Just got dumped minutes ago by LTR. How to respond?

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May 9, 2020
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So after more than a month of tension and silent treatment from her, today she texted me asking if I'm keeping something of her, to which I said "Yes, shall I bring it to you now?" to which she dropped this message: "I don't want to be in a relationship right now bla bla"

I didn't respond because I'm considering TWO OPTIONS:

1- NO response at all.

2- A text with something along the line of "OK!"

So, please, my redpilled brothers, I need to hear your opinions how to respond to her message. I am not denying that right now I am fucking heart broken and overwhelmed with sadness. You can roast me all you want, just give me your hands because that's what men do - we lift each other up.

Big thanks.

UPDATE: So I went full silence ever since, and after a few hours, the bitch shot me another text saying: "I don't want to really cut things off completely between the two of us, but I am still confused to choose the right path to take right now. I guess you're the kind of guy who will choose full commitment or nothing."


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Title Just got dumped minutes ago by LTR. How to respond?
Author manfrombelow
Upvotes 81
Comments 155
Date 09 May 2020 12:31 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/662192
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ggen99/just_got_dumped_minutes_ago_by_ltr_how_to_respond/
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[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (8 children) | Copy

NO CONTACT

  1. It lets her stew allowing you to sit back content in the knowledge her rationalization hamster is in overdrive.
  2. Gives you much needed time to digest what happened and get your shit together.
  3. No contact means deleting her from social media, blocking her phone number, you name it. There should be no way for you two to have contact beyond showing up at someone's home. house.

edit: Seeing the update this is beta bait if there ever was one. This is when they try to take power back and end things on their terms by. The best possible outcome for YOU is to downgrade her to a plate at best and broom here when you've got someone better to replace her with. Just know that even if you do this, you're just as liable to find her trying to NEXT you in such a way to regain the power.

She already tipped her hand so the ball is in your court. We've told you what to watch out for and it's only up to you to decide if there's more upside than downside to trying to kepe things going with her.

[–]TheRedPillRipper116 points117 points  (7 children) | Copy

we lift each other up

When you lift yourself up first. First you’ve given little context. Apart from a month of silence you haven’t stated much. So I’ll lay it out generally;

  1. No response; don’t respond if you’re cool with it ending this way. If you have obligations/property that needs to be addressed/returned then;

  2. A text; addressing said obligations or logistics for property. That’s it.

An example of said text would be; ”No worries. Your stuff will be with my doorman if you want it. All the best.” Any communication further than logistics is unnecessary because she’s proven herself unworthy of you. Focus this time, energy and pain toward someone more worthy; yourself.

Godspeed and good luck!

[–]manfrombelow[S] 46 points47 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is fucking gold. Thank you so much brother. I need this. I really need this right now. THANK YOU!

[–]johncillo9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes! This comment is gold, she will try to talk about your relationship but do not fall into the trap, only logistics, even if what she says makes you mad. Try to be rational and mature on this.

[–]Talinor0929 points30 points  (5 children) | Copy

Look i’m assuming you got dumped over text because of lockdown.

Here’s the deal. 1. It’s over there’s no going back. 2. Even if she wants to try again, she fractured the relationship because of some heavy heavy doubts, lack of attraction/respect for you. Be cognisant of this. 3. If she’s wanting to get back with you it’s because her CURRENT options are limited. They won’t always be, meaning she’ll branch swing as soon as she meets a hot guy who gives her the tingles and is compatible. 4. Regardless how she ended it, at least she gave you notice and (hopefully) didn’t cheat.

It sucks balls, but suck it in, accept it, be polite, return her stuff and cut contact asap. If you are strong enough to unfollow her social media without looking at her page then do so. If you think you’ll give into temptation then just block her. Just tell her you need some time and block.

The quicker you can eliminate all communication and forms of hope the faster you’ll heal. If the break up took you by surprise and hurt you then there’s zero chance of a successful reunion anytime soon. You’d have to get over her completely by which time you should have moved on.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 32 points33 points  (4 children) | Copy

Got it.

1- Show NO emotions.

2- Don't be needy, clingy and weak.

3- Return her stuff.

4- Go No Contact.

5- Accept it's fucking over and move on.

Thank you brother!

[–]Talinor0917 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s not about not showing emotions. You can tell her you had a good run or whatever. The point isn’t to be a robot, it’s just not to be a needy little bitch.

You’re taking it as a man, cool calm and collected. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting inside but as the man you will always carry the burden of performance. End things cordially and at the very least she’ll respect you. Cry like a girl and beg for her back and she’ll feel disdain/disgust.

My best advice for you now (other than no contact) is to set a really challenging goal. The more physical the better. For most guys this is something like getting absolutely ripped. Go way outside your comfort zone and live differently for a while. Even if it means getting your ass handed to you in a mma cage, at least you’ll feel alive.

[–]Ill_mumble_that6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is it right here. But not ironically.

https://youtu.be/T9W_jW4e_uY

[–]manfrombelow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahaha thank you. This is fucking priceless.

[–]1HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It should be this way:

  1. Pack up and leave her stuff in front of your place in a box

  2. Shoot her a text "Your stuff will be in a box in front of my apartment. They'll be available for pickup by Monday before 3pm"

  3. No contact from there. Refer to my other comment on your post.

[–]1DullIntroduction24 points25 points  (8 children) | Copy

Commenting on your update :

Her dumping you is her trying to leverage her position right now by keeping you as a provider. You called her bluff by withdrawing completly, which causes her to backpedal. One thing is sure : the lost respect is never coming back.

Demote to plate, find others. If she causes drama, ghost.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

I wouldn't even plate her just dump her, the line she wrote "I guess you're the kind of guy who will choose full commitment or nothing" is alarming. Sounds like she's trying to bait him into an open relationship so she can fuck a bunch of new people. Plating her is only going to bring him psychological torture, wondering how many other guys she's fucking, how many threesomes she's doing, what kind of footage she's been in, whether he knows the other guy. Don't need that stuff rotting the brain, better to just move on.

[–]1DullIntroduction0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

First, watch her actions, don't listen to her words. Second, who cares who she fucks, she's no longer a LTR, she's a plate.

There's no "baiting him into an open relationship" with a plate because plating isn't monogamous by definition.

[–]1HurricaneHugues9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're saying all this from an outsider perspective. OP is fresh out of the relationship, still in his feelings, on AskTRP asking for help. He's very clearly in no psychological place to be handling any of what you're saying. The best option is to move on and cut her off completely so that he can build up his frame.

[–]1DullIntroduction0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed, the no contact part is obvious, and was already in several of the top comments. I'm commenting on OP's update, and what could be after this period of withdrawal and recovery.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's no "baiting him into an open relationship" with a plate because plating isn't monogamous by definition

The point is his girlfriend is itching to get back on the market and sample new dicks. Why give this girl who is openly disrespecting you any more of your time? Plenty of other girls out there, I don't see the point in hanging around this girl anymore it just sounds like a headache.

[–]1DullIntroduction-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a plate, used only for sex. We're not talking about hanging around or doing things together. She comes over, they bang, she gets out.

I see it more like she gives out her much more limited time, and she gives out her sexuality, with no commitment in exchange.

[–]1HurricaneHugues3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If there's respect loss, there can't be any plating. Be firm all the way, or just be a bitch.

[–]CasaDeFranco0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn't demote to plate, she's decided to exit his life, he should indulge her.

[–]throwitdownman17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’ve never seen a girl dump a man without having a backup plan in place. It’s called branch swinging for a reason.

Either she is already seeing someone else, or has gone wild with her girl friends and want to do it again without the burden of a relationship. Regardless women here face a choice - either trickle truth the real reason she’s leaving, or distort reality making the man feel like HE is at fault.

Forget about her - this includes replying to her, talking to her, or thinking about her. Think about yourself and be selfish. Working on yourself and talking to whoever you feel like talking to will help your heart recover.

[–]aesky7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve never seen a girl dump a man without having a backup plan in place. It’s called branch swinging for a reason.

being a girl, dicks fall from the sky left and right

my ex ltr once just straight up told me non chalantly 'my girlfriend is asking if i'm seeing someone because this dude asked her'

i just loled

[–]spartan_samurai14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

'That's cool with me' should be the reply.

Don't interect too much with her from now on and go full silence.

As she said

"I don't want to really cut things off completely between the two of us

Don't even think about getting back with her, she might offer you friendship now so she don't feel guilty for dumping you. So deny all her sweet offers to make you her lifetime orbiter.

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[–]manfrombelow[S] 16 points17 points  (11 children) | Copy

Yeah my bro, I just purchased a bunch of Stoic books on Amazon kindle just because you mentioned being "stoic" here. This is my golden chance to better and improve myself both physically, emotionally and mentally. Btw can you please take a look at my "updated" part?

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[–]manfrombelow[S] 14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

Got it. I'll fucking send it to her by post tomorrow and that's fucking it.

[–]myfirsttimecoding7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP if you do exactly what the guy you just replied to said you will come out on top. Post her shit to her and know any minutes you spend thinking of this girl is just a hindrance to you achieving bigger and better things. She will go crazy and you will always be the one who ‘got away’ but do not succumb to her manipulative messages. She will start behaving right and being all cute or even the opposite and turn into a total bitch. It doesn’t matter anymore. Your turn is over and your test is now to direct your full energy to progress.

[–]aesky22 points23 points  (5 children) | Copy

she's baiting you on staying friends. do not do that. it will just confirm to her your chumpness.

to be honest, the less you say the better. you can only fuck youself by talking more

edit: and you were dumped a month ago.. you just chose not to realise or were too naive

[–]ProFriendZoner2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Friends ... that means we don't fuck anymore, right?"- Sam Kinison

[–]alphaonthecomeup3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Still no response for now. Let her hamster continue to spin. Just leave it alone

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[–]Alcatraz-121 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

what did he say

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[–]whispering_pilot1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why it did got removed?

[–]Alcatraz-120 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

why did his comment get removed then

[–]TRPCops[M] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Too many reports. I restored it

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you for the restoration. I am sorry for any incovenience I caused. All the best.

[–]AshyLarry279 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I would have just said "ok" or even "that's fine, it wasn't really working for me either and I didn't know how to tell you." Then just slowly fade away. Delayed responses to texts, then eventual no responses. Move on. Don't play the "now how do I make her jealous" game. It will just backfire on you because you will invest more mental energy in her and possibly make you more attatched to her.

Remember the opposite of love is not hate, it's indiffrence. The greatest revenge you can get is simply moving on from her as if she was nothing special to begin with and easy to get over. I don't think anything turns a girl upside down than that, than acting like she was just another regular boring girl. Her hamster will be burning a ton of calories trying to figure out why you were so chill and indiffrent about the break up

[–]1HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Big facts, that absence in attention and recognition will leave a huge hole in her soul that no amount of dicks or expensive gifts can ever fill.

[–]Red_Raze8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Alright, good luck."

That's all.

[–]Jacked5parrow6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

An “ok” would suffice. Be a man and take it head on. But that doesn’t mean whine cry and beg for her to stay with you. That makes it worse. Just an “ok, take care” will do the trick.

She’s either has another guy in mind or has more important things to worry about. Being that this is RP in 2020 we’ll go with the another guy scenario.

Give it a month, she’ll miss you. Text you and you will respond and will lead to “I miss you I didn’t want this” and try to get back together. This is the hard part; you will have to say No. you will want to say yes because we have feelings and are human. We’re creature of habit. But saying Yes will say “hey you can go fuck around with no repercussions I am your bitch). Make your word your bond.

In the time of your separation you’ll have to put the pedal to the metal and make yourself into some sort of higher self. Whether it’s physically, mentally, financially, spiritually, or all of the above. There are ALWAYS other females out there that will be interested. And even better, they won’t question “if they want to be in a relationship” because your high value will make it fun, life easier, and overall taken care.

So keep it short, keep your word, be a better you, and read as much of the sidebar as possible

[–]manfrombelow[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you. I have decided to stay silent. And yes, this trauma is in fact a blessing in disguise for me because it gives me the chance to make me a much better version of myself. Take care, brother!

[–]Jacked5parrow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You too friend. Steady on your path

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Girl: This just isn’t working for me.

You: I totally understand. I have really enjoyed our time together and best of luck to you.

Then ignore her unless she contacts you and do 100% of the chasing and pursuing

[–]1HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's nothing to continue beyind that text message. Moving on is the best option. Don't be desperate for pussy. Other girls exist.

[–]alfred3119 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I also experienced this, my oneitis ignore me for a month, holding sex and when i finally asked her whats going on she told me she wants time alone, i told her ok just contact me whenever your ready, after a month she text me breaking up saying it's for the better and all the bullshit, first i didnt respond but i sound like butthurt so i text her telling her i understand and thanks for everything and hopefully i can see her for the last time. The bitch didnt even reply until after 3 days when she told me she doesn't want to see me and its all for the best. I regret telling her that I still want to see her, makes me weak and a total loser.

So my advice is just txt her the usual I understand and thanks for everything, nothing more nothing less. I know the feeling of heartbreak, cant even sleep at night, this what brought me to red pill. Just move on, surely shes having sex with someone to a guy who doenst give a shit about her, you dont want her back, just be the best version of yourself.

[–]tacosattack0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't beat yourself up, you're human not a robot. I met up with my ex-LTR after a breakup once just to keep things civil and to make sure she wasn't planning on burning my house down.

[–]Huntbutt3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

dont text her anything. then when she hits you up ignore her and leave it at that

[–]PpcUserNowI8 points9 points  (20 children) | Copy

Find another girl but nurse your wounds first bro

[–]manfrombelow[S] 5 points6 points  (19 children) | Copy

Thank you. It fucking hurts.

[–]PpcUserNowI2 points3 points  (18 children) | Copy

The way things are going i am starting to think there is no such thing as a long term woman

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[–]flying_cacoon3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sorry to highjack your commebt but i am Indian and was in a denial that indian women are trustworthy... No man after 2 breakups I did realisr that feminism has its inpact real hard...

[–]Longgbottom0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Mate I'm new to RP, can you tell me where do I look to make the CC obvious to me in Indian context. The women have wrong sense of entitlement and everything but it just seems like they clutch their leg tighter than their purses (or I might not be attractive). Either way I would like your insight that would help lose my BP days behind me.

[–]flying_cacoon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude the first thing you have already done by joining TRP subreddit.I tremendously helped me through my two relationships.the term usually used in TRP is 'AWALT' that means All Women Are The Same.and tbh it is damn true.Women are not worth any penny and it shows through some cultures.in middle east women dont have any real authority.It was same for all cultures in past but western culture gave so much importance and freedom to women and shit happned.for Indian context just read 'Chanakya Neeti' Chanakya was a topmost scholar of history in India.the material is available on internet for free.in his literature there was a section for women.do read that.it was very enlightful for me to read that.He has given all the do's and dont's for handling women.

[–]PpcUserNowI1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy

Which countries would those be

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[–]flying_cacoon4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck Indian women.... They are like all want to copy highend feminism from west nowadays.... Gone those pre historic days mate . ....

[–]mr4kino2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Holy moly... All the countries you cited are some of the worse for men. Japan is a holy ground for SAHM that enslaves their husbands. Yes, they all appear very docile but they are even worse than western women. India, well what to say about India, the number of false rape accusations, and the entitlement of Indian women is through the roof. Just read the comments from India guys and you will understand what is going on in India. It's simp'in land.Cambodia and Philipines, great countries for prostitution. And that's about it.Slavic women, same as the one before, if you think they are faithful or whatever, you would be living in dreamland. I've met lot of those and they are also worse than the Western one: They believe in traditional role for the women (so she will do nothing, just nails, gym, instathoting, "sahm", etc) and expect you to kill yourself for her as the "alpha" and divorce rape you at the first occasion.Middle Eastern, I did a very long comment on those ones (you can find it in my comment history), I lived there long and it's the only one where you can still find some unicorns (and again it's infected with BPD, NPD and other types of cluster B. Mind you some of those girls will be wearing a full face and body veil (niqab). Which is a disaster as you are completely tricked).

TL;DR you are delusional and I just hope for you that you don't learn it the hard way.

[–]-DeadLock1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit. Spitting truth here.

[–]nightdecoder0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How about north fucking korea women?

[–]mr4kino0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hahahahaha, no freaking clue mate.

[–]-DeadLock0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You are delusional man. Slavic women are massive whores. Other cultures you mentioned not much better.

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[–]-DeadLock0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im not even going to reply to all that. You can come up with as much cultural pseudoscience as you want.. i doubt it will work out for you in the end and I hope you realize the only thing you can control is your own quality as a male. Shopping somewhere else wont change your value forever.

[–]ihateyouguys0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ridiculous. Your women, and your relationship to them, is a direct reflection of yourself. Quit acting like a victim of your circumstances it’s BPAF

[–]Wrath_of_Trump3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I guess you're the kind of guy who will choose full commitment or nothing.

she found someone else. don't respond and don't be angry. just say "that's fine" and leave it there. if she wants to text you in a month, you decide what you want to do with it. don't give her your emotion and don't drop everything you're doing to get back to her. she's 5th in line.

[–]MisterRoid14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

"Yes, shall I bring it to you now?"

There's the explanation why it ended. You are acting like a servant. In a healthy relationship it's the other way around.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Alright, so how do I respond?

[–]MisterRoid13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

I would not dignify that text with a response. So don't answer at all. If she actually calls you just say "okay" and leave it at that. Getting into a discussion is pointless. Even if you want feedback for future relationships it's pointless to ask a girl for it because she will only spew out a bunch of bullshit.

[–]Ill_mumble_that1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

feedback for future relationships

Lol that would actually be hilarious if he sent her one of those forms to "Rate this relationship"

On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied were you with this relationship prior to the breakup. Mark 1 for not satisfied, 10 for Very satisfied.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely are you to recommend OP for a relationship and/or sexual relations to others?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how well do you think you satisfied OP in this relationship prior to breakup?

Please provide any additional comments or feedback you'd like to recommend OP for future relationships with other women.

[–]tacosattack0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That is brilliant. I'd keep a few printed copies ready to hand out.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Guys, a light bulb just shone inside my head:

When she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, what the bitch ACTUALLY meant was that she doesn't want to be in a relationship WITH ME right now. Which means, right now, she is very likely to be sucking Chad's cock, who knows!

Man, I learned a lot more about women from this fucking trauma!

[–]mr4kino1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

That is correct and you would become a backup plan with benefits.

Also, you handled this well. Keep up this good spirit and concentrate on yourself now. I know it hurts but this is how you become a man. You can't become one without hardships.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you brother. Pain makes men. It's the truth.

[–]2319Skew2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck. I love the comments here. OP it sucks to be heart broken but think of it like this...

She walked away. You now can upgrade to a new better model.

[–]notonthenews2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't spoil the next one too much, just enough.

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

How to respond? Forget about her and go out and fuck some bitches asap. Show her how little she was to you in the grand scheme of things.

[–]ay-fuh-q2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I don't want to be in a relationship right now bla bla"

This is the same thing as a girl asking for space, time, or a break. She's already swallowing other cum but doesn't want you to disappear in case that guy doesn't work out.

UPDATE: So I went full silence ever since, and after a few hours, the bitch shot me another text saying: "I don't want to really cut things off completely between the two of us, but I am still confused to choose the right path to take right now. I guess you're the kind of guy who will choose full commitment or nothing."

Shaming tactic. You're supposed to be her little bitch who waits around to see if she can or cannot lock down the other dude by how much cum she drains from his balls. If he doesn't work out, you'll be there still, "right shmoopie?"

She's a lost cause, as an LTR. Only continue with her if you can plate her (but most guys can't make that transition and that's ok).

[–]zboo1h2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep silent, whether or not you want to have this creature around.

Meanwhile, what the fuck are you doing for yourself? Who do you really care about? Who should you care about?

[–]IXseed2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Whenever a bitch tells me she needs time, I hit her in the face with a calendar and say 'Well, now you have all the time.'."

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Likewise, when a bitch says she needs space, I give her the entire fucking universe.

[–]nightdecoder2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man its over months ago, move the fuck on. You are now dead to her so be a ghost and hard fucking next her

[–]Tambamwham2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bro. That last sentence is right. Learn how to game. Learn how to plate. Let her be training or a way to gain experience. Have abundance mentality. Don’t be butt hurt and let her be a fuck buddy. Let the other guy meet her emotional needs. Stick and move like sugar ray.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Roger that, brother! Thank you.

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[–]manfrombelow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got it, brother. All the best!

[–]VadimDestroyer2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You may find over 999999 excuses to get her back but there is no way back. Just know it. Be strong and control yourself, you will feel much better in 3-6 months but now it will be hell

[–]Don_Draper272 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Probably repeating the other 207 comments but at this point (after the update) there's absolutely no relationship. From this moment on she's not in a relationship with you anymore. She's going to start seeing other guys (she's probably doing this already) and maybe she'll see you when she needs comfort or all the other dudes are busy.

Face it, this is unsalvageable. Sorry dude, I know you're hurting inside but the only option for you is to read the sidebar.

A great mindset to have is what Joe Rogan says so pretend that your life is like the movie Limitless. You're in a slump and your life is shit but the character in your movie (you) wakes up one day and decides to fix their life.

Journal your thoughts. I low-key keep a "diary" where when I feel emotional or depressed I just write down a fucking rant or victim puke for myself and I always feel better after. It's always a good fucking laugh reading these back when I'm over whatever I was tripping about.

Meditate for sure absolutely. If you can do 1 thing during your day make sure it's meditation. Get a 10 day streak going with 10-15 minutes per session and I promise you will feel more content.

If you can do 1 more thing during your whole day if you do nothing else then fucking lift.

[–]1HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Didn't read anything but your title.

Delete her phone number and her text thread. Delete her photos and videos from your phone. Delete her and her 3 closest friends off your social media. You're not allowed to talk or text her anymore in this lifetime. Get a good workout in. Look into picking up 1 or 2 new hobbies to keep yourself busy and on the path forward . And finally, give yourself sone time to move on and "heal".

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thanks bro. Yeah some stupid moderator decided to go on a power trip to remove my post randomly.

So my LTR decides to end things via text after a month of tension and silent treatment. I didn't reply and after that she texted me another one saying she doesn't wanna "completely cuts things between us but she is confused bla bla" to which I went full silence too.

All the best.

[–]1HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The mod didn't delete anything. I just didn't bother read it.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He did removed it and later restored it.

[–]gbnz872 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I dont know how long you were together but someone breaking up over text just shows weak character. Even if you are in a place that has a stay at home order they could of waited or done a call or video call at bare minimum. Id see it as a red flag and it would be a pretty big turn off for me.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When this happened the lockdown order had already been lifted in our area. Thank you brother!

[–]axiscontra2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn bro I feel your pain. I'm never good with this shit. I'm emotional af. There's no reason to try to game the system anymore, (fuck a downgrade) She's no longer LTR material. Take your loss. Normally, I vent to them, talk shit, and do whatever I feel like will make me feel better. Just don't let her take anymore from you. Also FYI, she broke up with you a month ago, and she's already moved on (if not cheated) and found alternatives (at least mentally). Dont validate her any further. Take some of your energy back fuck her head up bro. God Speed.

Edit: this is going take take a few days to boil over unless your mentally strong enough for no contact and block her on everything. Be ready for anonymous calls and texts tho. she seems like she has it in her. dont give her shit back either. Tell her to go to court for it lmfao. also edit: typos

[–]SteveSan822 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why respond? I'm sure she already branch swinged. Plus she sounds like a pain in the ass.

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Listen, and listen carefully.

Drink your cup of STFU

Wash it down with some more STFU

And don't forget to STFU

You'll do yourself a huge favor that you're not aware of right now, your future self will thank you big time

edit: god I wish someone told me that in the past, it’s almost tattoo worthy

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[–]manfrombelow[S] 7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Got it. So no fucking response and that's just it.

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[–]shyrix4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No mention of ages, but i love the fact you said get younger and better. Younger is always better. Lol

[–]Free_Push0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Disagree completely. That just makes you sound butt hurt. Your second option sounds way better. A simple OK! Let me know when you want to come by and get your stuff.

Definitely don't bring it to her. She didn't have the respect for you to do this in person, she can get her stuff herself.

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[–]brianmcg3211 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

This. No response at all will drive her nuts.

Op, drop off her crap and just leave.

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[–]brianmcg3211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

True

[–]manfrombelow[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I just threw her shit in the trash can lol. If she wants nothing to do with me anymore, she'll have nothing from me. Literally nothing.

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[–]manfrombelow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

HAHA LOL alright I'm sorry. I'm gonna take it out the trash can right now. Now I'm considering sending it to her through the post or leave it at my apartment building's receptionist so she can come pick her shit up herself.

Btw, brothers, can you please take a look at the UPDATED part that I just wrote and help me out?

[–]FinancialThanks13 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Doesn’t really matter. Delete her number

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So, no responses at all?

[–]manfrombelow[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

UPDATE: So I went full silence ever since, and after a few hours, the bitch shot me another text saying: "I don't want to really cut things off completely between the two of us, but I am still confused to choose the right path to take right now. I guess you're the kind of guy who will choose full commitment or nothing."

So, my redpilled brothers from another mother, what the fuck does this mean and how the fuck am I gonna respond to it? Still full silence or what? Haha this is fucking hillarious.

[–]alphaonthecomeup5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s done. She made her choice. Now she is asking if she can still be your friend and get support from you without fucking.

Again, leave that alone as well.

It’s better to leave a relationship with balls than being a coward. Don’t take her up on the offer of friendship right now, go through your feelings. It’s gonna hurt, just survive this and hopefully you’ll be a better man for it. I’m sorry yo.

[–]thebravefool20192 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's trying to have her cake and eat it too. She doesnt want to commit to cutting shit off and wants to keep you on the backburner. Keep ignoring her and focus on yourself. Read, lift weights, get hobbies whatever you do don't respond to this girl. She wanted to break up so let her go.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Reverse Uno card, haha. Perfect.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man! At a time like this, I really am glad I have you here, my redpilled brothers whom I've never even met. I'm literally crying right now not because of being heart-broken (I am), but because of the way you guys are fucking reaching out to help me out. This is what the redpilled community is all about. Thank you guys.

[–]SoA_MC1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Did you reply to the second one or stayed silent? In this situation I think she’d read your silence as butthurt and trying to act cold and like you dgaf

[–]manfrombelow[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

No I did not reply to both of her messages.

Who gives a fuck what she thinks now anyway?

[–]SoA_MC-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’d send a short text back to acknowledge the situation. I’d rather she didn’t think I was butthurt, but that’s just me

[–]manfrombelow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Once again, who gives a fuck what she thinks once she no longer wants to have anything to do with you? Thanks for the input anyway.

[–]vicious_armbar1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I don't really want to cut things completely off between us, but I'm confused which path to take right now..."

Translation: I've got one foot out of the door and I'm looking for something better. But I want to string you along as a backup plan incase things don't work out. Will you be my beta orbiter?

[–]zephenrage1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So women don’t exit relationships unless they have their next one secured (mostly secured.) so if she was giving you silent treatment for a month it means that she was interested in someone or talking to them. I’m sure that something significant happened giving her the confidence to end it with you. Your silence made her second guess herself though because she expected you to beg but since you didn’t that conveyed strength on your part which temporarily made her reconsider her choice. If you ever find yourself in an in-person interaction with her ever again don’t act bummed out and look her dead in the eye when you speak to her.

[–]comcain1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No contact.

Cheers

[–]TheStumblingWolf1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her message translates to: my attraction is not all there. I want to see if I can do better but I want you to hang around in case I fail, and I also want you to try and persuade me to stay with you to boost my ego.

Drop her, would be my advice.

Also: don't apologize for your feelings. They're your feelings. A reflection of where you are in life right now. Nothing wrong with that. We're all on life's path somewhere. As long as you take lessons from all of this that can help your future self.

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After a month of silence breakup should have been assumed. I just wouldn’t have responded and just sent whatever shit she has to her place via 10 day fedex.

[–]alphaonthecomeup2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yo for now just don’t respond. Respond later or never, for now put the phone down and process it. Just do not confirm it by saying it okay. Or any dumb shit.

Best to leave it alone. Fr

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You respond with thank you and then you go off and find one of the other 3.7 billion girls who might actually like you.

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[–]MisterRoid1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Treating the break up as a game where you win if you break up first is pretty pathetic, though. Besides, even if you are a beta in a bad relationship that's better than being a beta who's single and not getting laid because at least you get valuable experience and get to benefit from pre-selection while you are in the relationship.

So the rational course of action in a broken LTR is to date other women and use your existing relationship for pre-selection.

[–]manfrombelow[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

So no need to respond?

[–]clickherebaby5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

My fucking god dude thats literally the only advice given. Why are you asking over and over again?

[–]btrpb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. Fucking. Response.

[–]alphaonthecomeup1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yo I know it doesn’t seem like it but right now. No response is the best response.

Don’t confirm shit. Just play it cool.

[–]Ironic_Gangster0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Okie dokie artichokie"

[–]rayboomboom0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Paaarrtaaaaayyyy

[–]fpuen0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I disagree with some of the tactical considerations being put forth, specifically wanting her to hamster. That's beta shit, trying to backdoor find ways to wound her back, or get her to think about you. You don't need that, you have your own life to run.

[–]lolomotif120 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

No response at all, ghost, delete, block.

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[–]lolomotif121 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Who cares what she thinks? This guys having a hard time, the less he sees of her the better it is for him so blocking her from social media will help him while he mends. Fuck what she thinks, this is about him not her.

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[–]lolomotif120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes but you're missing the point. She is irrelevant to his life, she is gone. Why waste energy and try to make her feel a certain way by doing something that is not benefiting you in anyway. This man is deeply upset by the breakup and he should take every step necessary to make his life easier first, he is the priority. Once he is healed and not phased by her then he can go ahead and unblock her if he so wishes and then she can see how good he has been doing. Let's agree to disagree.

[–]BusterVadge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No response would be good... OR "Okay, best of luck" would be decent responses. Don't give her anything. She will probably want "closure" which is just her chance to feel justified in ending the relationship. Don't give it to her.

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