Plate sucks a mean D, and generally buys shit for me and treats me well when I visit. But some things have come to light recently and I am wondering if I should drop her?

spartan_samurai · 2020-05-09T07:44:00+00:00

You are playing with fire here. One wrong move and you know the consequences.

Ghost if you want to save yourself with all this drama.

bradotu · 2020-05-09T09:06:52+00:00

Dude fucking run dude fucking run dude fucking run dude fucking run

trunksshortsman · 2020-05-09T05:48:24+00:00

That girl will have your kid.Then rape you in court.

SoA_MC · 2020-05-09T09:04:24+00:00

That first paragraph is like heaven and then it just goes straight to hell no inbetween

EuroNiard · 2020-05-09T05:52:38+00:00

Ngl to you, she sounds like a psychopath

McLovinReturns · 2020-05-09T08:09:43+00:00

Just say "I have a lot of personal stuff I'm dealing with and you're not ready for anyone"

This way you end it in a way where she won't end up watching you sleeping with a knife in her hand.

Get out of there man

DerpJungler · 2020-05-09T10:05:52+00:00

There's something about women getting pregnant at early ages and not settling down that makes them crazy.

Trust me, I've been with 3 single moms. Every man that is successful and high value is like gold for them. One night with them and they dream of a happy family with the fearless knight that has come to save them.

Don't commit too much dude. Her history already proves shes unstable. Next her softly or you will regret it later on.

Metalgear222 · 2020-05-09T13:56:48+00:00

If you have to wonder if you should drop a girl, DROP HER. Trust me, I learned this lesson the hard way and it wasn't pretty. Your gut is 99% right about shit like that.

thesoloronin · 2020-05-09T10:41:03+00:00

B.P.D. Run my man. RUN!

I just read that chapter about it from the sidebar last night and boy is this post timely.

Read that part. YOU NEED IT!

My ex was BPD like the 2nd-7th paragraph you wrote. Trust me. You don’t wanna deal with this. What she is capable of will even make you puke all the sex out you wished you never locked eyes with her anyway.

She sounds like The Witch in the BPD chapter. I’ll say it again. READ IT!

Source: I almost put a bullet in my head from 1.

Edit: paragraph number

violetmonstermunch · 2020-05-09T10:11:04+00:00

She wants to get pregnant from you. She already talked about not using a condom with you. In my experience, when a girl talks to you about that kind of thing, she has already tried to get pregnant by piercing condoms, getting the sperm out of the bin or something else...

Plus the fact she calls her dog her baby, it just shows her biological clock tells her "wtf bitch why don't you have a baby yet?!?"

She is also trying to turn this casual thing in a relationship, as one can clearly see with "So that's it huh, fly in and fly out?".

If you don't want a kid with her then GTFO A FUCKING SAP. Be very careful on how you break up with her because you work at the same company.

Versace-Bandit · 2020-05-09T13:35:55+00:00

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wanker7171 · 2020-05-09T15:46:17+00:00

(I always bring my own condoms and rinse it out afterwards before wrapping it in toilet paper and flushing it!)

Jesus dude. My biggest fear is a girl keeping the condom and impregnating herself with it when I leave, but this is straight up overkill. I normally wrap it in toilet paper and take it with me (in my pocket), but rinsing it and throwing it away would be just as effective. You're destroying her plumbing when you flush them, it's borderline malicious.

Blue-Raft · 2020-05-09T06:15:06+00:00

I’d start distancing myself a little gradually, she sounds like a problem that’ll just get worse the longer she’s in your life

H_Crush · 2020-05-09T08:50:57+00:00

don't understand the question. she is a plate fullfilling your sexual needs? okay, don't mention cooking and shit, it's a plus but nothing of worth there. you want to uprade to fwb? why would you do that if you don't enjoy spending time with her in general? I think it's clear you don't go in a LTR so nothing to discuss there. really don't understand what you are asking here. you are fucking a more than average disturbed girl and that's it. always game other girls, have other shit going on, keep her off your mind and don't get attached

inco2019 · 2020-05-09T09:21:04+00:00

You don't eat your food off broken plates, go to Ikea and buy a new one.

mravek · 2020-05-09T10:13:33+00:00

She want's a relationship with you, also you saw something is wrong with 'her' in your mind, but the thing is when women like men, they can get 'childish' and weird, that is perfectly normal. She wants to promote herself out of 'plate' rank, to something higher. The dog thing is probably all the trauma she went with her ex, pregnancy etc. to compensate all the time she is missing some other person in her life.

Think of her as an old lonely grandma with lots of cats in her house, but more younger, fuckable and available for you. Those things may be a red flag for you, cause you don't want a partner like that for yourself, so you have all the right to keep her as a plate, even to promote her to LTR, if you wish that.

betatest2020 · 2020-05-09T13:30:01+00:00

She doesn’t understand your boundaries. She wants more. No need to ghost her, just spell it out again for her in words very clearly and if she can’t accept it, then say it’s best to part ways. She may have thought it was casual in the beginning but now since you’ve seen each other a lot it’s developing into something more. Since you work at the same place, don’t ghost her cause you don’t want any negative vibes being passed around about you. No need to be cruel to get your way in this relationship if you’re getting what you need out of it.

leftajar · 2020-05-09T13:37:06+00:00

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship, got his named tattooed on her body, got dumped, had a miscarriage, and tried to kill herself with sleeping pills.

Danger, Will Robinson.

Run, Forrest, Run!

__TheDon__ · 2020-05-09T16:36:31+00:00

I like when dudes try to hamster their way out of shitting where they eat. “Different locations, different departments” yeah but you’re still one email away to HR from getting fired, or at the very least getting your reputation tarnished. Get rid of this chick slowly, because she’s a nutcase.

I work with some smokin hot women, and most of them are interns that are here for a few months only. I still NEVER risk it. The hottest chick in the world won’t even have me risking my money for her. Sometimes, like yourself and many others, my hamster spins and starts telling me that they’re only here now, and will be gone very soon so why not fuck with them? Then I check myself real quick and realize I’m thinking with the wrong head

Next time, don’t shit where you eat.

PapiChuloxx · 2020-05-09T11:06:47+00:00

If a woman is into you too quickly, tries to spend all her time with you, seems to be completely selfless and only seems to be concerned with your happiness, those are red flags. If she's super generous in the bedroom right from the rip, that's also a red flag. These are all indicators that she is a low quality woman with serious baggage and you've already learned that's the case. I'm not saying a high quality woman wouldn't do all these things, but it takes time and you have to show that you're an alpha. This woman seems to know she's low quality or has a low value in the dating market due to her baggage and is treating you super nice to try and pressure/guilt you into getting into a long term relationship with her and is probably already planning to try and pressure you into marriage/children. She wants SECURITY, not you. Get out of there while you can.

The1ndex · 2020-05-09T12:00:41+00:00

This isn’t a plate. She’s your girlfriend, because she’s the only girl you’re seeing, and frankly, you treat her like your girlfriend.

If she was actually a plate, you wouldn’t be posting this blanket cover up for your oneitis.

What you’re doing: worrying about what a plate is saying, and what your future prospects with her are.

What you should be doing: don’t listen to what she says, keep it to sex only, fuck other girls, let the plate break.

mrrooftops · 2020-05-09T14:44:28+00:00

Signs of emotional development freezing at a certain age usually means chronic abuse that interrupts a healthy mind maturing.

Huntbutt · 2020-05-09T14:45:04+00:00

"and rinse it out afterwards before wrapping it in toilet paper and flushing it!)" it fucking horrifies me that I never thought about this...I mean cmon is she really gona empty your jizz into her vag in a non sex way? That is fucked

notonthenews · 2020-05-09T15:45:04+00:00

During lockdown? Just shows red pill mentality.

notonthenews · 2020-05-09T15:48:40+00:00

Ignoring lockdown makes me as dry as a dried up fig.

nixon993 · 2020-05-09T10:50:11+00:00

Well i am not sure what your question is.She wants relationship you dont.So,move on for well being of both of you.

thesoloronin · 2020-05-09T13:52:38+00:00

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TehJimmyy · 2020-05-09T14:16:34+00:00

I always wonder if those kind of girls bounce back to their senses in life ever.

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship, got his named tattooed on her body, got dumped, had a miscarriage, and tried to kill herself with sleeping pills.

Like how do you fix this on yourself.

solstone109 · 2020-05-09T14:44:31+00:00

I would say you were acting weird. She sniffed out that you were becoming uncomfortable. Which is fair because this sounds like a woman witha alot of baggage.

But you're not okay with it. So why are you still seeing her? The more you string her along, the worse the ending is going to be for you. You know exactly what she wants. You don't want that. So why are you still seeing her?

_-resonance-_ · 2020-05-09T14:57:34+00:00

You are talking about her like she’s a girlfriend. If you aren’t willing to commit, be ready for her to fuck other guys and flaunt it in front of you to try to make you jealous. If you react, she will have called your bluff on keeping things casual. If you don’t, she’ll keep falling in love with you. So you’re in a bind. My vote is that you have feelings for her but don’t realize it.

Demolitionerx · 2020-05-09T15:24:34+00:00

This post can't be real, it has to be a creative writing exercise on EVERY RED FLAG TO AVOID.

Logical_Insurance · 2020-05-09T15:37:22+00:00

This was painful to read. Is the pussy really that good? What the fuck are you doing?

Stupyyy · 2020-05-09T16:18:33+00:00

Plate is a crazy chameleon bitch, tread carefully or you might wake up one day with your dick cut out. Finding out things like this is the biggest red flags ever and you should run. She has a secret agenda if she is spoiling like you like this, this is not normal plate behavior.

Tiway22 · 2020-05-09T17:07:37+00:00

She sounds annoying and crazy. I’d bail.

Versace-Bandit · 2020-05-09T17:26:06+00:00

The girl asking always HOW or WHY triggered me. If a girl asks u a question and u explain, and she follows up with how/why, u re-explain, she follows up w how/why, ad infinitum.

From personal and anecdotal experience, you are going to be in 100s of arguments with this lady and they pull out all kinds of technicalities and shit.

AncientDragons · 2020-05-09T17:54:31+00:00

She’s obviously caught feels and has a history of bad decision making about pregnancy and is also not on the pill. Pretty risky situation for you, unless your condom game is all star level. I’d back out of that arrangement to be honest. She’s going to want more or make a mistake and then it will be hella awkward or even dangerous for you.

spedoid · 2020-05-09T18:19:37+00:00

She sounds like a crazy woman, but not out of the ordinary. She got some guys name tatood and has a miscarriage. That's a red flag. But it just means she is submissive and met a cool guy and got rekt. She cooks for you? Dope. Keep her around. I laugh at how paranoid you're being with the condom but she could definitely be trying to trap you with that.

I always nut inside with no condom because it feels good man. Then again, I always talk with girls first to ensure she doesn't want to get preggers. What girl wants to get pregnant with a hookup? Only a crazy one.

Literally just talk to her. Ask her if she wants kids from you. Be honest and say you don't. From her point of view, of she is sucking you off, letting you stay over, cooking, being a good bitch, she will want a relationship. It's normal for girls to try and get the guy into a relationship. It would be wierd if she was fine with you banging her until you get bored. She is textbook female.

At least you're doing a good job by not listening to the bullshit. You can say something like we will be exclusive but I don't want a relationship. Manipulate her. Say that you had a bad breakup and don't want to repeat that. Since she had a bad breakup this will trigger her feels. At some point you have to know this was coming.

I'd say if a woman didn't ask you for a relationship it would be a sign she was fucking other people.

odysseysred · 2020-05-09T18:26:05+00:00

TRP principle. Only acknowledge or respond to behaviors and conversation that you want to reward. Don't feel the need to respond to her b.s. Yes she is going to try to play emotional terrorist at some point and flood you into compliance. Just be ready to hard next if the supply of pussy your'e getting dries up or gets strings attached to it. The worst number of women is 1.

LethalShade · 2020-05-09T18:41:53+00:00

Most likely BPD or even worst actually. Read up on the 9 BPD symptoms and see if it rings true. I definitely recognize the childish behavior from that.

The ex story and tattooing his name on her is pretty hardcore. Only proceed if you like crazy girls but it seems like it's not your cup of tea.

You're playing Russian roulette to get your dick wet, carefully read all the comments and proceed at your own risk.

Whisper · 2020-05-09T19:00:52+00:00

She's a plate, not a girlfriend. What you do with plates is enjoy the ride, accept that it's for a limited duration, and don't get butthurt when it's over.

Some plates work their way up to girlfriend, but that's up to them. Don't put them there by default.

It's over with a plate if she develops baby rabies, pressures for commitment instead of inspiring it, or misbehaves.

cfbovernfl · 2020-05-09T19:19:21+00:00

However some things I have learnt are that she got pregnant 5 years ago with a guy who was already in a relationship

Stopped reading here. Please familiarize yourself with the sidebar.

ur8moms · 2020-05-09T11:08:47+00:00

SHE WANTS BABIES!! That’s the only thing that’s steering her actions.

Grandazer · 2020-05-09T11:38:39+00:00

one word : RUN

Over60_FireTempered3 · 2020-05-09T12:59:07+00:00

Get your pussy while you... "fly through the air with the greatest of ease, the daring young man on the flying trapeze..."

or

...get off the trapeze.

The amazing part is how many men stayed in the circus anyway. and how entertaining they were for the rest of us.

takka1013 · 2020-05-09T10:07:41+00:00

Upto you if you want to continue fucking her , only thing is ALWAYS USE A CONDOM to fuck and flush it down the tolit or take it with you . Otherwise u will be in alot of trouble

Velebit · 2020-05-09T10:19:57+00:00

She is a normal girl. Most people fuck without a condom its only a miniscule risk especially if you plan to have kids eventually and you shouldn't be fucking with people you are not ready for a tiny risk pull out method has of having a baby with.

If you hate dogs and plan to be single and non attached for a long time don't be surprised that she irks you.

Just accept it for what it is or move on. Either you decide to gf her or you fall apart when either of you gives up.

travlingsomewhere · 2020-05-09T10:38:07+00:00

Don’t nut in her. Bring you own condoms.

319Skew · 2020-05-09T11:56:35+00:00

Crazy women have some of the best sex and you sir have struck crazy. It sounds like you already want to drop the plate. Just do it. Be careful how.

TheProfitMotive · 2020-05-09T12:02:24+00:00

Tbh OP think you're overthinking this. She's a plate. You shouldn't be caring this much about her.

Also for a plate nothing you said about her sounds like a real problem tbh. She obviously likes u and wants more commitment from u - obvs don't have to tell u that's not a reason to drop her.

If she does something u do t like just withdraw attention for a bit and she will get the message. The continue as normal.

Iluvalmonds83 · 2020-05-09T13:03:42+00:00

A plate for 3 months sounds like it’s getting long in the tooth to be honest. It’s not uncommon, at this stage for them, to be checking to see if there’s anything more between you two.

You’ve described someone obviously incompatible for anything other than a plate to you. Do you have others in rotation, or have you been filling your funnel with prospects? If not, get on that immediately.

If you’re trying to keep her for a bit longer, remind her that casual is all you’re looking for. If she decides to keep on, the meetups should just be about sex(get in, fuck, leave). Keep the convo general and shallow, and text just for logistics. Ignore her sexting/immature texts. Make her a less frequent option.

The moment she acts up or has a problem with the status quo, let the plate break on her own.

Standgrounding · 2020-05-09T13:10:04+00:00

Take someone you don't like, most likely blue pilled, and have her meet him. The ultimate revenge plan if you will.

shadowq8 · 2020-05-09T15:05:14+00:00

simp

Vofz · 2020-05-09T05:41:42+00:00

Oneitis didn't read

Title	Plate sucks a mean D, and generally buys shit for me and treats me well when I visit. But some things have come to light recently and I am wondering if I should drop her?
Author	1yuan
Upvotes	67
Comments	107
Date	09 May 2020 05:37 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/661799
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/gg9ov3/plate_sucks_a_mean_d_and_generally_buys_shit_for/