When this lockdown ends I decided I want to get into either boxing or BJJ. I’ve been lifting for years and want to try something new. I’ve also realized that when situations get really stressful or highly emotional - especially with women, I sometimes revert back to my nice guy conditioning. I’m hoping that getting into martial arts will help me mentally and emotionally stay cool in conflict situations and help me not be a “nice guy” as much.

Which would you guys recommend? And for those of you that participate, what benefits have you seen?

Edit:

To expand on what I really want to resolve - being able to set boundaries and stand up for myself. I was run over by my parents as a kid and despite being able to incline bench 315, it still happens at times now with women or coworkers .A lot of times I don’t even realize it until after it happens. I’ve read Nmmng and of course it resonates but applying it in stressful situations with emotions involved is my challenge.