I found a girl with an EXTREME scarcity mindset. Is this a good or bad thing?

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She’s very traditional in her values.

Like she’s 22 and she will do ANYTHING for me, partly, because she’s afraid she’ll never meet someone else as good as me.

Is this a good or bad thing?

Edit: Didn’t expect the comments. Here’s some feedback to clear up the situation. I’m mostly asking for perspectives, not advice.

1) at first I didn’t even know that the fuck a unicorn was... I had to look it up. No I don’t think she’s that and I don’t think she’s perfect. its a stretch for you to assume I did.

2) Weve been fucking for almost a year, no real intentions on LTR or marriage (some guy mentioned me pushing for marriage?). That’s a dumbass assumption and I don’t know why you guys think I’m trying to LTR her.

3) Yes she is BPD confirmed. For those of you who are scared shitless of BPD women, I’ve maximized my benefits from out relationship. You guys just need to know how to control BPD women and don’t be so fucking emotionally manipulated

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Title I found a girl with an EXTREME scarcity mindset. Is this a good or bad thing?
Author PhysicistPro17
Upvotes 111
Comments 111
Date 23 April 2020 05:55 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/655264
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/g6haxj/i_found_a_girl_with_an_extreme_scarcity_mindset/
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[–][deleted]  (4 children) | Copy

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[–]Flamergoh25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes

[–]mugatucrazypills17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

even the actions can be suppressed until she has her social, legal and psychological hooks in him ... her past is prologue if you can find the signs she hasn't covered up completely really the only thing if he STILL chooses to play this game anyways is have a bag packed and demonstrated willingness/ability to leave when behavior flips to rabbit boiling mode .

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

This 👌🏻

[–]nitrobyname1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s good advise for a lot of things.

[–]Flamergoh173 points174 points  (19 children) | Copy

Its a good thing or bad thing depending on what you're looking for tbh, ie. Plating or LTR

she’s afraid she’ll never meet someone else as good as me.

This you gotta be careful about, don't take her words too literally, as women can say one thing, and say something totally different the next day.

[–]HornedBul69 points70 points  (11 children) | Copy

in addition to this, OP you need to use the "right now" rule

also, this may be a case of lovebombing

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (7 children) | Copy

Can you clarify on 'lovebombing'?

[–]volvostupidshit32 points33 points  (4 children) | Copy

Someone puts you on a pedestal because that someone sees you as his/her soulmate which does not work long term and will bite back at you.

[–]Greaterbird3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

See: Codependency, BPD, Splitting, NPD, Bipolar

[–]Ill_mumble_that0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Aka: dont stick your dick in craZy (unless it's an anonymous ONS and she doesnt know who you are or where you live)

[–]helppc4938380 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just because you love bomb someone or you are.being love bombed doesnt imply a mental disorder

[–]Wildercard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

See: Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother.

[–]i-am-the-prize14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

intense over the top attention, incredibly fast arrival at "he's the one", flattery and ego stroking blinds you to it and you believe your own press.

it can be a sign of a bipolar person in a manic swing, or someone with compulsive traits and/or low self esteem.

don't stick your dick (too deep) into crazy....

[–]IntelligenceLtd2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

"right now" rule

cant seem to find this in the sidebar or searches, could you plase clarify the "right now" rule.

[–]FiST1704 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She loves you... right now.

You're her soulmate... right now.

She feels she'll never find anyone better... right now.

Basically women are ruled by their emotions & how they feel RIGHT NOW and that can change at any time

[–]HornedBul0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66z16dTy1ZE

this short video helps getting some clarity on it

[–]tru3boy8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

‘Temporary truths’

[–]hedden93102 points103 points  (5 children) | Copy

Just know her emotions and opinions of you can change at anytime. She might feel this way for a different guy every 2 weeks. Not trying to kill your vibe. It definitely a good thing, but just be careful

[–]riggedved45 points46 points  (3 children) | Copy

This.

Its the same thing as a girl might message one guy "Goodnight" and another guy "I cant sleep" at the same time.

[–]antariusz29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy

Or "i love you" with another guy's dick in her mouth.

[–]TheGillos16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Ow wob woo!"

[–]bobthesnob710 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Even though this hasn't happened to me( that i know of, of course) so i assume it has and it hits in a way i can't explain it.

[–]Wheysteve0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hmm sounds like...LIGHT SWITCH effect

[–][deleted] 35 points36 points  (2 children) | Copy

Generally it's a good thing but you gotta watch out is it a: "I'm so insecure that I'm afraid you will leave me" or is it a "I did something wrong and now I'm afraid you'll find out and leave me.

[–]Noodlesoupe20 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How is being a clingy desperate girl a green flag. No sane woman acts like this.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Clingy can be a good thing if you don't mind. I like my girls to be a little bit clingy and jealous. However combine that with low self-esteem, insecurity and she will start flirting other guys the moment she thinks your relationship is going a little bad.

[–]Patopatoduck23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

In my experience girls with scarcity fuck any guy that is willing to fuck them even if they got a bf or are dating someone and tend to be a little problematic Buut thats just my experience, and in your case could be it a good thing, like one comment said watch her actions more than her words in the end you will see if is a good thing or bad

[–]I_Dont_Type22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good thing, but AWALT.

Can be a red flag, but it is generally a green flag.

[–]drevenx1318 points19 points  (5 children) | Copy

Careful my dude you're developing a oneitis for her.

She may be like this right now, doesn't mean she'll be like this in a year.

[–]mugatucrazypills7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

BPDs are like crack durring the lovebombing stage. People get addicted and it ruins their lives. Who doesn't want to have devoted cult followers (especially ones that are up for crazy monkey sex at first) ? At some point they'll start doing sudden takeaways on you. But you're hooked on the positive affirmation and rush of being told you're a love-god awesome in the recent past. Ok you say, put up with this one thing and she'll turn back on the lovebombing. Like a dealer, the first samples are free. Then the junk gets cut down and the prices go up, until you've sold off all your dignity to try and get back to that first hit of self-affirmation. BPD will throw you out once you're used up psychologically and financially and move on. The BPDs are stochastic(apparently random) in how they do it, which makes it more habit forming.

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

o yeaaaaa gimme a hit of that bpd maaaan

[–]EnvironmentalMind09 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she's a virgin she might be genuine. If not she's probably just realizing she's only getting older.

[–]markis6559 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Women can't have scarcity mindset unless they're living under a rock or they are never around other men during their day. Internet provides so much attention and men are always gonna be trying to fuck, so they automatically have abundance

[–]Hungboy69694204 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

A woman who's got scarcity/is desperate is 10x worse than a guy who is the same. Women shouldn't be that desperate for you. I mean if your SMV is way above hers , sure. But that means you're aiming too low

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

or deformed

[–]mugatucrazypills4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

More likely She's a BPD which is 30-50% of the female dating pop than a unicorn.

Lovebombing is the first stage. Ever gone from "You can do no wrong." to "You are the worst person who ever lived" . Get ready for it.

This is a case where you should look at a gift horse in the mouth. Except that will be fake too.

[–]SteveSan8218 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sounds like bullshit. Women are programmed to know they can get more. That’s why once you start hitting on a 4-5 she turns into the biggest slut because you made her realize someone wants to fuck her so others will want to as well.

She’s is playing you for a sucker

[–]Sonny_Luna4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

This place is obviously broken. A reply gets twenty upvotes for assuming the worst case scenario based on only positive signs.

Steve is obviously a loser with women who can’t fathom how any other man could have a positive experience with a woman just because he hasn’t. You’re projecting, Steve.

You’re a loser.

[–]SteveSan820 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok Tradcon

[–]Vofz14 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy

Of course it's good wtf are you smoking

But she must be low SMV if she's scarcity? I mean even some landwhales have orbiters and big egos

Or maybe you're better than all her other options

Either way all hoes are hypergamous so don't get too comfortable and stay on game always

[–]bottomLobster6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

True, I would say what he describes can only last if she is not on social media.

[–]KillaJewels3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

But she must be low SMV if she's scarcity?

Not always. I have known high SMV girls to feel scarce. Remember, there are endless supplies of thirsty dudes out there, and very few of them can be cool. If all she wants is a cool guy, she may not fw the thirsties. And she'll do anything for that cool guy.

[–]IntelligenceLtd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think youre generalising too much some people have really warped sense of self esteem not at all related to objective reality, having said that without know ing more specifics its impossible to say in this case.

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[–]OldSchoolRonin2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Send her my way if you think it’s a bad thing. I’ll vet her.

[–][deleted]  (3 children) | Copy

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[–]OldSchoolRonin1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

What’s that? Australian here so that’s unfamiliar to me.

[–]Greaterbird1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

American phone number format

[–]OldSchoolRonin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s what I presumed. However it would be fake? Surely op would do the number & social media details.

[–]BornShook2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If it's too good to be true it's probably not true. Good for you though man, I'm not trying to put you down or anything but just remember that she's still a women. Try not to idealize her in your head into your perfect companion. She isn't perfect, nobody is.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn your very lucky. I’d say give her the cold treatment sometimes

[–]JaydXThomas4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Depends. You're the best she thinks you can get, but what do you see her as? Is she a 10?

I want women who value themselves as much as I value myself. I don't want a low value woman. I want women who will call me out for my bullshit and who believes that she can get anybody she wants. If she's that easy to please, fucking her will get boring. I'm sick of easy - it was fun for a while.

I also know, from experience, that is will make me respect her less, and I'll lose attraction. If I lose attraction, I will not be happy with her and I'll remove her from my rotation.

[–]IntelligenceLtd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yeah but misplaced arrogance can be annoying as fuck as well.

[–]cfbovernfl7 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy

It means your SMV is way higher than hers. It's bad for you because you're settling with someone who is likely pretty unattractive. Do better.

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[–]mugatucrazypills2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'd take an 8, because all relationships are work and I want to be rewarded for my time. And 9-10's are too much work. source: married a 9+, holy fuck please stop talking.

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

holy fuck please stop talking.

? Who are you talking to?

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If I had to choose I'd probably take the latter, though ideally I'd find a 9 who has positive personality traits. I frankly wouldn't be proud to be seen in public with any girl less than an 8.

[–]Zero-Milk1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Inevitably, there will come a day when you'll experience true narcissism in a relationship and come to regret that choice.

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Eh, we're all narcissistic in our own ways. As long as she's tolerable, smart and attractive, I don't really care. I'm also in my early 20s so relationships don't mean too much to me rn, could definitely change when I'm older.

[–]Zero-Milk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm talking about actual narcissism. Personality disorders. Read up on it because it's important to know the dangers and their warning signs.

[–]catsdontsmile2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Isn't this the kind of girl that years down the road realizes there's better and wants a taste of that new d?

[–]mr_Tobbor1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How do you feel man? You ask others about your feelings? I you feel perfect with the girl isn't it ridiculous to ask others about that?

[–]babybopp3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP it is your turn now, enjoy it to the max

[–]Pluglord1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Why would it be a bad thing?

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[–]JaydXThomas-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

She sees herself as low value. That's what scarcity is. It may seem counterintuitive, but I don't want a woman who perceives herself as low value. I don't work so hard to make myself high value just to get with the easy pickings. I will fuck her regardless, though,but she will not be a rotation girl.

[–]TheBlockedUser1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. Women like this are never meant to be LTR material.

[–]Dimenzije901 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I assume you just met each other. If she is still like this after few years of dating then we might talk about a unicorn.

[–]KillaJewels1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can be a great thing esp if she doesn't have a whole lot of experience. But you gotta test her actions over a period of time.

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You may have found yourself a unicorn. Or she's BPD and setting you up. No way to know without more information.

[–]Whitefarmer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get her pregnant

[–]MrAnderzon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She will do anything for you “right now”

[–]mugatucrazypills0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's a BPD. Do a Pablo Picasso on her before she does YOU in.

[–]battmaker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pursue truth.

[–]Meloxian0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s good up until she starts slashing your tires and stalking you, watch out bruh, if you ever need to get out then do the beta routine to turn her off, that may be the only thing that works

[–]Phontomz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

These girls are traps. I fell into one. They will win your love over and over again with their innocence. But never EVER forget. AWALT.

[–]cadaemos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I recommend to just plate this girl and to not do any LTR stuff. If she only wants you because of scarcity, then she will betray you when in abundance, which is no problem if you don't expect anything from her (except for some fun&sex).

Make sure you are the abundant one and make sure that you are not taking her because of scarcity (or mutual scarcity).

[–]Infernir0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pay attention to actions... I know a lot of guys like this with girls like this... and they truly think/believe this becasue the girl is so attached. BUT SHE STILL DOES A LOT OF QUESTIONABLE THINGS WITH GUY FRIENDS BEHIND THEIR BACKS.

And might also cheat on you when she's drunk or has enough other plausible deniability.

Also, for the love of .... never stay with a chick like this for too long, this is the biggest mistake young men make 18 - 22. They stay too long and waste so much time instead of getting experience and living life, growing as an individual & keeping sex life separate from their lives.

[–]JaevonTheDon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Watch what they do. Not what they say.

[–]Flesh_Pillow50 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hmmm always use a condom. And never bring her to your place.

[–]Greaterbird0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Insecurity is a liability for any kind of committed relationship.

Do you really want her to be with you out of desperation? You shouldn't. That's shakier ground to stand on than the San Andreas Fault. That kind of person wants validation so bad they don't care who they get it from. Expect "it was only a kiss," "ok, it was more than a kiss," "I don't know, it just happened," "well it's your fault anyways."

Insecure women will jump at every opportunity, because who knows when their next chance is coming? Women in abundance don't feel the need unless someone objectively better comes along, because what's the rush?

Even if they don't latch onto any rando that flirts with them as greener grass, you're still looking a girl that gets upset over stupid shit like you working late, accusing you of cheating over finding one of her own hairs (yes I've actually had this happen), a complete lack of personal responsibility, etc. Expect disrespect and devaluing because she never actually thought you were that good anyways, you're just what she settled for because she didn't feel like she had another option.

If you ever break up? Expect her to also do just about anything to protect her fragile ego.

The alternative is someone who is with you because in her eyes no one else measures up. Desperation should stink as badly to you as it does to pretty women.

[–]paint-the-world-red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

First you have to understand that a woman’s emotions are a fickle thing and she could wake up tomorrow and see you in a totally different light. With that being said, this could be an absolute coincidence win depending on what you’re looking for. Just tread lightly with her and pay attention to her actions.

[–]cactushatter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like my experience with a BPD for 2 years

[–]john_L270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Game her forever and she's yours.

[–]JayDMoos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Beware of the songs of sirens.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is this a good or bad thing?

It's a good thing, but don't get too attached to it or the tables will slowly turn against you.

[–]Snowboard180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Its a good thing. Just don't get comfortable and always remember its just your turn.

[–]omega050 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Yawn have you fucked her yet?

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[–]omega050 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Are you asking or telling me?

[–]Noodlesoupe20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Y’all are stupid for saying this is a “green flag” when this is classic lovebombing. And even if she’s not a BPD psycho a clingy girl is going to be super annoying and will fuck the first guy she sees the second your attentions not 100% on her.

[–]CYKAblyaddd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Look up BPD. She sounds like she fits the picture.

[–]FuccboiChad0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s a liar. Even if that’s the case currently, it could change tomorrow when Chad starts talking her up at the gym

[–]when_its_too_late-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been there done that. 1-2 years in an LTR with her and she will realize there is better.

[–]cafeitalia-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

She will not do anything for you. Ask her to rob a bank and see is she will do it. Why are you over exaggerating what she will do. She is enjoying her life and that is it. Tomorrow someone else comes and makes her pussy tingle more she will do a lot more for him than you.

Do not think she is the unicorn.

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[–]cafeitalia-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

She was horny so she drove to fuck you. If you are 4 hours apart she may be fucking someone else other times and you don't know. $1000 is not much of a money. There are guys that drop $1000 a night to fuck couple of girls at a strip club.

She is not a unicorn.

[–]ChemicalGiraffe-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Time will tell

[–]Yashugan00-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

subscribing here for the surprise twist follow up in 3 months.

The clingy ones get a bit crazy.. had one cut my photos and throw my clothes out the window. (of my own apartment!)

[–]TheProfitMotive-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol OP you are still blue pill. Women do not have a scarcity mindset.

Every girl know she can hop on IG and within 1 minute of posting a pic have her inbox flooded with guys.

AWALT. Regardless of how insecure she is, she will not hesitate to branch swing if the opportunity presents itself. You have been warned.

[–]H_Crush-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Live your life, fuck her, and don't have her occupy your mind. Why would you want to take her serious? If you choose her after some time and leave your plates, she better make your life better with cooking, cleaning etc. You should never lose frame and consider her serious or your equal. This question already leads to oneitis.



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