Plate sucks a mean D, and generally buys shit for me and treats me well when I visit. But some things have come to light recently and I am wondering if I should drop her?

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May 9, 2020
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We are both 26 and met at a work function (different departments/different locations) and I got her number and 2 days later texted logistics only and fast forward until the present day I've fucked her and then slept at her place 8 times in the last 3 months. She is very submissive and cooks for me too. Always puts fresh bedding on when I get there and let's me do whatever I want to her sexually.

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship, got his named tattooed on her body, got dumped, had a miscarriage, and tried to kill herself with sleeping pills.

Has a dog that is her 'baby' and it sleeps in her bed with her and roams everywhere in her house and leaves hair all over. She also cooks the dogs evening dinner in the kitchen and serves it up nearby the dining table and it fucking reeks like, well, dog food.

She mentioned to me the most recent time I visited her that "You know sex without a condom feels so much better for me and for you, just pull out and finish on me, I don't mind" and I was like "Uh, yeah nah I'll pass" and changed the topic. (I always bring my own condoms and rinse it out afterwards before wrapping it in toilet paper and flushing it!)

She has a tendency to try and get personal information out of me too, which I find very fucking irritating. We both spoke about what we were after when we met for the second time and we both agreed that we just wanted casual fun since we have conflicting schedules and whatnot. But no sooner she will ask me "So what are we anyway?" or "So when are we going on a real date?" and all I think is wtf are you on about we already spoke about this..

She also sometimes texts me in a very childish and frankly off-putting way, I don't know why but this sort of shit just makes my dick softer than custard. Shit like randomly receiving a text saying "My clit is wet haha! I wouldn't mind some D later on if you want to stop by haha! insert 5 emojis". It's like she is mentally 15 or something. I just laugh and think wtf act your age Jesus Christ.

The last week specifically she has been bugging me to the point I am considering distancing myself from her. I went over to her place and fucked her, then made a coffee and sat down and started playing her guitar and she was all "So that's it huh, fly in and fly out?" and I reminded her that I said that's what I was planning to do anyway, and that she knew that already. She just said I was being awkward and asked me what was wrong and if I wanted to talk and even when I calmly and non-awkwardly said how I was perfectly happy and not awkward at all while slightly laughing, she just became more like a detective and was like "No really, what's gotten into you lately, you're being super weird" and it just fucking made me realize she is all over the place mentally, she can't let something 'be' she needs to know WHY and HOW or at least to appear that she cares, I don't fucking know man.

I've been cold on her for 2 days and she's sent me 3 texts asking if I am ok, and even tried calling me but I was technically at work so 'missed' it. I don't like childish women and she's carrying some baggage that I don't want to deal with. Do I just stay firm and not respond to her or be straight and say I am very busy lately and some other bs?

First plate in 3 years tbh, can't quite remember how to navigate this shit.


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Title Plate sucks a mean D, and generally buys shit for me and treats me well when I visit. But some things have come to light recently and I am wondering if I should drop her?
Author 1yuan
Upvotes 67
Comments 107
Date 09 May 2020 05:37 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]spartan_samurai146 points147 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are playing with fire here. One wrong move and you know the consequences.

Ghost if you want to save yourself with all this drama.

[–]bradotu77 points78 points  (3 children) | Copy

Dude fucking run dude fucking run dude fucking run dude fucking run

[–][deleted]  (1 child) | Copy

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[–]dpgproductions1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The fact that the entire post is about how everything she does annoys or irritates him should be evidence enough that it’s not worth his time or the risk. Never doubt your gut feeling about someone.

[–]superbad4life17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

Literally all that needs to be said: run

[–]trunksshortsman140 points141 points  (7 children) | Copy

That girl will have your kid.Then rape you in court.

[–]alphabachelor9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

That girl will have your kid.

Yup. 26 + Keeps asking about establishing LTR + Says you can go bareback = She has baby fever.

It's time to go and find a new one. You should have done this when you found out about her past history BTW.

[–]CasaDeFranco61 points62 points  (4 children) | Copy

He should tell her he loves her and she's his dream girl, that should finish it quickly.

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy

No, she could be head over heels for him right now and as she gets closer to the wall she could totally like this shit

[–]CasaDeFranco10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m joking brother.

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

bruther

[–]Standgrounding4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah and buy her flowers and chocolate

[–]ReasonablyGoodMexica-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then rape the kid

[–]SoA_MC77 points78 points  (2 children) | Copy

That first paragraph is like heaven and then it just goes straight to hell no inbetween

[–]thesoloronin50 points51 points  (1 child) | Copy

That’s just classical BPD emotions right there. She’s got giant red flags 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 waving around like it’s a fucking Chinese Communist Parade 🇨🇳 on National Day!

[–]saif_tidux19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao Chinese communist parade

[–][deleted] 93 points94 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ngl to you, she sounds like a psychopath

[–]EuroNiard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

More like sociopath but yeah run

[–]McLovinReturns41 points42 points  (3 children) | Copy

Just say "I have a lot of personal stuff I'm dealing with and you're not ready for anyone"

This way you end it in a way where she won't end up watching you sleeping with a knife in her hand.

Get out of there man

[–]notonthenews3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Personal stuff? Like ignoring lockdown?

[–]Procyon9141 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Family issues, career, health whatever just make something up

[–]aesky8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

my plant died

[–]DerpJungler23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's something about women getting pregnant at early ages and not settling down that makes them crazy.

Trust me, I've been with 3 single moms. Every man that is successful and high value is like gold for them. One night with them and they dream of a happy family with the fearless knight that has come to save them.

Don't commit too much dude. Her history already proves shes unstable. Next her softly or you will regret it later on.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear2229 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you have to wonder if you should drop a girl, DROP HER. Trust me, I learned this lesson the hard way and it wasn't pretty. Your gut is 99% right about shit like that.

[–]thesoloronin19 points20 points  (4 children) | Copy

B.P.D. Run my man. RUN!

I just read that chapter about it from the sidebar last night and boy is this post timely.

Read that part. YOU NEED IT!

My ex was BPD like the 2nd-7th paragraph you wrote. Trust me. You don’t wanna deal with this. What she is capable of will even make you puke all the sex out you wished you never locked eyes with her anyway.

She sounds like The Witch in the BPD chapter. I’ll say it again. READ IT!

Source: I almost put a bullet in my head from 1.

Edit: paragraph number

[–]Krebota0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You're not wrong, but seriously, LTR and plate are 2 completely different things

[–]thesoloronin1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Doesn’t matter. Point is, wouldn’t even get too close to a “friend” if they are certified BPD. Get that into your head mi hermano.

[–]Krebota0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A friend is closer than a plate

[–]violetmonstermunch35 points36 points  (8 children) | Copy

She wants to get pregnant from you. She already talked about not using a condom with you. In my experience, when a girl talks to you about that kind of thing, she has already tried to get pregnant by piercing condoms, getting the sperm out of the bin or something else...

Plus the fact she calls her dog her baby, it just shows her biological clock tells her "wtf bitch why don't you have a baby yet?!?"

She is also trying to turn this casual thing in a relationship, as one can clearly see with "So that's it huh, fly in and fly out?".

If you don't want a kid with her then GTFO A FUCKING SAP. Be very careful on how you break up with her because you work at the same company.

[–]thalobby0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Do all women around this age make bad plates bc they wanna get married and have kids?

[–]violetmonstermunch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yes

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[–]Versace-Bandit0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

NBA players haha

[–]wanker71718 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

(I always bring my own condoms and rinse it out afterwards before wrapping it in toilet paper and flushing it!)

Jesus dude. My biggest fear is a girl keeping the condom and impregnating herself with it when I leave, but this is straight up overkill. I normally wrap it in toilet paper and take it with me (in my pocket), but rinsing it and throwing it away would be just as effective. You're destroying her plumbing when you flush them, it's borderline malicious.

[–]Blue-Raft21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d start distancing myself a little gradually, she sounds like a problem that’ll just get worse the longer she’s in your life

[–]H_Crush13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

don't understand the question. she is a plate fullfilling your sexual needs? okay, don't mention cooking and shit, it's a plus but nothing of worth there. you want to uprade to fwb? why would you do that if you don't enjoy spending time with her in general? I think it's clear you don't go in a LTR so nothing to discuss there. really don't understand what you are asking here. you are fucking a more than average disturbed girl and that's it. always game other girls, have other shit going on, keep her off your mind and don't get attached

[–]inco201914 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't eat your food off broken plates, go to Ikea and buy a new one.

[–]mravek17 points18 points  (4 children) | Copy

She want's a relationship with you, also you saw something is wrong with 'her' in your mind, but the thing is when women like men, they can get 'childish' and weird, that is perfectly normal. She wants to promote herself out of 'plate' rank, to something higher. The dog thing is probably all the trauma she went with her ex, pregnancy etc. to compensate all the time she is missing some other person in her life.

Think of her as an old lonely grandma with lots of cats in her house, but more younger, fuckable and available for you. Those things may be a red flag for you, cause you don't want a partner like that for yourself, so you have all the right to keep her as a plate, even to promote her to LTR, if you wish that.

[–]LLL3peat6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is what I see. It’s also the most logical answer. Every woman who has a puppy or cat will say their pet is their baby so that’s nothing out of the ordinary. Being childish after awhile is normal. She wants more and the quarantine shows her you are her best option.

Pregnancy thing happens with people but you can always do abortion or take birth control. Names tattooed and anything means she thought they were going to be long term. Guess she lost the baby and the trauma split the two of them up.

Either way she wants some reassurance that’s she’s more than just a wet hole as she was upset you wouldn’t cuddle afterwards. It’s your choice, but she’s willing to have a baby and start a family with you no matter if it’s your choice or not. Be aware

[–]thesoloronin1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You sound a little Purple there don’t ya think? Not the part that you’re saying it empathetically, but more of the part where you don’t think the BPD signalling far outweighs whatever benefit that may be.

[–]LLL3peat0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm not sure where the BPD comes from. She wants more straight up. TRP is a means to get laid and keep it going. If you want a relationship then TRP will cause it to crash and burn. It's up to OP on what they want as it's within reason.

[–]thesoloronin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like you haven’t read a single section of the BPD chapter. I stand corrected with proof tho.

[–]betatest20204 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn’t understand your boundaries. She wants more. No need to ghost her, just spell it out again for her in words very clearly and if she can’t accept it, then say it’s best to part ways. She may have thought it was casual in the beginning but now since you’ve seen each other a lot it’s developing into something more. Since you work at the same place, don’t ghost her cause you don’t want any negative vibes being passed around about you. No need to be cruel to get your way in this relationship if you’re getting what you need out of it.

[–]Endorsed Contributorleftajar4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship, got his named tattooed on her body, got dumped, had a miscarriage, and tried to kill herself with sleeping pills.

Danger, Will Robinson.

Run, Forrest, Run!

[–]__TheDon__2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I like when dudes try to hamster their way out of shitting where they eat. “Different locations, different departments” yeah but you’re still one email away to HR from getting fired, or at the very least getting your reputation tarnished. Get rid of this chick slowly, because she’s a nutcase.

I work with some smokin hot women, and most of them are interns that are here for a few months only. I still NEVER risk it. The hottest chick in the world won’t even have me risking my money for her. Sometimes, like yourself and many others, my hamster spins and starts telling me that they’re only here now, and will be gone very soon so why not fuck with them? Then I check myself real quick and realize I’m thinking with the wrong head

Next time, don’t shit where you eat.

[–]PapiChuloxx5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a woman is into you too quickly, tries to spend all her time with you, seems to be completely selfless and only seems to be concerned with your happiness, those are red flags. If she's super generous in the bedroom right from the rip, that's also a red flag. These are all indicators that she is a low quality woman with serious baggage and you've already learned that's the case. I'm not saying a high quality woman wouldn't do all these things, but it takes time and you have to show that you're an alpha. This woman seems to know she's low quality or has a low value in the dating market due to her baggage and is treating you super nice to try and pressure/guilt you into getting into a long term relationship with her and is probably already planning to try and pressure you into marriage/children. She wants SECURITY, not you. Get out of there while you can.

[–]The1ndex6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

This isn’t a plate. She’s your girlfriend, because she’s the only girl you’re seeing, and frankly, you treat her like your girlfriend.

If she was actually a plate, you wouldn’t be posting this blanket cover up for your oneitis.

What you’re doing: worrying about what a plate is saying, and what your future prospects with her are.

What you should be doing: don’t listen to what she says, keep it to sex only, fuck other girls, let the plate break.

[–]alittletoosmooth0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Eh, he's not looking at her with rose colored glasses. He's obviously not into her other than the sex. But I agree that if he had multiple plates this wouldn't be an issue.Why? Because he would just go fuck another girl instead of complaining about this one to us. When you have options, you tend to complain less, but the tipping point where "the juice" is no longer worth "the squeeze" comes much quicker, too.

Case study: When I was in University, I had much more time on my hands and could maintain a 5 girl rotation. These days I max out at 2, but I maintain an unusually high level of IDGAF and have no problem being "alone" for a short while to "reload". Anyways, at one point I had a gal who my friends would constantly say "I would drink her dirty bath water just to taste a little bit of her ass". She was clearly the "hottest" girl of the rotation. Guys still bring her up randomly in conversation, that's how hot she was. Well, I dropped her after a few weeks. Why? Bc she didn't shave her legs as often as I liked.

[–]The1ndex-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

He is stage 1 of 4 oneitis — still slightly coherent.

Yes exactly.

[–]mrrooftops1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Signs of emotional development freezing at a certain age usually means chronic abuse that interrupts a healthy mind maturing.

[–]Huntbutt1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

"and rinse it out afterwards before wrapping it in toilet paper and flushing it!)" it fucking horrifies me that I never thought about this...I mean cmon is she really gona empty your jizz into her vag in a non sex way? That is fucked

[–]thesoloronin1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yes they would. That’s how fucked BPD women are man. They’ll squeeze them in, and then tilt their bodies up for some moment like the pile driver position.

Read up on what some of the NFL players have gone thru.

[–]Huntbutt0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

jesus christ. I will do this from now on thanks for potentially saving my life

[–]thesoloronin1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

No problem. It’s what this locker room is for. Also, I’ve edited my comment up top. Check it out.

[–]Huntbutt0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

fuck thats grim. It creeps me out thinking about someone stealing your seed like that

[–]thesoloronin0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Which is why Morpheus said, once you go down this road, there is no return. Welcome to the Real World.

[–]Huntbutt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

haha :) well thanks again

[–]notonthenews1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

During lockdown? Just shows red pill mentality.

[–]notonthenews1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ignoring lockdown makes me as dry as a dried up fig.

[–]LazerSpin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just put a mask on when going outside, bro. The cuckdown won’t holdusdown.

[–]nixon9932 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well i am not sure what your question is.She wants relationship you dont.So,move on for well being of both of you.

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[–]thesoloronin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Alright. See you in court maybe?

[–]TehJimmyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I always wonder if those kind of girls bounce back to their senses in life ever.

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship, got his named tattooed on her body, got dumped, had a miscarriage, and tried to kill herself with sleeping pills.

Like how do you fix this on yourself.

[–]solstone1090 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I would say you were acting weird. She sniffed out that you were becoming uncomfortable. Which is fair because this sounds like a woman witha alot of baggage.

But you're not okay with it. So why are you still seeing her? The more you string her along, the worse the ending is going to be for you. You know exactly what she wants. You don't want that. So why are you still seeing her?

[–]MarcusArguello0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

For pussy? Seems pretty obvious

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are talking about her like she’s a girlfriend. If you aren’t willing to commit, be ready for her to fuck other guys and flaunt it in front of you to try to make you jealous. If you react, she will have called your bluff on keeping things casual. If you don’t, she’ll keep falling in love with you. So you’re in a bind. My vote is that you have feelings for her but don’t realize it.

[–]Demolitionerx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This post can't be real, it has to be a creative writing exercise on EVERY RED FLAG TO AVOID.

[–]Logical_Insurance0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This was painful to read. Is the pussy really that good? What the fuck are you doing?

[–]Stupyyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Plate is a crazy chameleon bitch, tread carefully or you might wake up one day with your dick cut out. Finding out things like this is the biggest red flags ever and you should run. She has a secret agenda if she is spoiling like you like this, this is not normal plate behavior.

[–]Tiway220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She sounds annoying and crazy. I’d bail.

[–]Versace-Bandit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The girl asking always HOW or WHY triggered me. If a girl asks u a question and u explain, and she follows up with how/why, u re-explain, she follows up w how/why, ad infinitum.

From personal and anecdotal experience, you are going to be in 100s of arguments with this lady and they pull out all kinds of technicalities and shit.

[–]AncientDragons0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s obviously caught feels and has a history of bad decision making about pregnancy and is also not on the pill. Pretty risky situation for you, unless your condom game is all star level. I’d back out of that arrangement to be honest. She’s going to want more or make a mistake and then it will be hella awkward or even dangerous for you.

[–]spedoid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She sounds like a crazy woman, but not out of the ordinary. She got some guys name tatood and has a miscarriage. That's a red flag. But it just means she is submissive and met a cool guy and got rekt. She cooks for you? Dope. Keep her around. I laugh at how paranoid you're being with the condom but she could definitely be trying to trap you with that.

I always nut inside with no condom because it feels good man. Then again, I always talk with girls first to ensure she doesn't want to get preggers. What girl wants to get pregnant with a hookup? Only a crazy one.

Literally just talk to her. Ask her if she wants kids from you. Be honest and say you don't. From her point of view, of she is sucking you off, letting you stay over, cooking, being a good bitch, she will want a relationship. It's normal for girls to try and get the guy into a relationship. It would be wierd if she was fine with you banging her until you get bored. She is textbook female.

At least you're doing a good job by not listening to the bullshit. You can say something like we will be exclusive but I don't want a relationship. Manipulate her. Say that you had a bad breakup and don't want to repeat that. Since she had a bad breakup this will trigger her feels. At some point you have to know this was coming.

I'd say if a woman didn't ask you for a relationship it would be a sign she was fucking other people.

[–]odysseysred0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

TRP principle. Only acknowledge or respond to behaviors and conversation that you want to reward. Don't feel the need to respond to her b.s. Yes she is going to try to play emotional terrorist at some point and flood you into compliance. Just be ready to hard next if the supply of pussy your'e getting dries up or gets strings attached to it. The worst number of women is 1.

[–]LethalShade0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most likely BPD or even worst actually. Read up on the 9 BPD symptoms and see if it rings true. I definitely recognize the childish behavior from that.

The ex story and tattooing his name on her is pretty hardcore. Only proceed if you like crazy girls but it seems like it's not your cup of tea.

You're playing Russian roulette to get your dick wet, carefully read all the comments and proceed at your own risk.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's a plate, not a girlfriend. What you do with plates is enjoy the ride, accept that it's for a limited duration, and don't get butthurt when it's over.

Some plates work their way up to girlfriend, but that's up to them. Don't put them there by default.

It's over with a plate if she develops baby rabies, pressures for commitment instead of inspiring it, or misbehaves.

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship

Stopped reading here. Please familiarize yourself with the sidebar.

[–]ur8moms0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

SHE WANTS BABIES!! That’s the only thing that’s steering her actions.

[–]Grandazer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

one word : RUN

[–]Over60_FireTempered30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get your pussy while you... "fly through the air with the greatest of ease, the daring young man on the flying trapeze..."

or

...get off the trapeze.

The amazing part is how many men stayed in the circus anyway. and how entertaining they were for the rest of us.

[–]Wrote 1230 words about This One Girltakka1013-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Upto you if you want to continue fucking her , only thing is ALWAYS USE A CONDOM to fuck and flush it down the tolit or take it with you . Otherwise u will be in alot of trouble

[–]Velebit-4 points-3 points  (6 children) | Copy

She is a normal girl. Most people fuck without a condom its only a miniscule risk especially if you plan to have kids eventually and you shouldn't be fucking with people you are not ready for a tiny risk pull out method has of having a baby with.

If you hate dogs and plan to be single and non attached for a long time don't be surprised that she irks you.

Just accept it for what it is or move on. Either you decide to gf her or you fall apart when either of you gives up.

[–]mr4kino1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Normal girl? She smells like BPD from miles away.

[–]Velebit-2 points-1 points  (4 children) | Copy

Bpd is rapidly changing life direction and priorities with other instability. I knew a diagnosed bpd and she would flip all the fucking time. This one just seems clingy and needy. Which is normal.

It is sociopathic to just don't give fuck about people and use them to scratch an itch.

It is not NORMAL that a girl is aloof with a fuckbuddy and does not plan something serious or push for intimacy. Like I said, evolutionarily adaptive behavior is good (behavior that leads to a relationship and kids) and behavior that leads to becoming a genetic dead end is sick regardless of your 'personal viewpoint' (internalizing sickness).

[–]mr4kino-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Actually you are right about the BPD. I'm not sure in which category I would put her but covert narc is a possibility regarding her history. We are just lacking details. She started with the love bombing phase and now she is starting to loose patience. The doggy stuff is either an act to show she cares about animals and has a big hearts (classical covert narc move) or she is psychologically damaged from the miscarriage and lack of family (usually miscarriages happen and they are not that traumatic for girls. Abortion are). I would say we need more info on the day to day to what she is exactly but I can't agree with you that she is a normal girl. Yes there is nothing wrong with someone wanting kids and a family but her history is a huge red flag itself.

[–]Velebit-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think you are a bit paranoid. Sure a misscarriage can leave a person depressed and fucked up especially if they wanted to have a baby but that does not mean narcissism. I mean narcis is a narcis not really taking care of him by cooking and buying shit and taking a lot of care of dog that screams narcis. She obviously has a hole and wants to fill it with something but that is not a disorder.

Sure she could be acting more nurturing then usual to make herself look better but most people do that also at least a little bit. I mean people who either give up on chasing a mate or are too confortable become slobs. Its just human nature not some disorder.

I am not saying she is awesome just that nothing is really out of ordinary. What the guy is complaining is fairly normal stuff. Asking personal questions, wanting more attention and time, slowly pushing for a relationship, lacking distance with a dog. None of this is out of the ordinary. She is just a different type of person then him. Or me. I am high on disgust sensitivity and would probably be annoyed by fur and dog being in bed. But that is just my preference there are many people who are just low on disgust sensitivity.

If he does not want anything serious and hates a very doggy environment he will probably just give up on her and find another one, I think he kinda knows it and feels a little bad and wants to find some encouregement here that she must be craaaazy.

[–]mr4kino-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I agree with a lot of specific points you said but unfortunately as a whole this is the "beautiful" version. You can see from all the comments, in real life, this is hardly the case. Hence all the guys telling she has lots of red flags. It's experience speaking and not being paranoid.

[–]Velebit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well this subreddit has a strong bias towards male side of things (rightfully so) however I am just not finding her full of red flags. I find it a massive red flag that he does not want to either open up to her or even ask her about those things he heard. He is quite happy having a potential dirt on her that he can pretend he cares about.

This is objectivelly a red flag and if my female friend told me something like that I would, in their best interest tell them to stop wasting time on someone like that unless they were fine with a purely fuck buddy which she is not.

I mean if she DID get knocked up by a guy in a relationship that would mostly indicate she is shit at picking guys. 😂 however this is a circular problem because if he is awesome then its not a problem as it can't be true.

In reality they are both probably just mediocre humans with a missmatch in what they want.

[–]travlingsomewhere-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t nut in her. Bring you own condoms.

[–]2319Skew-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Crazy women have some of the best sex and you sir have struck crazy. It sounds like you already want to drop the plate. Just do it. Be careful how.

[–]TheProfitMotive-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tbh OP think you're overthinking this. She's a plate. You shouldn't be caring this much about her.

Also for a plate nothing you said about her sounds like a real problem tbh. She obviously likes u and wants more commitment from u - obvs don't have to tell u that's not a reason to drop her.

If she does something u do t like just withdraw attention for a bit and she will get the message. The continue as normal.

[–]Iluvalmonds83-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

A plate for 3 months sounds like it’s getting long in the tooth to be honest. It’s not uncommon, at this stage for them, to be checking to see if there’s anything more between you two.

You’ve described someone obviously incompatible for anything other than a plate to you. Do you have others in rotation, or have you been filling your funnel with prospects? If not, get on that immediately.

If you’re trying to keep her for a bit longer, remind her that casual is all you’re looking for. If she decides to keep on, the meetups should just be about sex(get in, fuck, leave). Keep the convo general and shallow, and text just for logistics. Ignore her sexting/immature texts. Make her a less frequent option.

The moment she acts up or has a problem with the status quo, let the plate break on her own.

[–]Standgrounding-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take someone you don't like, most likely blue pilled, and have her meet him. The ultimate revenge plan if you will.

[–]shadowq8-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

simp



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