucked up extended family

[–]fannyfire8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

She literally told me that this guy she fucked had a huge cock. And then he came over and talked to us while she continued to talk about how big his dick was. While she was drunk as fuck. And claimed she was super Christian. I don’t even need to share how that bit me in the ass. I was dense enough to stay with this girl for much longer than she deserved.

[–]Ben_068 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

Biggest red flag : she was behaving differently than what she was saying. Huge red flag. I learnt a painful lesson.

[–]Payanasius1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah can you elaborate. Might corroborate my recent experience.

[–]Ben_061 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Basically, gaslighting me. Telling me what I want to hear, but her behavior was completely different - she was saying family values were important to her bla bla bla, but she was acting like a hoe in my back. Biggest lesson here is trust your gut, don't listen to what she says but only believe what she does

[–]Payanasius1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah when girls sort of echo the male fantasy "I'm not like the other girls" sort of shit it's not a good sign. Been there too

[–]depressedthrowaway3y0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Which was?

[–]Alcatraz-126 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

What you said + self harm + she said that she likes male friends more than female friends + a loot of other stuff that I'm too lazy to think about

[–]Gordon-G6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Just ppl I work with”

Always, always, trust you gut (your spidey sense).. every single time I would ignore the red flags it would come back to bite me in the ass!

[–]Lalocal4life4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Attractive women who exhibited selfish behavior before a second date or brought up her personal financial problems before a 3rd.

[–]cglehosit5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Smelled like beer all the time, only did certain sex positions, raped as a kid

[–]babybopp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Certain positions, dude power play

[–]Snowboard185 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Mental problems, even if it’s a small one like a common anxiety disorder, just avoid because there are other girls out there with no mental problems.

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[–]TheProfitMotive4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Low self-esteem and/or body dismorphia


[–]chadtrx33 points34 points  (28 children) | Copy

Red flags only apply if you’re looking to become serious with a women. I don’t give a shit how many red flags a plate has as long as I’m fucking her, she looks good & she doesn’t have an std.

[–]BoyFromMiami28 points29 points  (26 children) | Copy

not RP my friend. crazy chicks bring drama. pretty BP of you to be willing to stick your pecker in crazy. sharing from experience!!

[–]chadtrx15 points16 points  (14 children) | Copy

I disagree. We have different perspectives.

[–]longjeep200531 points32 points  (4 children) | Copy

I think you can get away with plating crazy bitches if you have an absolute iron will, and truly DGAF. I personally don’t want to deal with the drama, but kudos to you don’t let the antics get to you

[–]chadtrx8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Exactly. It’s a preference. All women have red flags. Unless you believe in unicorns.

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[–]mugatucrazypills2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Crazy Bitches is like an extreme sport. It's exciting. You could die. And really if you're doing it after 40 ... well whatever

Coming on here to complaining more than 1x is like bitching that you took up boxing but keep getting hit in the head.

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[–]Hydroponically4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly, wait until you have one just showing up at your front door. Crazy isn’t worth it.

[–]chadtrx3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

At that point I don’t think they are considered “red flags”. It’s quite obvious you shouldn’t associate with someone who does those things. Hilarious.

[–]BoyFromMiami4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

  1. I appreciate your comment, so hard to find people on reddit who don’t complete wig out when you give a suggestion or share an opinion. “FUK U LAME BLUPILLR” seems to be a common response, and you responded like an adult.

  2. I’m just sharing my own experience and what I wish I listening to from rollo t. Back when I first found red pill. I didn’t listen, had major red flags, and now I have a woman who created a fake social media page slandering my name which employer have found and questioned me about. It hasn’t ruined my life or anything but it an uncomfortable conversation to have about why there is an online page saying that I am a piece of shit who fucks women and has no respect for them. I blame no us but my self here by the way, I stuck my dick in crazy because I was honey and stupid.

[–]kingofclubsmorde0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I hope you sued her.

[–]TheProfitMotive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude he's right. Any relationship with a females eventually you are going to have to manage her pysche at some point and the more red flags she has the more of a headache it will be.

Yes, I fuck girls with red flag, but I am eternally screening girls to try and find the ones with the least red flags so my core rotation is the girls who require the least work to maintain

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. Admittedly you could vet plates or potentially plates less strictly, but it’s important to know that you’re not sticking your dick in crazy. You need to always make sure you’re not going to be killed or be falsely accused of something

[–]Mr-Ed2090 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Getting laid isn't blue pill

[–]BoyFromMiami0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great observation!

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

I love crazy. You have to have a good grip on the reigns, it's a skill. Crazy fucks and sucks in ways normie girls just can't.

I would never recommend it to another guy, but if you know what's up and your frame is made of steel, the rollercoaster ride is enjoyable

[–]Metron-0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Best advice if one really wants this rollercoaster ride?

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Can you pull normal pussy or no

[–]Metron-0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Yeh but if I get a hint of above average crazy that’s when I think about/start jumping ship

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Ok, good.

There's really no reason to engage crazy unless you can completely diagnose it and make appropriate moves. Just stay your course

[–]Metron-0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

“Really no reason”

“Crazy fucks and sucks in ways normie girls just can't.”

Ok, so what moves should you make if you can completely diagnose it?

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

"Unless" and "appropriate" are the keywords there bucko

I do not understand your fascination with crazy, the only logical path I can take is that you're not getting fucked the way you want and think crazy is the only route to reaching some new sexual zenith.

If that isn't the case just PM me and we can talk for 10mins on skype and get to the bottom of this

[–]Metron-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

“fascination with crazy”

“the only logical path I can take is that you're not getting fucked the way you want and think crazy is the only route to reaching some new sexual zenith.”

Projecting much?

You are the one saying you “love crazy” and pedastalling it to normal pussy.

I haven’t done nor suggested either.

You made a claim and I would like to verify it myself.

[–]pyth0ns[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read my story my man - haha
There are levels of crazy (red flags) that you should nope/avoid, even if they're a plate...

Fuck, even a 1 night stand!

[–]FAKH897 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh yeah almost forgot, if her best friend absolutely despise you , yeahhh just save yourself from alot of drama and leave

[–]Gmantec2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You and I had the same shit ,we lucky

[–]BurntYams3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Having a guy best friend that they won’t stop texting. smh

[–]-Siptah4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She tried breaking up with me many times and I’d convince her to stay every single time . When we finally broke up, I let her convince me I should stick around and remain friends with the hope of one day getting back together. That was a lie of course.

[–]iron_ee2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Abandoned by her Father as a child. Constant need for validation and attention.

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[–]Payanasius1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of my blue pill friends will say proudly... "man.. look how hot my girl is!" And then beam at me while they show me some whorish post she made on insta. Most of them learned their lesson with time. I even had to tell my close friend that the girl he was dating wasnt a travelling insta model, she was a prostitute. Mind blowing.

[–]mrsmiley8312 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Her being on bad terms and doesn't talk to her parents.

  2. Her saying "I love you" way too soon.

  3. Her being emotionally unstable, throwing tantrums, and suicidal (later discovered she had BPD).

  4. Her being a single mom.

  5. Her having a ton of tattoos.

[–]coldestmichigan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her still using dating apps after we gone exclusive.

Yup she wasnt exclusive.

[–]GooeyLoveJuice9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Having a vagina

[–]RedPill_Dragon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I ignored her friends, totally tolerated them. In the end, it was the downfall of the marriage.

[–]El_Serpiente_Roja1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

One of my exes was was out of this world but she was crazy kno how it goes

[–]thatman181 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

very close friend with their ex

[–]Pimpcool4201 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My first LTR had gay friends, smoked weed, and changed her hair color several times. But she was surrounded with a friend group of Christian good-girls so I convinced myself it was fine.

In the first year she was hanging out with the church friends less; yet she remained close with her best friend (who'd started dating a bisexual stoner and became a radical feminist).

By the 2nd year she was failing out of university, smoking weed before every shift at her McDonalds job, and eventually fucking another dude.

I'm glad that I got that lesson so early in life (broke up when I was 19 and instantly found better women).

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I ignored her having 500k male friends. They were real friends, but I hated it.

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

  • trickle truth - little lies become big lies
  • understanding their lack of wanting to please you less over time isn't normal, it means you got soft/lazy and let them treat you that way

[–]caoboi0251 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

  • Does what she likes and gives no fuck about others
  • No hobbies, no ambition
  • Boring
  • Crying-for-attention whore
  • Still bitter about her exes
  • Talk about her exes all the time
  • Tattoos, piercing.
  • Lame, materialistic, and attention whore friends
  • Travel for likes on instagram
  • Flirted with other guys all the time
  • showed me no respect

Honestly I don’t know how did i put up with all of those shits. But hell they bite me like a mofherfucker.

I guess when you like a girl too much your mind gets clouded easily.

[–]hedden931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My ex of 3 years ended up cheating on me with her co-worker and then tried to ruin my life.

I should have known 3 months in. We went to a New Year's party and she encouraged her friend to cheat on her boyfriend and then flirted with a guy in front of me to make me jealous. Everything inside me told me to break up with her but I was dumb enough to stay with her until she gaslighted and cheated on me. Really dumb of me but lesson learned

[–]CocoaPill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking solo travelling. 90% of the time it means exotic dick. Ignored because of feelz and came back to bite me.

[–]Allin_Vain1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

in the last months so much i've stopped counting but the biggest one was probably that she talked less and less to me and i didn't realized that an honest conversation would've been very much needed. It's just important to learn from em' it helps to ignore the bite in the ass.

[–]red_philosopher1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


Never been bitten in the ass by any girl with red flags. Yet.

[–]ibhova0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Recently went through a heartbreak

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, cucked

[–]Batman-von-Pepe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Absent father and living with hippie mom. Yikes.

[–]Look-At-My-pp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can’t get off of tiktok to watch a movie

[–]LeonidasGER0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Red Flags i ignored like a dumbass:

First girl:

-Eating disorder

-Trauma because her father cheated on the mother and left them and also was abusive ofc

-Slutty garbage friends (but at least she is was the exception right?)

-talking about being depressed, having no self esteem

-Developed a problem with alcohol/no self-control and so the club became her second home

Second girl:

-Constantly mentioned her Ex

-Still had contact with her ex

-Still texting with her Ex ("yeah he is on of my best friends and one of the persons who just knows me the best")

-Some more stupid shit about her Ex (who almost made a comeback two months prior)

-Giving a guy her number while she was clubbing with her slutty friends ♪♪

-"You got a problem with that? Yeah thats just me when im drunk" (Please dont ask me why i didnt run at this point)

- Disqualifying herself saying i deserve better and should seek someone better than her and to dont waste anymore time on her while sounding quite apologetic... :)

Note: Listen to your gut aka lizard brain because i didnt. Second girl at least had some decency to somehow tell me she cheated on me i guess.

[–]alexaxl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The virtuous, chartible, savior syndrome from our “good side” tends to throw our heart card instead of our awareness card at such wrong times.

[–]mrrooftops0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Being all green flags. Too many green flags is a red flag.

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[–]major_hyman1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

How did that go down? Nothing worse then a jealous slut

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[–]major_hyman4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh I can imagine. Had a chick turn up at my house screaming through the letter box that I’d fucked her the night before. Luckily my LTR was there the night before so I was able to say she was crazy and get away with it.

[–]AuberyBitoni0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ignored the daddy issues two times, never again...

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