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RedPilling Gottman by BluePillProfessor... an under appreciated resource.

by RPAnon123 | May 07, 2020 | askMRP

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I want to publicly thank /u/BluePillProfessor for publishing the series on aligning Gottman's theory with Redpill theory on Youtube.

Gottman is a pretty smart man in that he seems to be the only conventionally trained marriage therapist that is capable of accurately identifying what is going wrong in a long term relationship.

However, whether due to a lack of insight or social pressure, his prescription for "fixing the relationship" is most often gynocentric and misses the mark of what the man needs to do by a wide margin.

Thankfully /u/BluePillProfessor has taken the time to give us the Redpill perspective on what Gottman should be telling men, in the form of a number of YouTube videos.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5PjVw_i9gY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Df7yVLNSm0A

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQWkBqr-s7w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NsVgye_5mrU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mWsn5CiS48

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1UOAFnSmBg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_Ik3oKANEg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=br_E_HtT6v8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9MQlW_tXE0U

Given the number of views they have, I think these videos are vastly under appreciated for what they are. They aren't a RedPill handbook by any means, but they are a good soft start into applying some simple RedPill concepts in the context of modern relationship analysis.

Good luck.


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Title RedPilling Gottman by BluePillProfessor... an under appreciated resource.
Author RPAnon123
Upvotes 21
Comments 15
Date 07 May 2020 09:45 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
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[–]RStonePT[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy

ASK... MRP

If you don't think it's good enough for the main sub don't post it. If it is, go post it there

[–]johnmic077 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Before I discovered red pill, my wife and I briefly saw a marriage counselor who was gottman trained and it was a giant waste of time. Ever since I started red pill about a year ago, my marriage has been much better.

While I admit I don't know much about Gottman and maybe there's something to add to red pill from that, that should only be explored after going through the MRP sidebar.

[–]amalgamator2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly, it’s supplemental at best.

[–]amalgamator6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

John Gottman creates “good enough marriages“ where you can sit around drink a cup of coffee and read the newspaper and not be fighting and bitching all the time, but he does not create passionate marriages where the woman actually chooses and desires her man.

His information is scientific and there’s truth in it but it’s just a tool in your armamentarium and it’s not the most useful tool. There is a reason his stuff isn’t on the sidebar. It’s just theory but he misses the polarity between the masculine and the feminine and he never talks about what causes real attraction for either sex. I’ve met him - he is blue-pilled beta and his wife isn’t thirsty for his dick. Him and his wife were squabbling like any other blue-pilled couple.

Now if we are talking about Bluepill Professor/Red Pill Coach videos worth watching. The videos on Dr. David Schnarch and “Passionate Marriage” are worth watching.

[–]johnmic076 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

His ideas don't fix the core problems, they just treat the symptoms.

his wife isn’t thirsty for his dick

I can't stop laughing after reading this!

[–]DrBeaufort0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

his wife isn’t thirsty for his dick.

It's like following diet and exercise advice from a morbidly obese fitness guru. If it doesn't even work for him how can I expect it to work for me?

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

There was a time when I was desperate enough to take advice from a badly dressed, fat, RP fanboi who spends his days bitching about women with teenage incels on r/wherehaveallthegoodmengone.

Those days are long gone.

[–]so_woke_da_wookie3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It was digestible and easy to consume in the early days. A genuine help, now, it's just like you said. A reminder that you can always stall and create an identity around being commentator. Like retirees.

Interesting, that it was a post around marriage counselling that burned through Bluepill Professor/Red Pill Coach's MRP equity like wildfire.

[–]weakandsensitive2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Feels like spam doesn't it?

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sure does

[–]so_woke_da_wookie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He has a great site on how to Red Pill your chakras though.

[–]DrBeaufort1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If your wife learns & applies Gottman she might stop shit testing and be nicer and more understanding... which is a disaster from the TWOTSM perspective. Passing those tests is the only way to show your strength, and build attraction. You're either strong enough to enjoy and grow from the challenge, or you're not. If you're not, she isn't going to be into you.

Where I can see it has value is in helping you realize when you're getting into fight or flight 'angry' mode and loosing your cool when she tests you. You need to know when this is happening so you can change the entire narrative about how you're a helpless victim of an angry crazy person.

[–]so_woke_da_wookie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What’s the question?

[–]maljo24-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Misses the mark" The therapist is wrong and you're right???

[–]z2a1-9-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Will check it out



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