A few months ago, I was having drinks with another rather infamous Manosphere blogger, and we both revealed the rather startling confession that we had both stopped reading Manosphere game material and instead were only focused on Red Pill theory... and, more startling, our success rate with women increased dramatically.

Not that Red Pill game is incorrect- it's all usually spot on, and a tremendous source for newly reformed blue pillers and guys who want to level up... but we had both noticed the same thing: the more and more we read Red Pill game material, and you know the stuff can be addicting, the more we hesitated and questioned our actions with women. We micro-analyzed every moment, even if just by a second or two... we ended up stuck in our own heads and less in the moment.

Worse, I had abandoned what worked for me for so long... Yes, I did nuke the bad habits where I'd lose frame and then wonder what the hell had gone wrong- which can be entirely attributed to misunderstanding the very simple idea that the game never ends; even after you "really like her" and are dating, or throwing around "I love you" like an awful teenager, or when you're waist deep into a long term relationship, or when you're married... the game never fucking ends.

But, you had gotten laid before you knew that, right?

You had girlfriends; you had relationships that you subsequently fucked up. However did you get there without all the red pills?

You mindlessly developed and calibrated natural game!

First a bit on sexual strategy and natural game from my blog post "The Cool Girl and the White Knight: Sexual Strategy and Identity":

Sexual strategy is like that scene at the end of Wargames where Joshua the computer tries to launch nuclear weapons and start World War 3; the computer cycles-through launch codes quickly while keeping the bits of code that are a positive match. Most people unconsciously allow their brain to do this work, matching behaviors with their positive outcomes, and bookmarking those behaviors while discarding the ineffective.

This is natural game, and it's so subconscious that you just did it- it's what came naturally.

And, no, it wasn't always perfect... but you had authenticity on your side; you seemed genuine and sincere- you were congruent, because, in a way, you were just being yourself, and this is something women have an intrinsic radar detector for; women can sense the moments where you yield, or pause, or hesitate- microscopic breaks in frame, and even if she can't verbalize it, it's something that kills her attraction.

Studying game is great in that you learn what works and what doesn't work- and maybe you pick up specific tips, or lines that are field-tested, or even entire routines to try- but the problem is that too much of that will cause the kind of micro-breaks in congruence that a woman can auto-detect.

My advice for studying Red Pill game is to use it as additional tools in your natural arsenal, and not as an entire replacement. Take pauses and breaks in your study of Red Pill game, stay in the field meeting women and trying different things, and maybe reflect on those situations every few weeks.

Remember, the most powerful law of power is to convince your opponent that you aren't playing a power game at all- authenticity is your greatest strength... so get out of your head but don't forget what you know.

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