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Wife wants a career? Ruining things

by makes_u_laugh | April 23, 2020 | askMRP

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My wife has been a stay at home mum for a while now and looks after the kids.

I work long hours in a sales role and now she wants to start selling on beauty products on Facebook.

I didn’t mind initially. I thought it would be awesome for her to have her own gig. However, now when we speak we’re constantly interrupted by querying customers or if we’re enjoying time together before bed, again phone pings away like fuck.

It happens constantly due to the number of queries.

Again, I wouldn’t mind, especially if she was making margins on this product. But it’s a shitty pyramid scheme so for selling 200 units she has made -$20. It would take selling 2000 to pull in a part timer wage.

I told her that the selling is ruining family time and our time and that I wanted her to stop for a week to see if it makes a difference to our home life.

She said she’ll stop but doesn’t want to lose her business. She doesn’t like relying on me for all her money.

I told her I would tell her when she needs a job, as we’re fine financially. If she wants to do a sales gig for fun during the day, shoot for the stars. Just don’t let it eat up our time.

Her team lead knows I support her financially, so she can afford to operate at a deficit for a little while- so she calls/texts a my wife to rope her back in.

Initially my wife said she was doing this whole thing as a piss take.

Now it’s annoying and becoming a problem as she’s glued to the phone like a 12 year old.

Am I being fair in saying she needs to take a break? Am I unjustified in thinking this whole thing is stupid and causing unnecessary issues?


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Title Wife wants a career? Ruining things
Author makes_u_laugh
Upvotes 14
Comments 48
Date 23 April 2020 04:45 AM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/655291
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/g6gh97/wife_wants_a_career_ruining_things/
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[–]slappysq45 points46 points  (14 children) | Copy

Lead, you dumb fucker.

“Wife, this is a pyramid scheme designed to take advantage of stupid people. Stop this nonsense at once. We have more than enough money and the kids need their mom. “

[–]makes_u_laugh4 points5 points  (13 children) | Copy

Done.

[–]An_Actual_Politician2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Head on over to the antimlm sub here on reddit. It's one of the few other subs even worth visiting. Plug in whatever #momtrepeneur bullshit she's getting into and you'll find pages and pages of reasons to not get involved.

Of course this is an AWALT we're talking about here so there won't be any reasoning with her. Maybe offer to help her build her own real online business since she's so bored?

These pyramid schemes prey on the beta males that allow their bored wives to drain their hard earned money even more than they do the dumb women who are spending their husbands money in the first place.

[–]RStonePT2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He doesn't need a reason to dislike it, he needs the balls to act on his boundaries

[–]stoicstephen0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy

How did it go

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red7 points8 points  (9 children) | Copy

In one ear, out the other.

[–]TheBlockedUser1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

His edit is even more interesting:

A single man who married a bitch with 2 kids.... 2 FUCKING KIDS. The word cuck seems insignificant to describe this man...

[–]RStonePT5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

Who cares? they aren't my kids and he's not my husband.

why is it so important for you to find someone to dismiss as beneath you?

[–]architectintx4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thats what I keep asking myself reading through some the responses. Folks, if you dont add value to the discussion, its better to keep your opinions to yourself and move on. The minute some poor guy asks for help you have 1000 retards who jump in to throw in there opinions.

Add value to the discussion or just keep quiet and soak in any information that useful to you.

[–]RStonePT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't get me wrong, OP is a useless value leech and I'm assuming WNS or I will be showing him the door soon.

The guys problem isn't that he married a single mom, it's that he asked everyone for permission to fuck his life up and was lashing out that he didn't get the anger he wanted. Other than catharsis I just don't see the need to rub his nose in it.

[–]uk-anon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well said

[–]TheBlockedUser1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Aren't your kids? This OP an alt of yours?

I'm have not dismissed him as beneath me, he is, I have exposed his nonsensical mindset of marrying a woman with 2 kids and then turning her into a SAHM..

That is the definition of beta provider. What is wrong with pointing that out?

[–]RStonePT0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, you're playing a weird power play for position using in group signalling.

His mindset is obvious to anyone with functioning brain cells.

[–]TheBlockedUser0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What power play? I was just pointing out his verbal diarrhoea in his edit. That was it. Are you on your period sir?

Yes it is. Sadly, you don't fall into that category. Now go cry to your wife for attention.

[–]RStonePT[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Heh

[–]simbarlionRed Beret17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

I can't be fucked doing anything except giving you the benefit of the doubt....(so lets pretend she is not planning to jump ship and is just bored)

  1. she is bored
  2. it's pretty normal for a SAHM to have some sort of side gig, even if it is volunteer

She doesn't care about it being pyramid / losing money because it is keeping her entertained, away from kids cartoons and washing. She might even think it is going to lead somewhere.

So you have two challenges to win.

  1. acceptable phone / family time rules. E.g. phone of silent from 6pm, only allowed to play with it on the toilet etc. (aka boundaries)
  2. Get her back on board the ship, get her realigned with your mission and direction. (aka leading)

Telling a FO what to do when you are a shitty captain is probably your worst strategy.

[–]makes_u_laugh3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cheers mate, sound advice. Thank you

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nix the job. Get her to volunteer. My wife tried something similar, it was retarded, she was bored.

Now she volunteers at an animal petting zoo

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret18 points19 points  (7 children) | Copy

Wait, you you married this chick you met overseas 7 months ago post and now you’re surprised she’s in the country looking for independence?

You’re surprised she’s ignoring you and on social media after you gave her a free ride into the country?

This is the dumbest post I’ve seen in a while, and there’s been some doozies lately

When this question was asked:

This the same woman you were "falling hard for" 7 months ago? What is wrong with you?

You answered:

Yes. No regrets.

[–]makes_u_laugh2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Regrets are subjective.

Answer the question if you have something to share. Otherwise your motivations and my motivations can’t be truly understood unless we know each other’s situation/circumstance.

Sure, there are ideal choices especially on paper.

But let’s be fucking honest, if every choice you ever made was perfect you wouldn’t be in this forum.

My question is legitimate. I came here for advice.

You’re looking down at the same guy you once were.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You’re missing the point. You are overlooking big red flags, which is what I’m trying to make you see

[–]RStonePT1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The guy has a history of ignoring red flags.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He’s more interested in DEERing on here than seeing the problem and taking action. It’s gonna be groundhog’s day

[–]RStonePT[M] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Answer the question if you have something to share. Otherwise your motivations and my motivations can’t be truly understood unless we know each other’s situation/circumstance.

He's not the one sitting here hat-in-hand after already being told before that you were making a bad decision (advice that you roundly ignored)

In fact, I'm of half a mind to boot your ass. What guarantee do any of us have you'll listen this time and not ignore any of what people put in here?

[–]Balls_Wellington_Main Event + Coronavirus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly most people here don't listen to the advice they get. I think a better criteria is "will his failure at least be a useful example to those who are willing to learn."

[–]TheBlockedUser2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"My question is legitimate. I came here for advice.

You’re looking down at the same guy you once were."

The difference is you insolent fuck that most users here actually listen to the advice, even if it includes berating, unlike you, who attacks anyone who makes a slight snide comment towards you.

[–]Cl_ARK5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, I married a single mother with 2 kids. If it makes you feel better, pretend they’re mine and feel free to chirp in with real advice.

I generally agree with you here, but the fact that you're so butthurt about this reveals a chasm of insecurity about something. Whether that be judgement from people who don't know you, or the uncomfortable questions that maybe you prefer to hand wave away.

If you can't take the drive-bys & frame tests that come with asking for advice on askMRP, how are you going to handle real tests that come along from real people and real events in your real life?

[–]SepeanRed Beret7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

So, what sort of leverage do you have here? Emotional leverage because you’re a high SMV alpha and play dread? Are you willing to leave her over this?

Just being angry without having any way to enforce a boundary is just being a butthurt whiner.

[–]Massive-Plate0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP needed advice, this is exactly the issue.

[–]RStonePT3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's bored. You can either direct her in a better direction or you can miss out on her livestream pearl parties.

just be glad the pool boy isn't on her extra curriculars

Also, whats with that whiney bitch of an EDIT? It's the internet, people act like pricks. If you can't hold it together for words on a screen, what chance do you have with Mrs. Mary Kay?

[–]KoolAidMan79809 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

So lets sum up what you did here:

You married a woman youve only known for a short time.

You married a single mom that brought two kids with her.

Youre supporting all these people.

You think its ok that your wife is a “sales” person in a MLM.

If im missing something please correct me. Otherwise im gonna go pop some popcorn and wait for the fireworks.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If im missing something please correct me. Otherwise im gonna go pop some popcorn and wait for the fireworks.

I’d say LOL, but that’s too cliche’. But I’ll say I did laugh out loud

[–]chief-w0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP said he doesn't approve of MLM if it affects her family life, and knows how much had been sunk sofar.

[–]blupride2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

This the same woman you were "falling hard for" 7 months ago? What is wrong with you?

[–]makes_u_laugh0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes. No regrets. Best way to lead?

I told her that she’ll sit out the week and after if she wants to go back to try sell, I’ll set some ground rules.

I don’t want to destroy her purpose because I think it can be simply managed with - phone is off when I’m home.

[–]WorkWorkZubZub2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's being led by her MLM cult masters, not you. Watch out; they can easily take your place in the hierarchy of her mind.

[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her purpose shouldn't be anything outside of your vision. If part of your vision is to have your FO work in a pyramid scheme, fine. If not, you need to nix this scenario as it's interfering with where you're taking the family. But, she has to fear losing you and have a high level of respect for this to work.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are a retard.

[–]helaughsinhidden1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

she wants to start selling on beauty products on Facebook.

FTFY: "She is bored and wants to spend $3000 on makeup and let her friends on facebook know about it and quit after six months because a friend of hers just did the same thing and doesn't want to be the only one scammed"

[–]Tyred_Biggums1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What things could she do that furthers YOUR vision? How can she be a good FO for you?

She is bored because either you have no vision or haven’t included her. Sounds like both.

And drop your ego which is clear by the DEERing on your relationship. If it works for you - you wouldn’t care what randos on the internet say. Clearly the comments are triggering something in you - you need to deal with this as well.

[–]redirectedfs1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Edit:

Yes, I married a single mother with 2 kids. If it makes you feel better, pretend they’re mine and feel free to chirp in with real advice.

If the cucks commenting were actually MRP you’d know that 90% of the time it’s not going to be the 9.5/10 virgin bombshell with slap ons and a pussy that’s never seen cum a day in its life that you’re going to get married too.

The quality of posts significantly drop when you come in here and project your fantasy marriage, stay in ask TRP and keep projecting that you’re a top 20% male making six figures while fucking a new girl via cold approach each night. Half you fuckers don’t even understand the time investment of cold approach or making money.

What you’ve done is read enough theory to shit a TRP encyclopaedia. Thank fuck I’ve read enough to know the difference.

Are the LARPers evolving? How long until MRP is taken over by these feel good faggots?

[–]Rifleshoot1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

As the captain, it's your duty to care for your crew, which includes your first mate. If your wife's job is negatively affecting the family, then you need to take charge and fix it. And that does not necessarily mean telling her to quit the job or stop trying to work at all. You could set boundaries on when she is allowed to respond to business related messages: "no business after 5:30." Or, you could help her find a different hobby that keeps her busy. It's a problem that has a myriad of potential solutions, it is on you to find the one that works best for your family. Think of both the family as a whole and your wife as an individual member of the family and find something that works well for both.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congratulations you played yourself.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Top 20%?

Fuck I am top 3%

[–]Redrover8570 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If she wants to do it whatever. I would have her make a set time of day she’s allowed to deal with it. Something like M-F from 12-3.

[–]Balls_Wellington_Main Event + Coronavirus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife doesn't have a career. Your wife is getting suckered into a pyramid scheme.

I'm all for my wife having a career. It fits our relationship and our personalities just fine. Some peoole prefer to have SAHMs.

But I would put my foot down hard if she started selling Mary Kay or Amway. Fuck that.

[–]uk-anon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take a step back and think about why she’s looking to make money.

She wants independence (probably from you).

If she wants to make money you should encourage her to get a proper job so when the shit hits the fan; you won’t be on the hook for supporting her 100%.

Facebook / Instagram is bullshit until your an influencer in your 20s and look like a model; even their business is drying up as the flock to onlyfans.

If she must do it; put in the work and help her build an Amazon business - a platform that actually sells vs likes retweets and ‘engagement’..

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If the cucks commenting were actually MRP you’d know that 90% of the time it’s not going to be the 9.5/10 virgin bombshell with slap ons and a pussy that’s never seen cum a day in its life that you’re going to get married too.

I mean I personally wouldn’t do anything other than treat a single mom of 2 as a cum dumpster given what I know now and what I’ve seen. Then again I won’t fuck a woman who’s over 25 anyways so there’s that.

That being said any woman will act right for the right man - it’s clear you aren’t the right man because if you were she would listen to you. The thing about boundaries is that you have to be willing to enforce them - if it’s a dealbreaker then tell her and walk if not then just keep whining like a little bitch here.

This probably has more to do with you being a giant faggot than the fact that she is a single mom but I would be remiss if I didn’t tell you those single moms go feral time and time again and are a giant pain in the ass eventually. The level you need to operate at isn’t worth the return on them - they are used goods and if you were at the level where you could handle one you would already know it’s not worth it.



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